smileforme50
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ORIGINAL: smileforme50 I have to admit that I have always been very bothered by the differentiation between mothers and fathers. I don't think there should be. There shouldn't be "mom things" and "dad things". I would have never called you a "stay at home mom" or "stay at home dad".....what you were was a "stay at home PARENT". One of my BIGGEST pet peeves in modern advertising is how they put so much on "mothers". "Choosy mothers choose JIF!" What? There are no "choosy fathers?" Why isn't is "choosy parents"? Or do fathers not give a rat's ass about what their kids eat? I've also always been very offended by something else you mentioned (don't take this personally because I know a lot of people say this). This claim that women process things more emotionally and men more intellectually is such total crap it isn't even funny. I've always been a very logical person. Most of my family and friends tell me I'm not emotional enough. My one sister is a bit more emotional, but my other sister is more like me. My brother? He's a total marshmallow....in a good way. When my mom passed away, he was definitely the one of us 4 who was the most outwardly emotional about it. He's also been the most outwardly emotional when past relationships ended. Plus....anybody who says that men process things more intellectually than emotionally has never watch a bunch of guys watching their team lose a football (or basketball, or baseball, or hockey..) game. I've also seen a lot more MEN than women getting into bar fights over petty issues (Sorry....this was kind of a side issue....I'll get off the stump now) I think I understand what you're saying, get rid of more gender focused differentials as far as behavior is concerned. But what they mean is that it's like waking up "in the wrong body". I hate to think I can speak for TG people but I tried imagining it from a different perspective. From a Freaky Friday perspective. Literally waking up in the wrong body,having the wrong name, being addressed incorrectly or forced to wear clothes that made me feel uncomfortable and perpetuating wrongful behavior. quote:
If people were blind, they wouldn't know that other people were fat or....wore thick glasses, or ....walked with a limp, or....had bad teeth, or....any other physical principle, and nobody would ever judge anyone on appearance. But the fact of the matter is that people DO judge others on appearance. That's just the way the world is. Probably. It would depend on if they started acting differently then they had in past years. You seem very focused on two things, the gender differentials as well as physical appearance. Why? Don't know. My dad was mom+ like Exiled and the "choosy moms choose jif" comments never bothered me. You said someone revealing their gender identity issue would bother you, that just means you're intolerant of people who do/are. I don't think our offering answers to your questions will change that, you're just sort of hoping someone will justify those feelings. Your feelings are yours alone, it is not anyone's place to tell you what to do with them. You have acknowledged you have them so only you can take steps to better understanding them and the "why". My point is that everybody else is bent on gender differentials. These assumptions and prejudices people have about gender is exactly what I'm asking about and commenting on. I'm asking....what does it mean to "feel like a girl"? How does a girl feel? What does it mean to "feel like a boy"? How does a boy feel? Commenting on what ET said....short of biology of actually having the kid, what does it "feel to be a father" vs "how does it feel to be a mother"? Why don't people just feel like a PERSON and parents just feel like a PARENT? If a homosexual couple adopts a child, does that mean that the child had 2 mothers but no father, or 2 fathers but no mother? I'm just saying that this kid is the one who was so wrapped up in gender roles and obsessed with what it means to be a certain gender instead of concentrating on being himself. I think the real reason it bothers me is because no matter how much they say it, they are still going to be whatever their biology dictates. I should have asked ET.....So if "Leelah" messaged you hear and she was everything you want as a submissive partner and you started to pursue a relationship with her, then the first time you meet face to face, or the first time she gets naked for you you discovered she had a penis, would you still continue the relationship?
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