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However, we love who we love and do not choose who we end up feeling submissive towards.
You have choices in who you submit to, you may or may not have the choice on who you fall in love with.
His charm is beatiful, and I was torn between am i just not being submissive enough, am i not taking the scary leap, am I not submitting in a way I should, or is this crazy?
Stop with the 'not being submissive enough' bullshit and use your head. I'll tell you what, assign me as your POA. Wait... you don't know me? Folks may or may not tell you that I can be charming, witty, and even bright on occasions, although I doubt like hell that anyone on here would sign their POA to me. I've been involved with my girl for over 3 years and she doesn't have me as her POA... and she is as submissive as the day is long.
He is not asking for a limited POA, he is asking for a 'general' one, which could include a medical POA as they are fairly standard for POA's nowadays.
Fear has kept us from forming a relationship all this time because his expectations have been higher than ...my fear could over come. The quilt I feel from not being submissive enough to be with the man I feel I love is a very real thing. When I postedt his I expected to hear that this isnt the first time anyone has heard of such. Obvouisly I am submissive and not a slave and I feel great guilt for not being able to endure the punishments and pain he expects.
and wants me to understand that if i agree to this deal that while i am tied up being punished that begging and pleading or stating that i do no want this Sir, will not work and he will continue.
I obviously have very very strong fears, and I certainly do not like pain.
He has told you that you cannot get out of doing something that may cause you a great deal of pain. I am a sadist with the best of them, I would never, ever places that restriction on my submissive. My girl has a few health considerations that are necessary for me to take into consideration. Even if she didn't, I still would not cause her undue pain simply because I wished it. I do not, nor am I willing to press anyone that far.
Has he talked about safewords? Has he talked about your tolerance for pain? With my girl, she had never had a BDSM relationship before me, and I took it very slow with her in the pain department. Luckily for me, she enjoys pain, but I have given her the lattitude to tell me to stop if it goes to far.
I ..just needed some advice.
And you are getting it. Don't freak out. Seriously, slow your roll... what you asked is serious shit and you need to understand that. What you are hearing may not be what you want to hear, but it may well be what you need to hear.
Are you new to being a submissive? Have you ever had a dominant before for any appreciable amount of time? If not, you need to slow down.
Yes, I am 100 percent crazy or I probably would not want a man to tell me what to eat, and where to place my eyes. I have never ...in my life done the things I will do for this man. Is power exchange more than words? Yes, it would seem so...because I have lost my mind.
OK, time to do a reality check. A lot of folks here have been doing this for decades. We have run into people like you before. Our advice is coming from experience, not only online but face to face.
Your question, for me, threw up two giant red flags. One is the POA which is bizarre, and the second is not allowing you to get out of doing something that he is doing. Both are reckless and irresponsible.
Slow the fuck down. This is your life, your body, and your mind, we are trying to protect. If you choose to dismiss us because he is charming... well, have at it. I have been told I am charming before, and yet I am very careful and, perhaps overly cautious when dealing with someone that interests me. I also doubt that any sub here would use just that to evaluate me.
You are opening up a shitstorm if you do either things he has asked. You want to be homeless or irreparably harmed physically if you commit to what he is asking? None of that shit makes sense... and you seriously should think about why you would ever want to commit to potential financial ruin or physical damage.
I am glad that you found someone that makes you ask these questions. I hate that what he is asking is totally out of line.
I do wish you the very best.
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