dreamlady
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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko quote:
ORIGINAL: GotSteel Our beliefs inform our actions, if someone who has a dynamic which involves "female inferiority" believes it to be true that will nessassarly spill over beyond that consensual dynamic (which I would consider nonconcesual). Alternatively if someone who has a dynamic which involves "female inferiority" believes it to be hot there's no reason to expect that it must effect people beyond the consensual dynamic. I don't know how you do things but it's going to spill over for me as long as it's 24/7 TPE. I'm not exactly sure where you guys are drawing the line then again. My sub isn't going to be kissing random women's feet if that's what that means. Will he always be respectful of women? I expect that, that will be his default. If I engage a female sub, it is different in a way but she would have more control of the scene than he would so the theme is pretty consistent. I would expect any man I'm with to be respectful of women in the manner that a gentleman should be courteous to ladies. This does not make him "less" than or "lower" than. My man/partner/pet isn't going to be kissing anyone's ass, other than mine. What you do with your sub(s) and play partner(s) is a private matter amongst yourselves, and you are not saying that other Dommes must or should follow your example out of generic female superiority/male inferiority. Now, if you or any Dominant would require your submissive to always defer to every other Dominant and serve them also (such as at a FemDom event) just because they are male or female or an s-type, then this would be practicing a quasi-Supremacist belief system (meaning it may not be a consensual arrangement with each and every party in attendance). If you presumed that (male) submissives, uncollared by you, outside of your own D/s dynamic, or owned by another, were inferior to you by virtue of the fact that you are a Dominant woman, then this would be practicing a Supremacist belief system. If you regarded all members of any particular ingroup (men or women, ethnic origin/race, orientations, other religions, social status, educational or professional standing) inferior to yourself categorically, then this would be practicing a Supremacist belief system. This brings up a hot-button issue in BDSM where Dominants may feel superior to all submissives, all switches, all who are not Dominant like themselves. There are Dominants and submissives alike who feel they are superior to all others who are not like them, and while they are certainly entitled to their personal preferences of whom they would choose as a partner or even as a friend, other forms of discrimination based on this Superiority/inferiority axis (cliquishness, shunning) wouldn't be so kosher (no pun intended). Supremacist beliefs don't have to go to the extremes of oppressive persecution or acts of terrorism to be a destructive influence and have a negative impact on others' lives. Just my two cents.
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