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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Mansplaining.

Telling us that we ought to be flattered even when they've been told repeatedly that we don’t find it complimentary.
Because women can’t decide for themselves what they do and don’t like.

And anything that developed from rap was offensive to begin with. Most early rap was misogynistic af.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

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95 posts later.
Not one woman who has responded in those 95 posts have said its a compliment.
I wonder why that is. Not a single one.
Thanks to the chaps who COULD and did see it as an insult.
To the rest, it becomes like a self fulfilling prophesy.

Lucy, the key of the post is not about IF women think it's a compliment.

But when men actually use that word to describe a woman's body. Do they mean it as an insult or a compliment?

That is what my OP was about.

Obviously, all women would hate any word that would suggest she is larger than slim.

Probably even Ronda Roussey would find it insulting to be called thick. That's pretty much most women reaction to that word. I mean, even women like Beyonce are described as thick sometimes, you see online.

So I appreciate the different opinions from different men on this word.

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ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

FR.
95 posts later.
Not one woman who has responded in those 95 posts have said its a compliment.
I wonder why that is. Not a single one.
Thanks to the chaps who COULD and did see it as an insult.
To the rest, it becomes like a self fulfilling prophesy.

Lucy, the key of the post is not about IF women think it's a compliment.

But when men actually use that word to describe a woman's body. Do they mean it as an insult or a compliment?

That is what my OP was about.

Obviously, all women would hate any word that would suggest she is larger than slim.

Probably even Ronda Roussey would find it insulting to be called thick. That's pretty much most women reaction to that word. I mean, even women like Beyonce are described as thick sometimes, you see online.

So I appreciate the different opinions from different men on this word.

Thank you Greta, gracious as always, for explaining the OP to Lucy.

As I said, I believe it to be a description and is neither a compliment or an insult.

Some men do use it to describe "overweight, fat or obese" women, I do not and it seems most women seem to think that is what it means.

To me, the word has nothing to do with being "overweight, fat or obese" and so there many "overweight, fat or obese" women that are not "Thick" and many "Thick" women that are not "overweight, fat or obese".

Let me give another example; Lindsey Vonn, I don't think any one would say she is "overweight, fat or obese" or even close but if you put her next to other women skiers she is going to make most of them look small or slight, there is a definite physiological difference, what do you call that difference?

Personally I'd just say she's "Thick", people use to say "big boned" but that has become a euphemism for "fat or obese" and so has become unusable and now it seems that Women are beginning to think that "Thick" means "overweight, fat or obese" so maybe it's time to find another word for "Thick" that hasn't yet acquired the connotation of overweight.

PS I have never told any women that she is thick; I learned long ago that most women are super sensitive about their weight, it is almost like the first thing they do is check everything said to them for for something that can misconstrued as a comment on their weight, even if it was the farthest thing from your mind.

For some "Blue moon sinking from the weight of the load" is obviously a comment on the weight of every women in sight. ;-)

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ORIGINAL: DocStrange

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ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

FR.
95 posts later.
Not one woman who has responded in those 95 posts have said its a compliment.
I wonder why that is. Not a single one.
Thanks to the chaps who COULD and did see it as an insult.
To the rest, it becomes like a self fulfilling prophesy.

Lucy, the key of the post is not about IF women think it's a compliment.

But when men actually use that word to describe a woman's body. Do they mean it as an insult or a compliment?

That is what my OP was about.

Obviously, all women would hate any word that would suggest she is larger than slim.

Probably even Ronda Roussey would find it insulting to be called thick. That's pretty much most women reaction to that word. I mean, even women like Beyonce are described as thick sometimes, you see online.

So I appreciate the different opinions from different men on this word.

Thank you Greta, gracious as always, for explaining the OP to Lucy.

As I said, I believe it to be a description and is neither a compliment or an insult.

Some men do use it to describe "overweight, fat or obese" women, I do not and it seems most women seem to think that is what it means.

To me, the word has nothing to do with being "overweight, fat or obese" and so there many "overweight, fat or obese" women that are not "Thick" and many "Thick" women that are not "overweight, fat or obese".

Let me give another example; Lindsey Vonn, I don't think any one would say she is "overweight, fat or obese" or even close but if you put her next to other women skiers she is going to make most of them look small or slight, there is a definite physiological difference, what do you call that difference?

Personally I'd just say she's "Thick", people use to say "big boned" but that has become a euphemism for "fat or obese" and so has become unusable and now it seems that Women are beginning to think that "Thick" means "overweight, fat or obese" so maybe it's time to find another word for "Thick" that hasn't yet acquired the connotation of overweight.

PS I have never told any women that she is thick; I learned long ago that most women are super sensitive about their weight, it is almost like the first thing they do is check everything said to them for for something that can misconstrued as a comment on their weight, even if it was the farthest thing from your mind.

For some "Blue moon sinking from the weight of the load" is obviously a comment on the weight of every women in sight. ;-)

It does not change the fact in 103 posts now, not 1 woman considered it a compliment and most have told you it is an insult.

If you want to be stupid and not learn from the fact, have at it. Personally I try not to purposely insult people.