quote: Thanx I know, I didn't figure a complete description of how safe words work was necessary, I was just trying to convey the notion that sometimes a little conversation can give a better idea of where everyone is than waiting for the sub to decide if they've reached "Yellow" or "Red" yet.
Because "red" doesn't really tell what the problem is and give no direction on how the problem can be swiftly and immediately corrected. In fact a simple "that feels a little tight" could avoid a "red" altogether.
There is more than just "red". There is in my case, "yellow" which means, don't stop but just stop whatever you are doing currently and move on to something else, as the current shit is uncomfortable.
"Red" means game over, stop completely.
So "Yellow" conveys it well enough without having to end all the play.
quote: No, it's not.
But that's not what this topic is about.
quote: Without a doubt, inappropriate and unprofessional but if it's "right" then inappropriate and unprofessional doesn't really enter into it.
But end of the day, it is inappropriate and unprofessional for a superior to pursue an employee no matter what. Because it's conflict of interest. How can he date someone and then be fair at work and not give special treatment to her?
quote: I agree completely.
It's that dynamic that makes it instantly like harassment when she says no second time.
quote:Yes, the workplace is totally different and has differing standards.
If this guy was like maybe from a social event that I met not at work or something, and he asked me out twice or thrice. I wouldn't consider it harassment.
quote:Interesting story and accept for him not being honest at first, seemed to be handled well.
One of my male friends, he actually had sex with a woman, like met her a club and fucked her and they started seeing each other. But he wasn't honest about what he did for a living as he is quite high up, but claim to be of lower status.
But as he got to know her, he realized that she actually applied to his company. And is in the final two choices and potentially becoming his employee.
Eventually, basically, he really liked her and had a dilemma. He can't date her if she is gonna be his employee.
When he confess to her what he actually is, and the company she applied for, he is gonna be her boss and they can't have a relationship IF she wanted to work there.
She voluntarily pull out of working in that company because she wanted to be with him.
And continued her job search else where.
I mean, it's really sticky at work for employer and employee to date.