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addisonclarkgirl -> Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 7:46:41 PM)

i've been wondering if being a Daddy's girl, enjoying the roleplay of it, falls under the category of BDSM?  i'm sure it depends on what one incorporates into the play, but i'm just curious to see what everyone thinks.  Also, is the little girl in the roleplay, isn't she the top in the situation?  Doesn't she get spoiled?  Doesn't she wrap Daddy around her little finger? 

i feel that i'm submissive, but i enjoy this role so much.  Is it truly BDSM and if it is, which role is the more dominant one?



SirDarkside357 -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 8:09:47 PM)

Actually, if daddy is a good daddy, he is always in charge.  WEG



Passion357 -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 8:11:00 PM)

Greetings, addison,

I think this question would be better asked on the "Ask a slave" forum LOL.
I am no Master, but I do have an answer. [:)]
For me, being Daddy's girl was only brought out in me by the BDSM part of my life. I suppose it can be in any style of life. It just seems to fit more under the BDSM Umbrella than anywhere else. That is just my opinion, though. I also think that the Daddy is the Dominant in this "roleplay". Hence the term "Daddy Dom". Yes the little girl gets spoiled- sometimes- but not always. Either way, without Daddy spoiling her, she wouldn't be able to play out the role. So, no, the little girl is not the Dominant party.

                                                           Well Wishes,
                                                              ~mate'~



HouseofBear -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 8:14:43 PM)

Actually, I have seen role play done where the "little" in the situation was the dominant and the "adult" was the submissive.  From having seen this couple operate, and it work for them, I would say that how each role is done would depend on how the couple wishes it to work.  Not all "littles" are spoiled rotten, chuckles.



SCORPIOXXX -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 8:18:38 PM)

Hi addison... I am a DOM with a big Daddy streak in me, and here is how I look at the D/s dynamic (DOM/sub, or Daddy/slut, or both, lol?), albeit a short answer here...

Before addressing your specific questions, keep this in mind: there is a school of thought that says the bottom/sub/slave is a ctually the one in charge, inasmuch as she sets the Hard Limits, or the absence of them... But that's a bit of a generalization as every specific relationship is individual... Not to mention that a Daddy's role extends beyond BDSM play...

But strictly (ha ha) within the scope of Play, The Daddy is necessarily the one in charge: he instructs his girl in proper behavior, trains her to perform in manners that please him and serve him, punishes or rewards her as deserved, uses her for his own pleasure and purposes because He is, well: the Man of the House... Does she get spoiled by all that? If she loves to please, then yes; ditto if she loves the comfort and release of punishment and discipline (and the soothing Daddy love that follows)... Does she wrap Daddy around her finger? Pookster: it's a two way street -- if the relationship is steady, you are both wrapped around each other's finger!



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 8:37:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: addisonclarkgirl
i've been wondering if being a Daddy's girl, enjoying the roleplay of it, falls under the category of BDSM?

It falls into the category of kink- which is far broader than "bdsm" although the two are often used synonymously.

quote:

Also, is the little girl in the roleplay, isn't she the top in the situation?  Doesn't she get spoiled?  Doesn't she wrap Daddy around her little finger? 

Depends on what you want.  Some daddys girls are very compliant and not at all spoiled (in fact spoiled little boys and girls are often shunned in group littles situations), and some are definitely the ones topping from the bottom.

I can enjoy both sides.
quote:


i feel that i'm submissive, but i enjoy this role so much.  Is it truly BDSM and if it is, which role is the more dominant one?

Whichever one is the one in authority.  Remember that being nice to someone doesn't mean they aren't the one in authority.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_278285/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#278992
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http://www.collarchat.com/m_259176/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#259184
Are there any daddies here?

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popeye1250 -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 8:49:19 PM)

My sub is always "my little girl."



RexLongBeach -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/16/2006 11:07:12 PM)

I knew I was Dom long before I knew I was a "Daddy." It took a Daddy's Girl to help me really understand that part of myself in the context of the whole D/s dynamic.

I'm sure there are some who do the Daddy/Daddy's girl thing without a D/s or BDSM subtext, but inherent in being Dad is being in charge. So, even without the rituals, protocols, and other trappings of D/s and BDSM, you still have a power exchange.

