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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
well imo there are always problems and overshadowing issues with bifurcation because the lines cannot be 100% or even close in practice. Basically the more parties added to the mix the less (overall) connection and depth one can expect regardless of how well chosen, especially with regard to overlap which is impossible to avoid as it morphs over time because peoples attitudes and proclivities change over time. Some people prefer online jerking off because they simply want to blow a nut with no depth what so ever, different strokes, also very empty and superficial. Then there are those who want romance in the mix, I am single, hence that is exactly what I seek.

That is probably more of a poly discussion. I'm not much one for loving people "equally" (even in the times I do have romantic involvement) because of the way I approach these things. The folks who do sincere triads, I wish them the best, but I'm pretty steadfast in the concept of primary and secondary partners.

Though, I would disagree with your assessment that connection and depth is the issue with this. Rather, I find it the issue of time. Unlike (potential) emotional depth, time is a limited resource.

Without moving this to the poly forum, I'd like to address something else. The overlap that you mention. Yes, that happens, as all poly people will tell you. *If* both of your partners are important to you, it moves to 'which situation is more pressing'?

I'm sure I'm into thread drift now. If you are ever curious, I'll tell you about my favorite experience regarding poly.