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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/1/2017 9:50:50 PM

LTE

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

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ORIGINAL: LTE

You can find more here of high quality than in munches and the club.

The problem with your statement is that the high quality submissives around here are the very same high quality submissives going to munches and clubs. It's not that if these submissives go to munches and clubs they don't join sites like Collarspace. It's not like submissives who join online web sites don't go to munches and clubs. They can do both.

Tell you something. Gary and I had profiles here but we never met here. He lived too far away and was way too old. However, we met at a lovely event. We became friends. We kept in touch. Six months later I quit my job and moved where he lived. If we had relied on this web site we would never have met. Also, if he had written to me on here I would have said "Thanks, but no thanks" as I would have considered him too old. Meeting face to face in person can be much better than meeting online.

I think the discussion focused on me and my needs in my area. That is the context provided originally by L.P. and in that context few from here can be found in the local club or munches.

"If we had relied on this web site we would never have met." I'm sure that is true. I also suggest that most find people here by searching in their local area, at least in their part of a state, find that person, click online with them, then by phone and then execute the infamous first face-to-face meeting locally. That is the normal meeting I have participated in and also heard of countless times over the years here on this website. Thanks for your reply as I do enjoy reading such wonderful real life tales of successful match-ups here and while one can read about great frustrations in finding "real people" I am certain one can be successful in finding the right matches if you have the right outlook and treat people in these online contacts just as you would when meeting them face-to-face. That attitude has served me well.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/1/2017 9:57:39 PM

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Oh, trying to make this about me again. But back to your question. Of course I need this website. I need it because some of the best submissive women are here and this has been one of the best venues for reaching out to them and they to me. It would be foolish to avoid them. You can find more here of high quality than in munches and the club.

Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't hear your post when it was originally done because I was busy engaging in kink.

I couldn't imagine *needing* CM to find people when there's a club in my own backyard.

ETA - When I'm 70, I might understand your position better.

...find MORE people. I cannot imagine limiting the size of my world to just the club. With CM, the size of my world is...the world. Think bigger.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/1/2017 10:00:27 PM

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...but then, a man will view things differently. I cannot and will not pretend thinking as you do is wrong.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/7/2017 5:21:23 PM

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With CM, the size of my world is...the world.

Point is, LP's well defined circle is much more satisfying than the world. She doesn't need CM because she has personality.
You however, have all the flair of a broken Bic pen.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/7/2017 6:34:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Shandirra

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ORIGINAL: LTE
With CM, the size of my world is...the world.

Point is, LP's well defined circle is much more satisfying than the world. She doesn't need CM because she has personality.
You however, have all the flair of a broken Bic pen.

nm

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/9/2017 4:24:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

I'm quitting Collarspace because you all are just a bunch of horny guys jerking your dicks off at me, calling me "Mistress" when you don't even know me, and expecting me to be some kind of fetish delivery system. You claim to be submissive to dominant women but yet you have no respect for us and show no interest in us as human beings. You sit there and send copy pasta, or approach us as though we are free hookers or free pro dommes. We are people and we are women. We have personalities and interests outside of kink. We like to have normal conversations and go out on dates and all those things you do when you're getting to know someone. You men who claim to be "submissive" don't even have the slightest bit of respect for women, much less would you know how to be the submissive in a female led relationship. I even have my NAME in my username, but nobody uses it. You guys have no personalities, you're boring, and you're all the same.

I'm actually jerking my dick off at you right now.

Ohhhh....I just did it again (my doctor gave me some new pills).

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/9/2017 4:59:04 PM

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You will not be missed

over looking the fact there are so few women on here looking - bit life fetlife eh which is in essence Ashley Madison

behold your creation

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/12/2017 3:10:18 PM

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You will not be missed

over looking the fact there are so few women on here looking - bit life fetlife eh which is in essence Ashley Madison

behold your creation

(I know for a FACT I'd be missed).

(If only for the croutons!).

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/12/2017 5:25:27 PM

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Dear Lisa,

I don't know if this will ever reach you, but I am also on aboutflr. I do know, I am not a horrible worm like some of these you describe. I would love to find a great level 4 relationship. I am also educated, intelligent, and able to carry on a complex conversation with people outside of FLR and BDSM.

I'm apologize for these floaters and hope you are well.

Jerry

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/13/2017 2:13:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: Shandirra

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ORIGINAL: LTE
With CM, the size of my world is...the world.

Point is, LP's well defined circle is much more satisfying than the world. She doesn't need CM because she has personality.
You however, have all the flair of a broken Bic pen.

While I appreciate the support, I really don't think it's because I have personality.

Some of it's just because I'm a decent top with a really cool toy collection.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/14/2017 5:53:31 AM

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A lot of folks think that collarspace sucks for matchmaking.

It does if you simply cold message people, hoping to meet as soon as possible.

