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QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 10:22:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

See my sig line?

Yes. Thank you that, up until now, you did nothing to destroy me.

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If you should chose to ignore the fact that I state that I don't answer emails here, that's kind of your fault for not listening to me.

Yes, of course.

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Please do not send me email. That's not going to help the matter. [;)]

I wouldn't dare to write an e-mail to you. I realize that it could have very bad consequences for me.



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 10:28:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

And you can blame your fellow men who will follow that "not interested" with a stream of threats and abuse.
And given your over the top reaction to having an email deleted unread I would not be at all surprised if you were among those men.

I'm sorry, but you are completely wrong with respect to me.

I am not a guy who thinks that, if a lady says "no", she means "perhaps". I never try a second time. And certainly not with threats or abuse, even not if the lady insults me.

I'm not responsible for the ways in which other men treat ladies here.



WhoreMods -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 10:31:53 AM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

And you can blame your fellow men who will follow that "not interested" with a stream of threats and abuse.
And given your over the top reaction to having an email deleted unread I would not be at all surprised if you were among those men.

I'm sorry, but you are completely wrong with respect to me.

I am not a guy who thinks that, if a lady says "no", she means "perhaps". I never try a second time. And certainly not with threats or abuse, even not if the lady insults me.

I'm not responsible for the ways in which other men treat ladies here.


Of course you're not: that guy is going to be a top.
(And probably a Gorean as well.)



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 10:33:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

in this country, we have things called munches which are gatherings of folks who are interested in BDSM.
Perhaps they have such a thing in your country, and if so you could meet actual people.

So you feel that all the people who are looking here for BDSM interactions with someone else, don't want to meet actual people? Strange.



WhoreMods -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 10:54:32 AM)

There's an assumption that a fair few people on this (and indeed, any other) fetish dating board are fantasists, bullshit artists and idiots. Looking at some of the profiles you'll see when logging in, that's unsurprising, but sadly that does make a lot of people reluctant to read every message they get. (The massive surplus of submissive guys in the scene doesn't help any with this either.)



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:09:00 AM)


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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods

There's an assumption that a fair few people on this (and indeed, any other) fetish dating board are fantasists, bullshit artists and idiots. Looking at some of the profiles you'll see when logging in, that's unsurprising, but sadly that does make a lot of people reluctant to read every message they get. (The massive surplus of submissive guys in the scene doesn't help any with this either.)

Very wise words. And if, like me, one is already an oldtimer, he has even less chance, no matter how all he wants is really just to satisfy a dominant.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:15:33 AM)

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I am not a guy who thinks that, if a lady says "no", she means "perhaps". I never try a second time.

And how are we supposed to know that in advance? You do realize that almost all men say that right, and that a good proportion of them are lying through their teeth when they do.
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I'm not responsible for the ways in which other men treat ladies here.

Nobody said you are, but there you have it anyway. The main reason why things get handled the way they do is due to the experiences of the women involved. You aren't like that? Too fucking bad, I am still going to go with what experience has taught me.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:17:33 AM)

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Of course you're not: that guy is going to be a top.
(And probably a Gorean as well.)

Actually no, the majority are actually self-proclaimed subs, which is doubley strange as I am also a sub, so I am confused as to why they get upset when I don't want to top them.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:18:55 AM)

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So you feel that all the people who are looking here for BDSM interactions with someone else, don't want to meet actual people? Strange.

That is not what she said. She said there is a better way to meet kinky people than randomly emailing women on a website.



LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:20:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
Yes. Thank you that, up until now, you did nothing to destroy me.

Every time somebody says something like this, I get some strange, momentary flash to some kind of "Pinky and The Brain" rerun. If I really did have that much power over *every* dude who ever sent me an email, I'd be well on my way to taking over the world.

<Does math.> Nine years here. Thousands of emails from every corner of the globe. Yep. That would be interesting.

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I wouldn't dare to write an e-mail to you. I realize that it could have very bad consequences for me.

You mean the one you already got? And, check it out. You're still posting! You're not destroyed in any way. The world's still spinning, birds are still singing, and all of that good stuff. Random chick from across the globe not answering your email had absolutely no consequences.




angelikaJ -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:20:46 AM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

in this country, we have things called munches which are gatherings of folks who are interested in BDSM.
Perhaps they have such a thing in your country, and if so you could meet actual people.

So you feel that all the people who are looking here for BDSM interactions with someone else, don't want to meet actual people? Strange.



No, that is not what I meant.
What I meant was that meeting people online doesn't often work out- there are exceptions: [my] Master found me here 7 yrs ago.
Some people have greater luck connecting with potential partners at munches.




LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:22:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods
There's an assumption that a fair few people on this (and indeed, any other) fetish dating board are fantasists, bullshit artists and idiots. Looking at some of the profiles you'll see when logging in, that's unsurprising, but sadly that does make a lot of people reluctant to read every message they get. (The massive surplus of submissive guys in the scene doesn't help any with this either.)

A few?

