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Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 3:44:55 PM   
Spellbinder83


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Looked around and didn't see a better place to post this. So I just decided to post here since I know you guys love me. We match so well but I can't even get this girl to look at my profile. Here's the message text so you guys can tel me what's wrong with it if you want. I know the message isn't perfect, but is it really that bad? C'mon, eviscerate me. I know you guys want to.

"Hello. I don't want to inflate my expectations, but my search may be over. Your profile spoke to me; it is exactly what I am looking for. Take a look at my profile if you think I'm exaggerating.

Sure, I am looking for 24/7 and TPE, but hear me out. All of this must be negotiated first, and while control does excite me, I don't need it all the time.

Have your own life. Be your own person. Sure, once in a while I will put my foot down and tell you to stay home, but keeping you from your friends and family on a long term basis is abusive.

You can even work if you wish but I should make enough for you to stay at home, and that is what I would prefer. But I wont resent you or anything if you work outside the home. Though working from home would be best.

This point is a bit complicated so stay with me. I had a health incident on March 29th, and qualify for home health. The person they sent is an extremely submissive Asian girl. She has an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things and anticipating needs. She is married and I do not find her physically attractive, but her need to please is remarkable and I find her submissive soul beautiful. I keep everything respectful because she is married, but sometimes I just close my eyes and enjoy her serving me.

During your free time, you're mine. Need time for vanilla things? It's yours. My slave was like that. I gave her so much freedom that she probably shouldn't be considered a slave, but that was our arrangement."
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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 4:09:08 PM   
Wayward5oul


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She hasn't even looked at your profile, yet you are already telling her how your life together will be?

Dude, that's creepy and I would delete any such message immediately.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 4:22:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

She hasn't even looked at your profile, yet you are already telling her how your life together will be?

Dude, that's creepy and I would delete any such message immediately.

She made it clear she wanted her own life. I told her she could have it. How is that creepy?

I wrote to her profile. Is it within the rules to link one?

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:16:53 PM   
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You asked for opinions, I gave my opinion.

I have no desire to see her profile, so no need to link it or send it in a personal message. I don't engage in discussions off the forums with people I don't know.

Obviously she has issues with the message or she would have responded. My opinion is that it is creepy. If you disagree, then you can ignore my response. No need to try and convince me otherwise. Many women consider that a red flag as well.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:26:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

You asked for opinions, I gave my opinion.

I have no desire to see her profile, so no need to link it or send it in a personal message. I don't engage in discussions off the forums with people I don't know.

Obviously she has issues with the message or she would have responded. My opinion is that it is creepy. If you disagree, then you can ignore my response. No need to try and convince me otherwise. Many women consider that a red flag as well.

I sent you the PM because it had a link to a profile in it. If I knew it was ok, I would have just posted it on the forum. Because the message was written to the profile, it sounds creepy without reading that first.

If attempting to clear up a misunderstanding is too forward, then whatever.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:33:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

She made it clear she wanted her own life. I told her she could have it. How is that creepy?

I wrote to her profile. Is it within the rules to link one?


Because you're not writing to her profile. You're writing to yourself, about yourself.

I'm guessing she said that she doesn't want 24/7 or TPE, and here you are trying to convince her that she should because somehow you're different.

And the part about your home care worker? That's fucking disgusting. How noble of you to keep things "respectful" - AKA not sexually harassing a woman at work. The reason to keep it respectful is that she's at work, doing her job. Period.

That poor woman is not there to please you. She's not there to be sexy. She's not there to be submissive to you. Her job description is to "offer to do things and anticipate needs". Being good at her job has nothing to do with her soul.

And on mentioning that she's Asian... that's fetishizing as fuck. The healthcare worker is a woman not a girl. You have no idea what her nature or soul is, nor what her intense desires are. I can guarantee the healthcare worker was Black (or any race other than Asian) doing an ace job at caring for you, you would not consider her suburb work ethic to be of her innate "submissive soul" having "an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond". Get over your disgusting yellow fever.

In conclusion, yes it's a terrible message, disgusting on several levels.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:36:58 PM   
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Give me the names of other free BDSM dating sites and I will leave. This place sucks. We are PERFECT for each other and she won't even look at my profile to figure that out for herself.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:39:54 PM   
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Nice of you to fucking judge me for enjoying someone else's personality. Fuck off.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:45:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: cloverodella

quote:

ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

She made it clear she wanted her own life. I told her she could have it. How is that creepy?

I wrote to her profile. Is it within the rules to link one?


Because you're not writing to her profile. You're writing to yourself, about yourself.

I'm guessing she said that she doesn't want 24/7 or TPE, and here you are trying to convince her that she should because somehow you're different.

