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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 3:50:16 AM   
LisaSadistic


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Wow. I looked at your picture. I hope you don't mind me saying so, but you're so young and beautiful. Your profile doesn't say much, but from your posts, you're obviously a genuine person. If someone as young and beautiful and nice as you is being treated like a pile of shit, what hope is there for the rest of us?

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:10:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

Wow. I looked at your picture. I hope you don't mind me saying so, but you're so young and beautiful. Your profile doesn't say much, but from your posts, you're obviously a genuine person. If someone as young and beautiful and nice as you is being treated like a pile of shit, what hope is there for the rest of us?



Ahh Sweet Lisa!! You are very sweet with you're compliment. I am humble and as you know, it's what's inside that's important. I look young but I'm not that young and I do act my age i.e appropriate and sensible as mistakes are not good for me. Yes I am genuine. I've hidden my profile for a bit as I was getting tired of the wank fodder pestering and abuse from the mentally challenged.

You are lovely yourself as I can see. Don't let the wicked change you dear . Stay positive and ready to grab the good chance when it comes and don't waste it. I'm sure you know all this anyway. I'm here if you need me.

Stay lovely :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:10:48 AM   
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I mean really, I don't get it. Someone as young and pretty and nice as you, shouldn't these guys be taking you out to dinner? Or something?Not to sound old fashioned, I believe in splitting the tab, but you know what I mean. If you can't get a decent date, then there is zero hope for the rest of us.

Don't get me wrong. I don't really believe there's no hope. I'm also not saying I'm ugly. But I was honestly starting to feel like there must be something wrong with me because all the men think I'm only good for one thing. But goodness, reading your comments has reassured me that it's not me. It's them.

What the hell is wrong with these guys? We are beautiful, amazing, dominant women. Why are they treating us this way? They're all crawling and whining and begging to "serve" a "Mistress", but they can't even treat us like human beings?

I don't understand. This is honestly way, way worse than any vanilla site I've ever been on. I thought we were supposed to be like Goddesses. This is bullshit. (But don't call me "Goddess" if you don't know me because that's creepy.)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:15:27 AM   
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But hey, we live in Los Angeles so maybe it's better to go to events and stay off of sites like this. I can't see this doing anything good for my life or my self esteem. But if you want to stick with it, then I wish you the best of luck!

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:34:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

I mean really, I don't get it. Someone as young and pretty and nice as you, shouldn't these guys be taking you out to dinner? Or something?Not to sound old fashioned, I believe in splitting the tab, but you know what I mean. If you can't get a decent date, then there is zero hope for the rest of us.

Don't get me wrong. I don't really believe there's no hope. I'm also not saying I'm ugly. But I was honestly starting to feel like there must be something wrong with me because all the men think I'm only good for one thing. But goodness, reading your comments has reassured me that it's not me. It's them.

What the hell is wrong with these guys? We are beautiful, amazing, dominant women. Why are they treating us this way? They're all crawling and whining and begging to "serve" a "Mistress", but they can't even treat us like human beings?

I don't understand. This is honestly way, way worse than any vanilla site I've ever been on. I thought we were supposed to be like Goddesses. This is bullshit. (But don't call me "Goddess" if you don't know me because that's creepy.)



Sweet Lisa. You are validated 100%. There is nothing wrong with wanting / seeking a normal grounded connection with someone and not to focus 24/7 on kink which is is what the kiddie fiddlers and sex killer do (I know this from my work). Seeking balanced interaction with someone in order to build a relationship is appropriate. If someone - a man or a woman approached a member of the public in the street and said "!will you measure my cock / cunt" or if they exposed themselves they can be reported and will be charged with indecency and sexual harassment. Just cos this is a website for people with kinky sexual needs does not mean that sexual harassment and obscenity is ok if one has not consented to such.

The issue in the world is that there is a lot of dysfunction. There are generations of people raised in dysfunctional households and all around them are people in dysfunctional and destructive relationships and that is all they know and we meet many of them here. Also, it is the age of Self and people want instant gratification etc and they don't want to have to bother to invest care in a person to get the care and gratification that they want. There are also some that have been emotionally abused and traumatised and this has not been addressed and they have become emotionally dead inside and don't know how to care or how to have a drama free and healthy relationship. EG there are somne people that will instigate a break up/bust up with their significant other so they can have passionate make up sex rather than just having passionate happy hot happy sex with their partner all the time etc. There are also some that are like Terminators and are programmed to wickedness and they come out to do damage to normal / vulnerable people. I have learnt that it is not worth it to settle for unsatisfactory - it will not give you the happiness you seek. There is definitely someone out there for you that is compatible with you - sometimes it's about being in the same geographical location to meet. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for having standards and wanting a proper connection with someone and not just to be used as a sex robot.

