Aihal
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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir Perhaps words are being placed in your mouth because you are choosing not to be clear in what you mean. If we are talking about lesser authority, I'm still not sure what the question actually is. Of course a slave has less authority...because they have chosen to cede that authority to another. My owner/fiancé and I don't live together at the moment, but that doesn't make me less owned. Before I chose him as my owner, I made sure we were on the same page on all the important matters, including micromanagement. He knows I have a brain and expects me to use it regularly, so there is no need to request permission before eating or going to the bathroom or making a doctors appointment. This being said, I do ask for permission to go out with my friends or to spend money casually (I don't need his permission to pay the copay for my oncologist, for example, or to pay the rent, but if I want a new blouse or pair of shoes, I do) I'll ask for suggestions in regards to reading material when I finish a book so that if there is something in particular he wishes me to read or study it can take priority. I meant exactly what I said. Let's spin this around, I'll put myself in all of your positions, and you in mine. So I read the OP, and I have an idea about what I think they're trying to say. But I'm not sure, they used words that have different meanings in different contexts. So they could be saying multiple things. I'm pretty sure they're saying Z but they might also be saying X, or even Y. If I just decide, without confirming it, that they are saying Z; and to repeat, I did not ask for clarification...and I did not even make it known that I didn't understand what was being said or that there is a misunderstanding, who's fault is that? What if they're actually saying X? Other people understood they were saying X, but I didn't. Is that my fault, or OPs? If I am the person who's replying to something, I am taking time out of my life to reply to a post that someone else made, is it my responsibility to understand what I am replying to, or is the burden purely on the OP? Do I have no accountability at all? --- Could I have been more clear with some posts? Sure, but I can't know that ahead of time. I don't know that people aren't understanding what I'm saying until they tell me so; either directly, or until the conversation devolves to the point that there is no other conclusion to make. And I made a perfectly reasonable first post, it was just asking questions. A few users had absolutely no issue clarifying what I was saying, and to whom I was saying it to. So what's the excuse for everyone else? Am I only responsible for some of you? What about the people who were responsible for themselves, and asked me questions when they didn't understand? This proposition that it's my fault because I'm "not being clear" is not the issue here. The issue is that if I wasn't clear to certain people, THEY are obligated to clarify what it is that is unclear to them; they are the ones replying to something, how is it that they rationalize replying to something that they patently don't understand in the first place? Because they found something that they believe they don't like. They take my words, and they attribute qualities to them; I'm being "rude", or I'm being "condescending" etcetc But they don't just say that, they make an huge paragraph about what they think I'm saying, or what they believe I said, and they attach those comments on as extra. So what am I supposed to do? What they're saying isn't true, I try to clarify what I'm saying, not only are they wrong, but now the conversation is completely off-topic. I try to help them to understand. And then what? Well now I'm being "opinionated", "this 24 year old thinks he knows more than me". It's. Absolutely. Obscene.
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