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Link for submissive women to follow if they would like ... - 3/23/2016 6:09:24 PM

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http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=4893245

In the thread "Why would someone do this" we are currently discussing a situation all to common on the other side. The situation is a man finding a woman he want to write, he politely writes her a message using his best effort to attract her attention and she writes back "do not contact me again" and the man instead politely writes back asking something about her interests much like a guy would do in a bar meeting situation in hopes she will relent and decide he is not bad after all.

We have five wonderful women, and I mean that honestly, on this thread who all agree the second message is "irritating" or bordering on "harassment".

To be clear, the guy sends his best cmail message to a girl he might like very much and when she responds negatively he politely sends his best effort to politely get her to talk to him but then quits after the second negative answer.

I suspect our sample of five or so ladies is too small over there and although adding more opinions might not change the view, I do ask and invite any woman, submissive or not, to look over the thread and add your view and experience if you like.

Thanks ahead of time for your time, lovely ladies of the forum.

RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 6:13:17 PM

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I don't understand. Why isn't one 'no' good enough for the guy involved again?

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 6:25:37 PM

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I'm in agreement with the other gals on the other thread and I hate to tell ya, but most women will agree with them. No answer IS an answer. Don't like it? Too bad. I stopped responding to emails ages ago due to the nature of the harassment I would receive. Just not worth the time or effort.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 7:13:41 PM

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The vast majority of the time I don't even get a response when I message someone. In fact, only once did a woman let me know I was too old for her to consider. Disappointed as I was, I did appreciate that she responded and gave me a reason why she wasn't interested. Maybe I'm unique in that I can take "no" for an answer.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 7:17:10 PM

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I responded ^_^ Thanks for pointing out this interesting thread!

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 7:41:02 PM

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I know there are probably more that will post here and perhaps on the link, but let me say right now how much I thank all of you for taking an interest and spending your valuable time.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 7:42:02 PM

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I responded ^_^ Thanks for pointing out this interesting thread!

Thank you!

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 7:45:27 PM

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The vast majority of the time I don't even get a response when I message someone. In fact, only once did a woman let me know I was too old for her to consider. Disappointed as I was, I did appreciate that she responded and gave me a reason why she wasn't interested. Maybe I'm unique in that I can take "no" for an answer.

You have always seemed like a classy guy to me. I agree that if someone wrote you back about an age issue then one needs to stop right there just as I would if I were at a bar and a younger woman let me know that there. There are specific rules or limits I think guys must follow and that is no-go with me also.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/23/2016 8:04:13 PM

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What's it going to take to get someone to take 'no' as a final answer the 'first' time? What if I just write Bettlejuice, Bettlejuice, Bettlejuice? Can I 'expect' them to go away at that point?

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 12:26:51 AM

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Why would I say no a different way? Why is not answering to a silly "hi" msg not an answer? So yeah, I read it. My tablet doesn't allow me to hover over msgs.

Why would I even have to go to a different thread because you want more answers, better explanations, fudiculous whatever it is?????

Some women have come to the realization that no matter the outcome, some jackass douchecanoe self-entitled dingaling will NOT ACCEPT NO REGARDLESS.

I rec'd a msg tonight. Guy offered me $500 to meet him, tie him up & burn him with lit cigarettes. Nope, I could really use the cash but NO. Not 15 seconds go by, 2nd msg, he'll up the ante to $1,000. NO again. Point out that I'm submissive. 3rd msg, now he's angry with ME, argues it's S/M not kink, yadda.... I quit answering. Oh, and prices are down, used to start at $800 to $1,000.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 2:45:24 AM

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sometimes I think we should try no in other languages and that might get our point across. That thread was getting long and I couldn't keep up with it. I have had an influx of American "Dominants" ordering me to be their's and to relocate where they are. I tell them no and most I never hear from again. Since I been here I only had to block one person because of false accusations an name calling.

But I agree with most women, if a woman says no it means no an guys should take it as such. Here where I am we have the 0 tolerance law which could get a guy into a lot of hot water.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 3:10:08 AM

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A list of his fetishes and what I could do for him.... Im in the middle of something more fun and im not interested and busy so I delete unread(yes of course I used the hover button.)
Get this in response, notice it obviously peeved his little mind so much he left to start a new name...

No it doesnt bother me, I consider it a idiot finding too.
And at least it was polite....

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 3:44:23 AM

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at least most of the time when they don't get anywhere, they delete their account.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 5:11:45 AM

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Guy offered me $500 to meet him, tie him up & burn him with lit cigarettes.

I got him as well. I suggested he hire a local hooker for much less and he accused me of being a hooker.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 6:52:56 AM

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Guy offered me $500 to meet him, tie him up & burn him with lit cigarettes.

I got him as well. I suggested he hire a local hooker for much less and he accused me of being a hooker.

You know, it just struck me... all the while (some) men are constantly complaining of how though it's on here for them, we're dealing with this shit instead... and yet I can't recall women ever starting threads about how CM sucks and is impossible and...

Do we bitch about the dudes when the dudes start complaining about us, and do we make fun of them idiot messages sometimes? Abso-fucking-lutely... but I can't recall women starting a new thread every 3 months or so to complain about how hard we have it on here...

Am I having a selective memory here?

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 7:25:18 AM

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I suspect our sample of five or so ladies is too small over there and although adding more opinions might not change the view, I do ask and invite any woman, submissive or not, to look over the thread and add your view and experience if you like.

If I tell a stranger "thanks but no thanks", I find it neither cute nor charming if he persists.

His persistence shows me that he has a complete lack of respect for me.

Just no.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 9:05:26 AM

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I try and reply to all messages out of basic politeness - a habit ingrained in me from modelling, where I will respond to all messages even if I am not interested in a shoot with the individual for reasons that I shouldn't have to go into detail of. I've had mostly good responses from 'thanks but not thanks', but even in a non-dating context, I have also had abusive or unhappy responses and have even been blocked on a handful of occasions for sticking to my guns. So here, CS or the internet in general makes no difference.

Still; no means no. I would cease any attempts at sexually or romantically pursuing someone if they told me no and I expect the same courtesy. If a friendship is possible? Cool. I've been friends with past romantic/sexual interests before but that usually only has worked out because the admission of attraction has come after weeks or months of friendship rather than complete 'cold calling'.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 9:38:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Guy offered me $500 to meet him, tie him up & burn him with lit cigarettes.

I got him as well. I suggested he hire a local hooker for much less and he accused me of being a hooker.

He used to offer us $700. Cheap bastard.

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 9:58:54 AM

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It's not that I did not know about the thread you just pointed out. It's just that I had nothing to add. No does not mean maybe. That is a fact. Saying no may mean many things, however, in the grand scheme of things it still means not interested. Just because you wrote politely does not give you the right to demand a full disclosure from an online stranger. It's the internet. Learn to deal with rejection or try to meet people at the church social instead. Heck, one could get rejected at the social too, but it still does not give you the right to demand a full explanation. Now we have two threads dealing with the same whiney problem.

Now I wonder why you felt the need to point out the thread here? Are you of the group that thinks no means maybe if you say it politely enough?

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RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would l... - 3/24/2016 12:07:19 PM

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I don't think he wanted an actual answer to his own question. He claims he's had luck with his method so it really doesn't matter what we say. Notice how he's been told by pretty much everyone that it's not okay in 2 different threads, has been asked questions as well about his position, and only responded to the one guy who answered (after asking for answers from submissive women) and thanking another woman who only stated she responded to the original thread. He won't stop. Since he's found some women's "no" to be exceptions rather than the rule, he's going to treat all women like their no's are exceptions rather than the rule.

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