Lisa; you need to stay strong, believe in yourself, remain optimistic, focussed, loving and kind. Don't be bitter - there are worse things than being alone at this time as you know. Keep yourself fine and healthy for yourself. If the chance comes, be ready to take him and to give and receive of him well . Until then, you are preparing and practising by living healthy, gaining more wisdom and knowledge and achieving things for yourself. Ok Girl!!

Stay lovely and strong :)


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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:40:25 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

I mean really, I don't get it. Someone as young and pretty and nice as you, shouldn't these guys be taking you out to dinner? Or something?Not to sound old fashioned, I believe in splitting the tab, but you know what I mean. If you can't get a decent date, then there is zero hope for the rest of us.

Don't get me wrong. I don't really believe there's no hope. I'm also not saying I'm ugly. But I was honestly starting to feel like there must be something wrong with me because all the men think I'm only good for one thing. But goodness, reading your comments has reassured me that it's not me. It's them.

What the hell is wrong with these guys? We are beautiful, amazing, dominant women. Why are they treating us this way? They're all crawling and whining and begging to "serve" a "Mistress", but they can't even treat us like human beings?

I don't understand. This is honestly way, way worse than any vanilla site I've ever been on. I thought we were supposed to be like Goddesses. This is bullshit. (But don't call me "Goddess" if you don't know me because that's creepy.)



Hiya Lisa; IMHO, when someone immediately tries to flatter by calling us Goddess they are trying to manipulate us to let our guard down by manipulating our ego. Manipulation is a form of abuse and that is unhealthy and sneaky. I cut such people off as I really hate non-consensual abuse i.e child abuse, elder abuse, abusing a physically disabled or mentally disabled person etc. I don't hate anything in my life but the concept of abusing / misusing / manipulating another unfairly is something I am totally against cos it's sick and fucked up.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:43:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

But hey, we live in Los Angeles so maybe it's better to go to events and stay off of sites like this. I can't see this doing anything good for my life or my self esteem. But if you want to stick with it, then I wish you the best of luck!



I understand what you say dear. The pickings are slim. Just stay focussed on attracting the positive - wherever that is.

Happy Sunday Sweet Lisa :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:45:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

Wow. I looked at your picture. I hope you don't mind me saying so, but you're so young and beautiful. Your profile doesn't say much, but from your posts, you're obviously a genuine person. If someone as young and beautiful and nice as you is being treated like a pile of shit, what hope is there for the rest of us?



I'm older than you Lisa Dear. You could be my sweet niece that I like to spoil with yummy treats :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:51:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

But hey, we live in Los Angeles so maybe it's better to go to events and stay off of sites like this. I can't see this doing anything good for my life or my self esteem. But if you want to stick with it, then I wish you the best of luck!



Even regular common interest Meetups events are good for the spirit and for socialising etc not just munches :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 4:55:50 AM   
LisaSadistic


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Your profile says you're 29?

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 5:23:18 AM   
PantyhosedDomina


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Your profile says you're 29?

Are you serious!!!?? . Oh My Word!! . I really don't know how that happened dear. Must be a glitch. I'll check and correct. I checked myself this morning and did not see 29. Give me a minute Sweet Lisa :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 5:34:22 AM   
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It says 44 for me here.

And I would have thought someone of your age with superior education than those younger ones, would have mastered basic English a little better than you have.



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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 5:43:32 AM   
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It says 44 for me here.

And I would have thought someone of your age with superior education than those younger ones, would have mastered basic English a little better than you have.



Whatever nasty dude and dudes. Where did I say I have superior education? It's all good. I like how you show you're true nasty selves so all the potentials can see what you are really like if they get close. Obviously you're life is so fraustrating ? empty? you have to come here and pick on me. If what I wrote bothers you don't read it.

Why are you reading my profile anyway ??????? Carry on :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 5:48:24 AM   
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My life is not empty.

But, we only get one real chance to make an impression.
Bad grammar doesn't instill confidence in someone who is supposed to be a dominant.