And the part about your home care worker? That's fucking disgusting. How noble of you to keep things "respectful" - AKA not sexually harassing a woman at work. The reason to keep it respectful is that she's at work, doing her job. Period.

That poor woman is not there to please you. She's not there to be sexy. She's not there to be submissive to you. Her job description is to "offer to do things and anticipate needs". Being good at her job has nothing to do with her soul.

And on mentioning that she's Asian... that's fetishizing as fuck. The healthcare worker is a woman not a girl. You have no idea what her nature or soul is, nor what her intense desires are. I can guarantee the healthcare worker was Black (or any race other than Asian) doing an ace job at caring for you, you would not consider her suburb work ethic to be of her innate "submissive soul" having "an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond". Get over your disgusting yellow fever.

Fuck you. she TOLD me she was Asian. She's also from Singapore. And just because it's in your job description doesn't mean you do it. The first two girls didn't do jack shit. Take your judgement and stick it up your ass.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:50:19 PM   
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Come on and tell me so I can leave this judgemental fucking hellhole!

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 5:56:56 PM   
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I'm looking for my life partner, this isnt a fucking game to me. We were perfect for each other and now I lose out because she wont look at my fucking profile. Tell me some sites so I can get away from this goddamn nightmare machine.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 6:51:41 PM   
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Why did you stop replying? Did I put the Queens of the message board in their place with the truth? I'm not puttimg up with ignorance anymore. Legit replies get legit responses. You make a stupid reply, you get a response that calls out your stupidity.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 6:59:07 PM   
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Dude, you have issues.

You asked for an opinion. I gave it. I needed no further comment.

If you want to be taken seriously as a dom, you might want to stop acting like a child throwing a tantrum.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 7:05:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


Dude, you have issues.

You asked for an opinion. I gave it. I needed no further comment.

If you want to be taken seriously as a dom, you might want to stop acting like a child throwing a tantrum.

I do not care what any of you judgemental fuckers think of me. I want to get out of this place. Nobody takes me seriously as a dom anyway so why fucking try? I was polite for 7 pages on my first thread and was still reamed out. Politeness doesnt work so maybe rudeness does.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 7:22:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


Dude, you have issues.

You asked for an opinion. I gave it. I needed no further comment.

If you want to be taken seriously as a dom, you might want to stop acting like a child throwing a tantrum.

You were part of the gang that treated me like shit, and you say I have issues? You treat new people terribly. No wonder it's the same 5 people who post about things. The kink community is renown for being welcoming. You are a fucking fake.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 7:32:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83


quote:

ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


Dude, you have issues.

You asked for an opinion. I gave it. I needed no further comment.

If you want to be taken seriously as a dom, you might want to stop acting like a child throwing a tantrum.

You were part of the gang that treated me like shit, and you say I have issues? You treat new people terribly. No wonder it's the same 5 people who post about things. The kink community is renown for being welcoming. You are a fucking fake.

Put up for shut up dude. I challenge you to show where I treated you like shit.

In return, I can post your private messages to me, where you admitted I was being kind and thanked me for it.


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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/23/2017 9:50:25 PM   
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Good Lord, man. Forget about finding a match until you see a counselor for your issues. You need to develop control over yourself prior to taking control of someone else.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 12:45:25 AM   
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Did no one tell you "it's better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt"? In your case, substitute fool for whiny little pissant.

When you've matured enough to realize no one owes you a damned thing, you might also realize that no response to your message is a response. It means "not f*cking interested".

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I love it when someone insults me. That means I don't have to be nice anymore.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 3:52:57 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


quote:

ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83


quote:

ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


Dude, you have issues.

You asked for an opinion. I gave it. I needed no further comment.

If you want to be taken seriously as a dom, you might want to stop acting like a child throwing a tantrum.

You were part of the gang that treated me like shit, and you say I have issues? You treat new people terribly. No wonder it's the same 5 people who post about things. The kink community is renown for being welcoming. You are a fucking fake.

Put up for shut up dude. I challenge you to show where I treated you like shit.

In return, I can post your private messages to me, where you admitted I was being kind and thanked me for it.



Doesn't count. I wrote that when I was trying to be nice and make friends. The only issue I have is being stuck here with you. I wrote that before I knew what a bitch you were.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 4:24:56 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Good Lord, man. Forget about finding a match until you see a counselor for your issues. You need to develop control over yourself prior to taking control of someone else.

I have control and can stop whenever I want. Acting this way is a choice. I don't remember you so I have no vitriol for you. I'm tired of getting cursed at when I ask a simple question. I regret that you would be collateral damage in the actions I am considering taking. I get the names of other free sites and I am gone forever.

Oh. She looked at my profile. She was not interested. All I wanted was a fair shake. I got one. I sent her this message in response. " You looked at my profile, and didn't reply. I can respect that. That was all I wanted. I will not message you again."

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