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"Hello (name/title), how are you doing? What are your limits? Preferred kinks? How is your gag reflex? Do you have any objections to Relyfe Programming? Do not consent unless you know what it is."

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ummmm, yeah. That's not entirely correct. Are you trying to tell me that NO women here have vanilla interests on their profiles?

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

I'm way fat in all my other pics. Can't take another because I can't walk currently. Recovering from a stroke. EDIT - What's wrong with my profile text?

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Ah, so your picture is misleading, wonderful.

No it's not. Read my confession post on page 1. i'm not typing it again.

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And the text is poorly written, it is disjointed and rambles around more or less at random.

Thank you for the input. i've modified my profile and experienced a little success.

(in reply to ThatDizzyChick)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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"Hello (name/title), how are you doing? What are your limits? Preferred kinks? How is your gag reflex? Do you have any objections to Relyfe Programming? Do not consent unless you know what it is."

Yeah, I probably would reply to that message in the following way

I am fine
None of your fucking business
None of your fucking business
None of your fucking business
Fuck no.

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83
"Hello (name/title), how are you doing? What are your limits? Preferred kinks? How is your gag reflex? Do you have any objections to Relyfe Programming? Do not consent unless you know what it is."

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83
"Hello (name/title), how are you doing? What are your limits? Preferred kinks? How is your gag reflex? Do you have any objections to Relyfe Programming? Do not consent unless you know what it is."

This is a horrible introduction and nobody will reply you.

You should start with reading her profile, and think of a compliment. Like if you think she looks nice in the picture, whether nice hair, like her hair style, she got beautiful eyes, or you love the outfit she is wearing. Or even say that you like her writings and the way she articulates herself. Say something nice and genuine that is HER specific.

And then, a short introduction about yourself, like, what kind of person you are. "Hi, I'm basically a gentle and easy going guy, who is on here looking for a long term relationship with someone who shares my interests. I was looking at your profile, and I notice that we might enjoy some things in common, and I would like to get to know you better to see if we fit. By the way, you have beautiful eyes! How is your day going so far today?"

And i think your first few lines should be getting to know her as a vanilla person first. After breaking the ice, and then maybe ask some of the kink questions you have.

Also think about this. The way you ask your questions is very arrogant, AS IF she has already agreed to play with you. Both of you are just strangers! Most women would read that and feel offended and find you arrogant and since you don't own her, she doesn't even have to bother with you. That's gonna be like the first response it triggers. As you are the one approaching her, and not her approaching you.

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

Thank you. That was beyond helpful. Much more than I was beginning to expect.

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

Just like the title says. Is something wrong with my profile? My approach? I hardly ever can get anyone to message me back.

EDIT - Slaves seem to hate one-liners, so I put the first few questions I want to ask them. I don't do forms, but the questions are usually similar. "Hello (name/title), how are you doing? What are your limits? Preferred kinks? How is your gag reflex? Do you have any objections to Relyfe Programming? Do not consent unless you know what it is." And anything profile specific. However profiles are generally generic and non-specific.

EDIT - this might help - http://collarspace.com/personals/v/678060/details.htm

Question... If you were to meet a person at a kink event, is that how you would approach them? Just walk up to them and start asking deeply personal questions about their sexual habits and preferences?

Well no, but this is a dating website. We know what we're here for. What should I say?

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

Just like the title says. Is something wrong with my profile? My approach? I hardly ever can get anyone to message me back.

EDIT - Slaves seem to hate one-liners, so I put the first few questions I want to ask them. I don't do forms, but the questions are usually similar. "Hello (name/title), how are you doing? What are your limits? Preferred kinks? How is your gag reflex? Do you have any objections to Relyfe Programming? Do not consent unless you know what it is." And anything profile specific. However profiles are generally generic and non-specific.

EDIT - this might help - http://collarspace.com/personals/v/678060/details.htm

Question... If you were to meet a person at a kink event, is that how you would approach them? Just walk up to them and start asking deeply personal questions about their sexual habits and preferences?

Well no, but this is a dating website. We know what we're here for. What should I say?

Those aren't "dating" questions. They're things that are none of your business until I decide you're worth sharing that information with you.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83
"Hello (name/title), how are you doing? What are your limits? Preferred kinks? How is your gag reflex? Do you have any objections to Relyfe Programming? Do not consent unless you know what it is."

This is a horrible introduction and nobody will reply you.

You should start with reading her profile, and think of a compliment. Like if you think she looks nice in the picture, whether nice hair, like her hair style, she got beautiful eyes, or you love the outfit she is wearing. Or even say that you like her writings and the way she articulates herself. Say something nice and genuine that is HER specific.

And then, a short introduction about yourself, like, what kind of person you are. "Hi, I'm basically a gentle and easy going guy, who is on here looking for a long term relationship with someone who shares my interests. I was looking at your profile, and I notice that we might enjoy some things in common, and I would like to get to know you better to see if we fit. By the way, you have beautiful eyes! How is your day going so far today?"

And i think your first few lines should be getting to know her as a vanilla person first. After breaking the ice, and then maybe ask some of the kink questions you have.

Also think about this. The way you ask your questions is very arrogant, AS IF she has already agreed to play with you. Both of you are just strangers! Most women would read that and feel offended and find you arrogant and since you don't own her, she doesn't even have to bother with you. That's gonna be like the first response it triggers. As you are the one approaching her, and not her approaching you.

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Well. Remember this is not "plenty of fish". So be bad, tell her who you are and what you like and complement her in the way it is done here, most of them are showing you a lot of themselves and looking for notice so notice what they show and why you like it and tell them about yourself cause they are very much wanting to know about you.

Don't be too nice, you will lose her. Once you hear back and learn a little about what she is interested in with you then tailor your messages to her unique interests. I once started a porn short novel starring her and me using cmail and she would play her part and write back her part of the plot. Then it was a phone call and dinner and then it was rope and candle and red and blue/green stripes time and then it was collar time in kinda that order over several weeks.

Several weeks is not my norm. On the first and sometimes second face to face most of the girls have decided and are working very hard to interest and please you. Clean up your picture and use one that is accurate. work out if it is not to your liking, she will not notice as much as you think.

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

Also, my pic is accurate. I noticed more weight loss the other day. Please read my post on page 1 that starts with "Confession Time!".

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ORIGINAL: LTE

Then it is confidence that you lack. They can smell it a mile away and it turns them completely off. With knowledge and experience comes confidence which means you need to suffer through rejections and learn from them and also join a local BDSM club and learn what you like to do and read a few books on the subject. Believe it or not, I learned how to use a flogger using an old pillow with butt checks drawn on it at the proper place and measurements. It takes practice to develop your skills and using a girl to practice on is not really advisable. Confidence backed by experience both good and bad is the way you will be successful.

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ORIGINAL: LTE

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

Also, my pic is accurate. I noticed more weight loss the other day. Please read my post on page 1 that starts with "Confession Time!".

Get some sunglasses and learn to scowl. Also, none of the books tell you how to pull hair so here is a tip, pull her hair from the lowest point possible, never the ends, at the roots start slow for a second or two and then pull slowly like you own her but don't jerk her neck, slowly expose her neck as in she is prey. Kiss her neck and then her lips. How she responds to this will signal where you kiss next.