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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/1/2008 10:42:09 AM

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The idea for me has been all about what gave my former master the greatest satisfaction. After awhile, it didn't really matter what it was, if I was capable of doing it, I would try to do it. My efforts were not always met with success, but I'll tell you, the look on his face when all was done was something I pretty much lived for. So, it wasn't the act that initially drove me, but his enjoyment of the effort.

As for a dominant who desires to receive anal, I see nothing "undomly" about enjoying a physical sensation, whatever it is. I have come to love diving my face into a man's ass and reaching as far as I can, and to give him the most enjoyable sensations I can. I have only done this with my former master and with the man I am currently seeing, and the more they grunt and moan, the hotter it is for me. And if they were to want anything other than my face/mouth/tongue in there, it would be something I'd gladly do.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/1/2008 12:28:21 PM

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Directed by another to this thread,

I desire anal and have no problems with that desire, it does not make me feel submissive or any less of a man. On the contrary, it makes me feel more of a human for being willing to try to seek pleasure where it may be found and cutting the crap of cultural conditioning. Not only do I seek anal from a woman, but would also accept it from a man, either, or but of course once health issues have been ascertained.

I am not sure if I am correct in this, but would a man be better for maximum pleasure or a woman, based upon the fact that it is naturally male to thrust, would a man know how to stimulate a man better than a woman ?

As to this dominant thing, for me, it is irrelevant, we do what we do for pleasure and fun, why limit ourselves for a misplaced ideal.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/2/2008 10:39:38 PM

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Didn't expect to see this as a topic.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/3/2008 3:38:18 AM

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I'll let you know I'm a DOM, been amongst you many years. I'm male, super strait, and too widely known to morph relationships by posting this post under my closely and widely watched profile.

Dominanc does not equal freedom. Dominance equals responsibility.

Everything is a matter of interpretation. A DOM can be stimulated analy for whatever reason (HE) chooses.

Examples: Relaxation, Reward, Punishment, Hitting the reset button of the tenth nerve of the brain ergo Major Vagal, Pleasure? no not exactly. More to the former, etc.

Having your female sub or slave insert her arm into You past the elbow, will inspire an emotional reaction.
I have used this activity to reward and to punish subs (not Myself lol). It is very effective.

If your subs and slaves are permitted to feel emotion (and I hope they are), before they are given direction as to what they should feel, such an extreme activity will inspire a natural visceral emotional reaction.

Some (always female) subs or slaves have been pleased beyond belief (Glowing in Spirit) beeming with delight by being afforded the opportunity to participate in what can be described from the position of the DOM as an endeavor.

Some (always female) subs or slaves have been abhorred beyond belief (Shrowded in Spirit) revulsed with shame and humiliation by being made to participate in what can be described from the position of the DOM as an endeavor.

So I think I want to remind you to use everything as a tool to train your s/S's. Developing what you want to inspire of them and take into consideration the unique qualities and reactions, those for whom you are responsible will bring to your life.

subs and Slaves generally reflect their counterpart's intentions rather then portray their own motivations. So the foundation that creates their emotional template is not of their own design but rather what has been reinforced. Again, back to "responsibility". That means an s/S can like, what a D/M shows her that she should. A thin line could be drawn between freedom of thought in submissives vs. Slaves but I think that deliniation would be on a relationship by relationship basis.

ROFL the focas can go so far as to not be about whether a D/M likes it when an s/S licks or mounts or maintains stridency while Dom and Master relaxes and envelops 27 inches of her forelimb nor whether "she likes to do it" and what motivates her D/M is not inconsequential but naturally a given. Rather the question might be how will You use receiving anal stimuli in a scene?

If my ass is offtopic I assure you it can still definately remain on point. {semi-subtle pun}

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/3/2008 4:43:48 AM

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A man's got to do what he's got to do and het what he needs. Really has no interest for me and would be unlikely in this lifetime but each to his own.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/3/2008 5:04:57 AM

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This is a complete mystery to me, .dark. I had been 'rimmiing', 'massaging the prostrate', etc. as part of the whole *bjs are joyful* thing as a vanilla woman decades before I ever heard of D/s, and I never had a lover tell me to stop. I didn't know it had a name, but ya, I knew other women did it during bjs too.

Why would a Dom have more sexual hang ups than a vanilla guy?

Sometimes i think I'm not getting all the memos, he he.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/3/2008 6:40:41 AM

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Why would a Dom have more sexual hang ups than a vanilla guy?

Some people see acts as submissive, rather than intention.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/3/2008 6:45:39 AM

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It isn't what you desire that would make you undomly, it is being unable to demand it for fear of appearing undomly that would make one so

Well said.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/6/2008 1:43:38 PM

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As a submissive, if thats what my Dom wanted of course thats what he would get. As long as he retained his Domness (is that a word?) I wouldn't think any less of him. I'm just not sure I could pull it off if he wanted me to be really aggressive without a few shots of JD first.