Yes, some girls get more spoiled than others, just as some subs top from the bottom...

To answer the core question (which is the more "Dominant" role): that's going to vary from relationship to relationship.

Rex



porcelaine -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/17/2006 3:11:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: addisonclarkgirl

i've been wondering if being a Daddy's girl, enjoying the roleplay of it, falls under the category of BDSM?  i'm sure it depends on what one incorporates into the play, but i'm just curious to see what everyone thinks.  Also, is the little girl in the roleplay, isn't she the top in the situation?  Doesn't she get spoiled?  Doesn't she wrap Daddy around her little finger? 

i feel that i'm submissive, but i enjoy this role so much.  Is it truly BDSM and if it is, which role is the more dominant one?


No, it is not specific to the BDSM culture, though there are some that choice to engage in this manner of relating. Please understand there are three strains of the Daddy/little girl interaction. These are parental, sexual, or a combination of the two. I have participated in all three in and outside of the lifestyle. While a power dynamic exists I wouldn't consider the child to be the top. Although it is true some do enjoy the spoiled brat on occasion, it is typical of little girls to find great fulfillment in pleasing their father. My situations have been reminiscent of a typical relationship between father and daughter with the exception of intercourse.

I can only speak of my experiences in relation to your last questions. I have been spoiled immensely in some relationships and relegated for use in others. It simply depends on the parties involved, their interests and needs. I'm including a website that provides a more detailed description of the various forms of play that can exist between two. If you have additional questions please feel free to inquire.

http://www.mybdsm.com/pages/Vamp/lgl/intro.html

porcelaine



sleazybutterfly -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/17/2006 3:31:47 PM)

I don't know if it's okay that I answer here, but it wouldn't be the first time.

I am a "Daddy's girl" to the one I am with.  I don't think this part of me came out very much until I got into BDSM, but I don't totally see it as a part of it.  I think now even if I went into a vanilla relationship, I would take the Daddy/daughter role with me.  It might not be acted out in the same way, but it would still exist.

~Andrea



NastyDaddy -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/17/2006 7:42:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: addisonclarkgirl

i've been wondering if being a Daddy's girl, enjoying the roleplay of it, falls under the category of BDSM?  i'm sure it depends on what one incorporates into the play, but i'm just curious to see what everyone thinks.  Also, is the little girl in the roleplay, isn't she the top in the situation?  Doesn't she get spoiled?  Doesn't she wrap Daddy around her little finger? 

i feel that i'm submissive, but i enjoy this role so much.  Is it truly BDSM and if it is, which role is the more dominant one?



Daddy/daughter roleplay exists under either a D/s,  M/s or a combination of D/s-M/s category of BDSM. There is structure and defined roles and the daughter is usually not a Top (lol)... this could vary by the participants of course, but is not the norm.

You will find various flavors yes... but the common denominator will be a dominant Daddy, not a sub daddy to a Dom Babygirl... that's actually pretty funny the more I think about it, thanks for the chuckle.... MUHAHAHAHA!!!  

May I help you... Your Highness Little Queen Princess? LOL [:D] 

 



Voltare -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/17/2006 10:26:45 PM)

addison,

Some great answers already.  Something to bear in mind, naturally, is that BDSM is much a reflection of our lives - with just about as many infinate combinations.  You have spoiled princess subbie brats, you have the impetuous princess Domme, and the 'I can't make up my mind to be slave, sub, switch, or Domme today' switch little girl role.  None are wrong, they just reflect what people are really like.

So, sure, it falls under the BDSM heading.  My gretchen and I are quite happy with the Daddy/little girl dynamic, though it's hardly an incestuous type of roleplay for us.  When we roleplay, she never tops - she's the one being spanked, or corrupted, or abused.  When we're finished, she's spoiled a bit, cuddled, and told she's a good girl.  There's nothing 'unsubmissive' about her being the little girl, and I feel no question that our D/s power dynamic falls clearly under the heading 'BDSM'.

I hope that helps.

Stephan



WildnWicked -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/17/2006 10:48:55 PM)

Wondering if tossing out there the concept of a Daddy who is a bio-female would throw this whole topic off?

