LadyPact
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You know, I tried to help you yesterday before your original thread got pulled. Let's start from the top... OK. You bought a book and that's an interesting place to start. I happen to love books. They are about education. You are trying to talk about something without even flipping through the pages. You and she are both playing "master and slave" from a one night stand. From your other thread, she filled in the blanks from a guy she met online a month ago. (Those things you wrote about yesterday about her wanting certain things from a man, you really didn't know anything about.) Based on what you said, she has at least a masochistic bent, and you're floundering around trying to figure out what a sadist is supposed to be. In my opinion, you are the square peg trying to fit into the round hole. If this is a part of your sexuality, you're not quite there yet. I saw it in your answers and the way you tried to shame another poster for enjoying these things. You bet she comes calling? If she does, it's because of what she dreamed up in her head about you. That you are going to fulfill her fantasies about being manhandled in bed. I'm a chick and I'm a sadist. I really do KNOW what it is to fulfill those desires and I don't have to play act to do it. But, it's because they are MY desires. My sadism. My Dominance. That thing about me that lets me brush my fingernails against someone's skin and make them want to walk through broken glass for me. Did I always have it? Nope. Neither do you yet. If you want to work it out with this girl, start TALKING to her. If you blew it because of your temper, accept that. (In my opinion, that didn't go well.) Then, start asking yourself how you really want your sexual encounters to go. Don't base it on any other person but YOU. If she's a little too much for you, that's ok. It's about finding the right fit. In the meantime, yes, offer to return her jewelry and promise to back off until she WANTS to come back.
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The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie. Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread
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