But you keep guessing.



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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 6:06:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

My life is not empty.

But, we only get one real chance to make an impression.
Bad grammar doesn't instill confidence in someone who is supposed to be a dominant.

But you keep guessing.


:)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 6:09:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

My life is not empty.

But, we only get one real chance to make an impression.
Bad grammar doesn't instill confidence in someone who is supposed to be a dominant.

But you keep guessing.








freedomdwarf1; What ever negativity you two like to indulge in carry on. I am not taking it on. Hate or condemn or be sarcastic or deride or criticise as you like. I wish you a great rest of the day etc :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 6:47:10 AM   
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Oh, weird. It was going to someone else's profile before. This site is acting wonky in other ways as well. Oh well.

What does grammar have to do with anything?

At any rate, I still don't get it. What did we do to deserve being treated this way? I don't understand.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 7:15:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

Oh, weird. It was going to someone else's profile before. This site is acting wonky in other ways as well. Oh well.

What does grammar have to do with anything?

At any rate, I still don't get it. What did we do to deserve being treated this way? I don't understand.


Lisa dear; some people attack another person in an unwarranted way as it makes them feel relevant. Or they feel at least they put something out there to get noticed. Or cos they are jealous and frustrated. They feel the other person has more options and they are resentful and so they attack or it could be that they secretly covet what the person has and they know they will never be able to get it so they are angry / resentful etc and so they attack
I don't take on the negativity and neither should you. The reality is that they are of no consequence in our lives - in fact they are irrelevant and we are laughing are we not dear Lisa. Let it go sweet Sister and enjoy you're day - eat well and love yourself in all ways that you can my girl :) xx .

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 7:21:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

Oh, weird. It was going to someone else's profile before. This site is acting wonky in other ways as well. Oh well.

What does grammar have to do with anything?

At any rate, I still don't get it. What did we do to deserve being treated this way? I don't understand.


Yes dear. The system is glitching majorly lol. It will remedy eventually :)

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 2/19/2017 8:32:57 AM   
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I mean really, I don't get it. Someone as young and pretty and nice as you, shouldn't these guys be taking you out to dinner? Or something?Not to sound old fashioned, I believe in splitting the tab, but you know what I mean. If you can't get a decent date, then there is zero hope for the rest of us.

Don't get me wrong. I don't really believe there's no hope. I'm also not saying I'm ugly. But I was honestly starting to feel like there must be something wrong with me because all the men think I'm only good for one thing. But goodness, reading your comments has reassured me that it's not me. It's them.

What the hell is wrong with these guys? We are beautiful, amazing, dominant women. Why are they treating us this way? They're all crawling and whining and begging to "serve" a "Mistress", but they can't even treat us like human beings?

I don't understand. This is honestly way, way worse than any vanilla site I've ever been on. I thought we were supposed to be like Goddesses. This is bullshit. (But don't call me "Goddess" if you don't know me because that's creepy.)

I'm sure somebody is about to call me an @ss but some of this thread is starting to sound like a circle jerk.

OK. Seriously. No, it's not you. And no, this part doesn't have to do with your age, looks, or experience. Maybe a little lack of experience of what it's like to be a person who is going to run across all types of people who frequent kink sites. It's not necessarily about being a Dominant woman, either. No matter any person's gender or role, everybody gets their share of what amounts to pretty much bullsh^t via email on this site. (It's my personal opinion that submissive women deal with way worse stuff than we D-types do because some of that crap is truly awful.) There's a recurring thread down in the random stupidity section called "Funny Messages from the Other Side" that shows a taste of what some folks get in emails. "Return to Sender" on the other site is better. Every two to three months, there's usually a thread about 'why don't women answer email' where people will talk about the subject in more detail.

I'm not saying you are completely wrong, either. There really are *some*people on the site looking for that long term, romantic relationship. The problem is that a lot of them get over-shadowed by the folks who use the place as a hook up joint. Thinking that because it's kink related, it's the path to no strings kink, or sex, or whatever else. It's a matter of realizing that people here have different goals. A lot of people's won't match yours.

Something else occurs to me. If you're interested enough, there are some past threads by a couple of (more or less) former posters regarding the subject of some folks have lost the art of courting. They go along the lines of at least a section of so-called submissive men figure that because they want the submissive role, it relieves them of their participation in fostering a 'romantic' type of relationship. Quite a good article, really. Maybe someone will post the link.



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