While I enjoy somewhat of a Daddy/girl relationship with my partner.. we are both Tops. There is no SM play between us.. it is just who we are together. (for better or for worse..lol) In private, I stomp.. pout.. and have hissy fits when I want my way. lol And I usually get it. We both know I am going to get my way but the game is fun to play. Keeps things fun between us. Yeah.. it isn't something I do in front of my bois/boys..lol. (think sickening baby talk between vanilla couples.. something they do in private at not at the company christmas party..lol)

I am a female, no doubt about it. However, I identify as a Leather Daddy and have a few bois/boys that I enjoy playing with.  It is who I am and I enjoy male energy (both giving and receiving).  I don't feel one iota of feminine energy when I engage in SM play or in a Leather environment.

Imagine having a straight male partner who has a female partner who identifies as a Daddy. lol.. Throws lots of people off.









Sasy -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/17/2006 10:58:20 PM)

Hmmmm  Last I  checked ......  Daddy was ALWAYS in control


They only  let us get so  far in play .....



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/17/2006 11:11:14 PM)

WildnWicked, you sound like me with my boy.  I am the Man in the realtionship, and often the daddy type.  He is definately the femme, and the little girl. It is just how our realtionship has progressed... public and private.  I never decided t be that way, its just how we interact

DV



BrokenDoll -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/18/2006 1:35:01 AM)

Honestly I natrually fall into the daddys lil girl role... Iv always been told I have an inosence about me something that says "protect me" Most Doms I have been with natrally take on a Daddy type role with me(even befor I knew it was what I wanted and started asking for it) because I really do have a very niieve inosent child like nature to me even I see it in myself I have the curiasity and mischivousness(oh man I have NO idea how to spell those) of a 5 year old that make Doms want to Discipline and take care of me. But yes I do like it I like it because it is the dynamic that makes me feel safe and loved!!! And I guess that is what is importend feeling safe and Loved.



Wolfie648 -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/18/2006 2:19:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: addisonclarkgirl

i've been wondering if being a Daddy's girl, enjoying the roleplay of it, falls under the category of BDSM?  i'm sure it depends on what one incorporates into the play, but i'm just curious to see what everyone thinks.  Also, is the little girl in the roleplay, isn't she the top in the situation?  Doesn't she get spoiled?  Doesn't she wrap Daddy around her little finger? 

i feel that i'm submissive, but i enjoy this role so much.  Is it truly BDSM and if it is, which role is the more dominant one?


Being a Daddy's girl (as far as I am concerned) definitely falls under BDSM. By itself it's more D/s than S/M.

Who has the power? Depends on the situation.

D (owner of j)



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/18/2006 7:04:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WildnWicked
Wondering if tossing out there the concept of a Daddy who is a bio-female would throw this whole topic off?

Not for me, but I have lots of friends and acquaintances in leather families and its far more common there than in the modern het bdsm relationship.

But yeah, not following traditional gender stereotype roles does throw lots of people off...which can be fun, or aggravating. :)



gingersnap -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/18/2006 4:43:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: addisonclarkgirl

i've been wondering if being a Daddy's girl, enjoying the roleplay of it, falls under the category of BDSM?  i'm sure it depends on what one incorporates into the play, but i'm just curious to see what everyone thinks.  Also, is the little girl in the roleplay, isn't she the top in the situation?  Doesn't she get spoiled?  Doesn't she wrap Daddy around her little finger? 

i feel that i'm submissive, but i enjoy this role so much.  Is it truly BDSM and if it is, which role is the more dominant one?


Spoiled?  Top?  Ummm NO!

Being a Daddy's girl is not roleplay for me.  I need the guidance he offers, the love he gives, and the discipline.  I am not much for age play,  it is more about the other things.  But I have not once been spoiled, and have never been allowed to Top. 

I think that is the princesses out there!

gin



alwayshis1 -> RE: Daddy's Girl (8/18/2006 5:00:11 PM)

knows a well resepected gay domme, that actualy is known as daddy,, followed by her name in her local circles, her relationship is that of a daddy dom with a female submissive.
personally i like a little daddy in the men i get to know, not that i get into the role playing of the age at all, i just like the comfort i find in daddy, and its also a comforting term in a relationship before you are at the place to refer to him as master



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