Disclaimer: This post was made in response to the post made by darkenshadows and is based on my opinion and experiences only.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/8/2008 4:49:40 AM

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I am not sure if there are any dominant males (particularly hetro) who would like to step up to the question of recieving anal.
I have come across some disagreement that its not a 'dominant' sensation to receive from ones submissive or slave. Is it something you would like, but find it difficult to demand?
And what about rimming? Is a strap on or dildo the next logical step?
Thanks in advance

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DarkinShadows.......

Rimming is something I can take or leave. I get zero sexual stimulation from this, but enjoy cementing separation of duties and authority.....i.e. this is the sort of thing you do; this is not the sort of thing I do.

The thought of a woman poking around inside my arse? Well, it isn't appealing, but not because of any belief that it's 'undomly'; it's a more case that I'm very much a hands on person and I like to be prodding, poking and investigating, as opposed to being on the receiving end.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/8/2008 4:19:59 PM

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hmmm,,, i dont mind if she wants to explore things in that area,and quite frankly it is stimulating,would i consider her using a strap-on i doubt that but wouldnt rule it out if she begged me hard enough and had a well thought out scenario to go with it.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/8/2008 6:52:46 PM

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Expanding my earlier post, seeiung that there are fair number of gay folk in both sub/slave and Dominant areas, and I should comment that I know several gay Masters who are just a "domly" as any straight Master I fail to see that enjoyong having your arse played with or even penertated with something synthetic or flesh and bone has anything toi do with their Dominant abilities. It is just something that some males, both hetro or gay, are either curious about or actually enjoy. I enjoy my ass being tickled and played with as part of for play and general erotic things which happen, but ~~~ Woe betide any penis which wanders near my retro rocket or mouth. Just not my thing

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/8/2008 9:59:42 PM

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I've had very mixed experiences receiving anal. I'm not opposed to it because it's "Not Dominant" - if a female Dominant likes to be penetrated by her submissive, it's perfectly acceptable, so I see no reason to associate a male Dominant who likes having something (or someone) up his bum less of a Dom because of it. My personal opposition to being penetrated is simple - it hurts. I've tried. Most of my experiences were rather bad.

That said, I love being rimmed. To me, it's just an extension of oral service. It feels good, and I happen to like things that feel good. Shocker!

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Dominants who desire Anal - 11/14/2008 11:53:39 AM

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Now THAT'S a fascinating question!

Personally, I have heard of the male g-spot, but no one has ever gone looking for it. (It's difficult for me to ask).

Being dominant is about control. Some say that the submissive is really in control - although they may be restrained, they may be shouting "spank me, Daddy!"

For example, I am a Dom, but categorized myself as a switch for the longest time, (and maybe I still should), because I want certain things done for me and to me in a certain way, but I must be tied up simply because I can't hold still for it.

It's a hard line to see, but if you think about it, you will understand.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/14/2008 12:49:52 PM

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Rimming is something I can take or leave.

No blow jobs, no rimming? wtf?

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/14/2008 9:00:35 PM

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My Dom likes ass play, we have not gone so far as anal sex. (one Ive never straped one on for a man and wouldn't want to hurt him, two he hasn't told me to.) To me it's all about pleasing him. What He wants He gets. He wouldn't be less of a Dom for it in any way.
I think most Subs/Switch/Slaves want to please, it's up to the Man/Woman in charge to deside how that is done. If my Dom wanted a foot rub and pedicure it would be no diffrent. Cook dinner, same thing. Stick your tounge in my ass and etc..etc... He's in charge.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/16/2008 11:58:31 AM

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The first 3 pages are 2 years old ! Leadership noticed!!
Many of the responders on pages 1-3 are not even active anymore!
.dark. probably doesnt even use that profile anymore since its not found.
This certainly is the reason most old threads should stay old.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/17/2008 10:22:04 AM

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The age of the thread or that some posters are either non active or have new profiles, is no reason to bury any thrread. If is is of interest to one active person you can take it to the bank that others are also interested.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/17/2008 2:00:08 PM

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Rimming is something I can take or leave.

No blow jobs, no rimming? wtf?

What? Having a woman lap at your balls and arse is the height of court intrigue?

It seems we're made of contrasting stock, Marie.

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RE: Dominants who desire Anal - 11/17/2008 3:26:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: marie2

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Rimming is something I can take or leave.

No blow jobs, no rimming? wtf?

What? Having a woman lap at your balls and arse is the height of court intrigue?

It seems we're made of contrasting stock, Marie.

Narurally, those who indulge in having their balls licked or sucked, may find that asuitably trained courtesan could for the entertainment of the court, either bite them hard (mayhaps even swallow them for a delicate nibblet?), or take them in a crushing hand grip and entertain the courtiers with yoiur grimmaces and screams of agony.... Just a whimsical thought........

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