freedomdwarf1
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1 No. I've been madly, passionately in love and would never have let myself get fired or derail my career. Being in love/lust and being rational are not mutually exclusive. If I had to ask that question, I would have dumped whomever it was, no matter how hot the sex was. That's the problem. So because you never experienced it. You don't have empathy. To me, love is never rational, it's emotional. Sorry Greta, I have to agree with red on this one. Your simplistic view on lifestyle in general appears to be somewhat myopic. Perhaps it is because life in the far east is reported to be very individualistic in that marriage and relationships are far less common than in the western world. Emotional attachment over there seems to be few and far between and as such, emotion appears to be over-important; that's not the case in the western world. In the west, any sort of close relationship usually involves a fair bit of compromise on both parts to make it work sensibly. Someone, often both, has to give up something to the relationship in practical terms. Usually, the main breadwinner is the one that has to keep the finances going and in that respect the job/career of that person has absolute priority over anything emotional or any D/s relationship. It has to be that way for practical reasons (unless you are very rich) - nobody can exist purely on emotion. That is why rational decisions have to be made over emotional ones every time. The way the military works is that they are your #1 priority over absolutely everything, including your personal life. This is something that needs to be fully understood by any (potential) partner of a military person. Essentially, the military becomes your life, everything else is second, until the day you leave. It has nothing to do with empathy and everything to do with pragmatic and sensible decisions. Like red said, military and career come first because that is self-preservation. Anything else like partners, relationships etc generally come second. Of course there are varying degrees of how much you give and take in any situation with the exception of the military - they always come first. @armyprincess: It was good of you to pose the question. The only stupid question is the one un-asked. But I must admit that I'm very confused as to why you had to ask it in the first place. You must know that a military career and lifestyle always comes first. It should have been embedded into your partners' head that that is what is important and must, no matter what, take priority over everything else in life. The fact that you are a sub is irrelevant at this juncture, there are several things that raise concerns for me that others have pointed out already. A Dom/me should be looking out for their sub and never set them up for failure. Your man didn't do that - he was selfish and didn't bother to ask. To me, given the importance of the consequences, that is a major red flag and worthy of serious consideration for your own well-being. Unless your man has fully understood the situation, and that it was a 1-off not to be repeated, as good as he is (according to your other post), he really isn't the right man for you. That brings you to a serious dilema on what to choose: your man or your career. Not something I envy you with. Good luck in whatever way you choose. ETA: Anjelika said it in very precise words - it has all to do with respect and honesty. Your man appears to have very little of both.
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