You are a very kind soul.




HoneyBears -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:28:57 AM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
in this country, we have things called munches which are gatherings of folks who are interested in BDSM.
Perhaps they have such a thing in your country, and if so you could meet actual people.

So you feel that all the people who are looking here for BDSM interactions with someone else, don't want to meet actual people? Strange.

Your profile indicates Actively Seeking Online Romance.

You did not specifically mention how impolite Bavarian dominants are.
You did not specifically call out German dominants or Austrian dominants either, or those other nationalities bordering your own country.

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
I only write messages to people who's profile shows that they are looking for someone.

Naturally, you only try to contact people who are also Actively Seeking Online Romance ... with a 63-year-old German sub who writes he does not care who dominates him, whether this person has a penis or vagina or both, their age, that you are pretty much offering your submission indiscriminately to anybody who wants it aged 18 or older ... and you expect this will actually attract a lifestyle dominant to take a serious interest in you .... Keep dreaming. [8|]

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
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NO ONE OWES YOU A DAMN THING.

Not courtesy, not even to piss on you if you were on fire.

So you would prefer to see me on fire instead of trying to save my life? In my country, if you refuse to help someone who's life is in danger, you go straight in jail.

Shandirra never said she would not try to be a Good Samaritan, just that she would not piss on you. [8D]

Are you now equating unread messages, unacknowledged messages, and unanswered messages with refusing to help your life being in danger? No, of course not. Which is the whole point, and if you would take the stick out of your arse long enough, you could see how you are coming across as a prima donna dude who is profusely sweating the insignificant small stuff.

-- Lisa & Cub



Shandirra -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:32:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

I don't reproach it you at all, but can you imagine that, if an upperclass lady like you makes me ridiculous by insulting me on a public forum, where everyone can see it, it badly hurts and embarrasses me? Do you feel this is what I deserve because it is unpleasant to me when my messages are deleted unread?



Mr. Clueless. That's my point. It's not about you. Stop making it personal. People have lives that have nothing to do with you. They could care less who you are or why you're writing to them. It's their priorities that matter to them, just as your inappropriate emails are to you.

Whether or not they're well written, well thought out, considerate, polite, pertinent, yada, yada, yada.... They're unwanted. Get it?? Stop placing your expectations on complete strangers. Or continue to be disappointed. *shrugs*

Keep whining about your precious feelings. People attempted to give you solid advice. If you decide to not heed that advice? Tough titties, dude.



WhoreMods -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:38:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Of course you're not: that guy is going to be a top.
(And probably a Gorean as well.)

Actually no, the majority are actually self-proclaimed subs, which is doubley strange as I am also a sub, so I am confused as to why they get upset when I don't want to top them.

Gotcha. That's probably even worse then: I'm told there's few things quite as bad as a pushy sub...



Shandirra -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 11:43:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HoneyBears

Shandirra never said she would not try to be a Good Samaritan, just that she would not piss on you. [8D]



Why reward bad behavior with golden nectar? [:D]

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ORIGINAL: HoneyBears
... and you expect this will actually attract a lifestyle dominant to take a serious interest in you .... Keep dreaming. [8|]
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Which is the whole point, and if you would take the stick out of your arse long enough, you could see how you are coming across as a prima donna dude who is profusely sweating the insignificant small stuff.

-- Lisa & Cub


Bingo!!



MuscleBoundDom -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 12:19:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

And you can blame your fellow men who will follow that "not interested" with a stream of threats and abuse.
And given your over the top reaction to having an email deleted unread I would not be at all surprised if you were among those men.

I'm sorry, but you are completely wrong with respect to me.

I am not a guy who thinks that, if a lady says "no", she means "perhaps". I never try a second time. And certainly not with threats or abuse, even not if the lady insults me.

I'm not responsible for the ways in which other men treat ladies here.




I disagree. There are many women who say "no" when they actually mean "yes." And vice-versa.



LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 12:32:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom
I disagree. There are many women who say "no" when they actually mean "yes." And vice-versa.

Check your tickets, folks. We might have a winner on just how short the time span would be for somebody to show up to PROVE some men think no means yes.

Didn't take long at all, did it?

(However, I now understand why certain people aren't active in their local community. Rock on, dude!)




QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 12:33:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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I am not a guy who thinks that, if a lady says "no", she means "perhaps". I never try a second time.

And how are we supposed to know that in advance?

You cannot. So give me a honest chance instead of deleting my message unread.

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I'm not responsible for the ways in which other men treat ladies here.

Nobody said you are, but there you have it anyway. The main reason why things get handled the way they do is due to the experiences of the women involved. You aren't like that? Too fucking bad, I am still going to go with what experience has taught me.

So the good men have to pay for the bad ones?



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/8/2016 12:36:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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So you feel that all the people who are looking here for BDSM interactions with someone else, don't want to meet actual people? Strange.

That is not what she said. She said there is a better way to meet kinky people than randomly emailing women on a website.

I really don't randomly send messages to women on this site.



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