I am here for the forums mostly. When I do message someone, it's to comment on something in their profile. Or to let them know what kink resources exist in their area.

The result is that I'm fairly good at getting into enjoyable conversations. That's all I'm looking for now, but it's nice to have kinkfriends.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/14/2017 9:37:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
While I appreciate the support, I really don't think it's because I have personality. Some of it's just because I'm a decent top with a really cool toy collection.

You're welcome.
While a distinct possibility, I've never seen your toy collection.

Side note; mine's mostly from Whispers of Fire but privately, through FL. Her stuff RAWKZ.

**Edited to correct link.**

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/15/2017 12:51:13 AM

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Very nice stuff!

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Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/15/2017 10:46:02 AM

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Page one of master set.
Page two of master set.
Recent addition.

The pink koosh set will be replaced by an all black koosh set once she gets to my place in the queue.

WoF is a very busy lady.
These items don't go clubbing with me. They're for private play. I keep a separate bag of paracord toys for that. Easier to clean.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 5/16/2017 2:06:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

A lot of folks think that collarspace sucks for matchmaking.

It does if you simply cold message people, hoping to meet as soon as possible.

I am here for the forums mostly. When I do message someone, it's to comment on something in their profile. Or to let them know what kink resources exist in their area.

The result is that I'm fairly good at getting into enjoyable conversations. That's all I'm looking for now, but it's nice to have kinkfriends.

Sounds like common sense to me.

I am similar in that I get into some enjoyable conversations, because I don't spend my time here hitting on people. I find it's a bit counter-productive anyway when so many people have had bad online experiences.

Sure you have to be careful that you are not wasting someone's time if you want to talk, make friends and get to know people and the other person is on the fast train to play or a relationship.

All in all though I'd rather get to know people and be helpful/supportive as opposed to using CS as a dating site.

There are decent blokes, there are arseholes, just the same as there are women I wouldn't want to pass the time of day with. Personally I just get on with it and enjoy the good bits when they come.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 6/2/2017 11:25:59 AM

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A lot of folks think that collarspace sucks for matchmaking.

It does if you simply cold message people, hoping to meet as soon as possible.

I am here for the forums mostly. When I do message someone, it's to comment on something in their profile. Or to let them know what kink resources exist in their area.

The result is that I'm fairly good at getting into enjoyable conversations. That's all I'm looking for now, but it's nice to have kinkfriends.

Same here, mostly. I've been here for years mainly just for conversation on the message boards. Not so much these days as I used to, mainly because there's way too much newbie "How do I find a woman to dominate me?" kind of stuff that just gets really old, really fast.

Nowadays, I usually just check out the main page just to see what types of women are showing themselves in my neck of the woods (more of a voyeuristic thing, as I RARELY contact anyone these days)...I think it's mostly to reassure myself that the generation after me is still joining the struggle rather than trying to hook up with anyone myself. And I check out the message boards in hopes of finding an interesting conversation taking place.

As I've said numbers of time in the past, the site is great for matchmaking, as long as I'm not the one pursuing anyone. I know that sounds like it's logically impaired, but I've discovered that if a woman is interested in me, she'll contact me, and we might lead towards an interesting, fruitful relationship (even if it's as friends and people with common interests). If I pursue it as some guy trying to "score" or "hook up", it's rarely ever going to end up being productive, unless I'm seeking a financial dominant who wants to spend my money, a prostitute, a professional, or a game player. There's nothing wrong with any of those, but it's rarely what I'm seeking.

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RE: Dear Male "Subs" - 6/6/2017 3:02:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: LisaSadistic

I'm quitting Collarspace because you all are just a bunch of horny guys jerking your dicks off at me, calling me "Mistress" when you don't even know me, and expecting me to be some kind of fetish delivery system. You claim to be submissive to dominant women but yet you have no respect for us and show no interest in us as human beings. You sit there and send copy pasta, or approach us as though we are free hookers or free pro dommes. We are people and we are women. We have personalities and interests outside of kink. We like to have normal conversations and go out on dates and all those things you do when you're getting to know someone. You men who claim to be "submissive" don't even have the slightest bit of respect for women, much less would you know how to be the submissive in a female led relationship. I even have my NAME in my username, but nobody uses it. You guys have no personalities, you're boring, and you're all the same.

Sounds like you've got a good case of burnout. Been there, done that, have a hundred thousand of those proverbial tee shirts. :) Sometimes we just need to walk it off before giving it more chances...you're never going to get what you want if you give up. Don't let all the wankers and leg humpers make you give up...you'd be giving them power over you. You know what you want. He's here somewhere, or he will likely show up eventually, so don't give up. It takes time, and patience, and...aargh, this is coming from someone who has been on hiatus for a bit over 2 years now so feel free to ignore me. ;)

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