shiftyw
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Joined: 6/6/2013 From: The Shire Status: offline
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Hun- that wasn't meant to be that personal, and I didn't expect you to answer it for real! I'm sorry you felt you should! I was trying to point out that crumpets, as a straight man, may not have had to fit different condoms on different cocks and perhaps his problem with condoms was specific to him and his experience. I am very open about that with all sorts of people, I don't consider it all that personal for myself, but completely didn't expect you to answer it if you didn't want to. Like I said- I was more proving a point that perhaps crumpets wasn't the be all end all of cock sizes and women's opinions about dicks. I'm really just using what you said in here as an example, I'm not trying to personally attack you, just answer your posts with what you had provided earlier in the thread. You said he believed in supremacy- I went from there and WHY I wouldn't consent to him seeing ME as supreme, and how that is therefore not consensual supremacy, not in my book. I'm not trying to define your relationship, I'm trying to help you see how I am viewing it from over here. I'm sorry you felt personally attacked- but really- it was not meant like that and more as an example because you said he believed in supremacy. I certainly don't have all the answers and would rather have a conversation where I come to an understanding of your view. I STILL view your view as a FLR and not supremacy. To me supremacy requires a lot of hate, and I'm defining it differently than you, and I think you think I'm assuming you're some kind of nazi or crazy person. You don't fit my definition of supremacy- and thats a good thing to me. I don't view it as an extension of sexuality- I view it as hateful garbage of whatever you view as less superior based on, in this case, gender. I think being biased on a day to day basis and in work and life is really hard to do in a constructive way- and I disagree with carrying it outside of role play (clearly). I'm about equality- not superiority- and I feel that is clear in what I say, have said, and who I am. As someone who has hiring/firing power in real life- I'm always careful to make sure my personal feelings and bias aren't effecting any of those decisions so that the best person really does get the job. For example- we had one employee who would always show up late. I'm not going to cut her any slack because she has kids, or is a lady- she needs to be kept to the same standards as everyone else- or if she has childcare issues- talk to me to work around it, just like everyone else. I don't think it would be fair to fire her or not fire her based on anything beyond her work performance. I've explained my stance six hundred times on here...and I've agreed with dreamlady on several points you also agreed on- so I'm unsure of where you took such personal offense to my view only. Also, I'm really pretty offended that you assume I'm not active in human rights in real life. Or that I would use this as leverage or popularity points on a fucking message board. If anything my feminist view has ALWAYS made me less desirable and I've always had to defend it- it has not once made anything easier in the kink world. It is in fact a major reason I fall out of kink, often. I stopped attending munches because the leader of the last one I attended was sorta a male supremacist. He thought that because I was a female sub I should just do whatever he said and that I wasn't allowed to have limits and he would decide those limits for me. So I guess you're right in that regard, I shouldn't attend munches, because I don't take kindly to that bullshit. I am sorry you felt bandwagoned. I certainly can say I really didn't mean to cause that- and perhaps that is because your view and definition of supremacy is different from several other folks? I don't know. I don't know anything anymore, and I'm sorry for causing you such distress- you are never at any liberty to share anything with me you don't want to.
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