FieryOpal
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy <snip> In general men experience rejection and disdain when not being a "real man." Once again, this comes from society and its rigid gender roles. It also comes from women who can be particularly hostile and rejecting. On the other hand, when a man is with an accepting woman, he is not humiliated -- it is the opposite -- he feels a protected vindication of self that others would castigate. Really, the being with an accepting partner is key. But cloudboy, there is a difference between a man who enjoys cross-dressing and doesn't go out in public trying to "pass" himself off as a woman, and a sissyCD who wants to be treated like a girl. Then there's the additional aspect of whether humiliation play is a part of a cross-dresser's repertoire that he seeks. That, in itself, is a separate element. Most vanilla women who might be accepting of having a cross-dressing "girlfriend" to hang out with from time to time are not looking for a cross-dressing boyfriend or husband. When it comes to (straight) kinky women, why should we be any different in our choice of a male partner? We're probably much more tolerant, less rejecting, but that doesn't mean that a straight kinky woman wants this in a sexual partner. (A bisexual Domme may be more open to this, but she may also want an asexual relationship with a non-primary male sub, getting her sexual needs met elsewhere.) Btw, there are cross-dressing Doms, so this doesn't apply to just S/switches and subs either. I don't believe it is hostile for a Domme to tell a sissyCD that this is not what she is looking for in a sub. He will take it as a rejection, but there are plenty of other criteria which will disqualify a sub for consideration by a Domme. Incompatibility and differences in priorities in all kinds of areas. Just as there are plenty of reasons for a woman to not be interested in any given man. Being a sissyCD is NOT what all Dommes are trying to turn their male subs into, and there is a gross misconception there. Not only is this misperception unfair to sissies seeking a Mistress, by assuming that FemDoms get into that sort of thing, but you have to keep in mind that sissification is male-driven, not female-driven, just as most fetishes are. Frankly, I can find a vanilla man to give me a foot massage. What I don't want is some man to start slobbering all over my feet or sexually objectifying my body parts as his fetish object. (This applies equally to those subs who say they enjoy 4-5 hours of oral worship. They're the ones who fantasize about doing it for 4-5 hours. No woman in her right mind would derive enjoyment from O.D.ing on this.) quote:
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ORIGINAL: YouName So, if the general sissy goes through this process to feel submissive, to feel humiliated and owned then how can possibly a very feminine dominant live with a partner who has this perception on gender roles? More importantly, how does dressing him up like you (not quite...but you get my point) make sense to your power dynamic? It doesn't, to me. But then, I'm not into humiliation, much. Me neither. It's a matter of personal preference what turns on a person, as it everything else, including wanting a primary partner or one of your subs to be a sissyCD. I happen to be a straight Domme who is not for hire to indulge male subs' fetishes & kinks. I want what I want, and I know what I want. I have nothing against sissies or a man who wants to get feminized. I just don't want one as my sub, and I have no desire to fuck one.
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