LadyPact
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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic I mean really, I don't get it. Someone as young and pretty and nice as you, shouldn't these guys be taking you out to dinner? Or something?Not to sound old fashioned, I believe in splitting the tab, but you know what I mean. If you can't get a decent date, then there is zero hope for the rest of us. Don't get me wrong. I don't really believe there's no hope. I'm also not saying I'm ugly. But I was honestly starting to feel like there must be something wrong with me because all the men think I'm only good for one thing. But goodness, reading your comments has reassured me that it's not me. It's them. What the hell is wrong with these guys? We are beautiful, amazing, dominant women. Why are they treating us this way? They're all crawling and whining and begging to "serve" a "Mistress", but they can't even treat us like human beings? I don't understand. This is honestly way, way worse than any vanilla site I've ever been on. I thought we were supposed to be like Goddesses. This is bullshit. (But don't call me "Goddess" if you don't know me because that's creepy.) I'm sure somebody is about to call me an @ss but some of this thread is starting to sound like a circle jerk. OK. Seriously. No, it's not you. And no, this part doesn't have to do with your age, looks, or experience. Maybe a little lack of experience of what it's like to be a person who is going to run across all types of people who frequent kink sites. It's not necessarily about being a Dominant woman, either. No matter any person's gender or role, everybody gets their share of what amounts to pretty much bullsh^t via email on this site. (It's my personal opinion that submissive women deal with way worse stuff than we D-types do because some of that crap is truly awful.) There's a recurring thread down in the random stupidity section called "Funny Messages from the Other Side" that shows a taste of what some folks get in emails. "Return to Sender" on the other site is better. Every two to three months, there's usually a thread about 'why don't women answer email' where people will talk about the subject in more detail. I'm not saying you are completely wrong, either. There really are *some*people on the site looking for that long term, romantic relationship. The problem is that a lot of them get over-shadowed by the folks who use the place as a hook up joint. Thinking that because it's kink related, it's the path to no strings kink, or sex, or whatever else. It's a matter of realizing that people here have different goals. A lot of people's won't match yours. Something else occurs to me. If you're interested enough, there are some past threads by a couple of (more or less) former posters regarding the subject of some folks have lost the art of courting. They go along the lines of at least a section of so-called submissive men figure that because they want the submissive role, it relieves them of their participation in fostering a 'romantic' type of relationship. Quite a good article, really. Maybe someone will post the link.
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