OhReallyNow
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Should they ask me specifically for my opinion? I would tell them the same thing I tell everyone that asks... and believe me, not many ask. A slave is owned property so, you would tell them that a slave is owned property. Ok. Now, define 'owned property' please; in addition to that please explain how YOUR definition of 'owned property' is better that the none that the newcomer has come to on their own. quote:
the branch off of that would be "with a slave mentality" or "with the desire to be a slave". how can this be though? by your own words, a slave would have it's own definition;....now you are forced to define 'slave mentality'. quote:
If there had been in place a generally accepted commonly used definition of the terms that we use regularly in this lifestyle in place when the newcomer came on to the scene... would this have been an issue? this slave believes it would be an issue, yes. Simply for the fact that the newcomer has done all the reading he/she can, has talked to others, listened to others and comes to the conclusion on their own, based upon 'the general definitions set forth' that they are 'this way' ( be it a submissive or slave ), and yet, here is one telling them that they are not that because it does not fit in with what the general consensus believes to be 'true' quote:
I would tell them to re-think that with the information they now have available to them. and what happens when they come to the same conclusion that they had originally come to? What then? Do you label them as outcasts because they still refuse to conform to YOUR idea of what should be? quote:
To me, no dynamic is clarified solely by the mindset..it is the physical relationship as well. this slave disagrees 100% it is a combination of the two together that make not only the dynamic, but also the relationship. Master and this slave do not live together, yet he knows every minute of this slave's life, down to what time she puts her unmentionable to bed. He knows what this slave fixed for dinner; if he disagrees with what she is planning, he tells her and she fixed something else...whether he is here to enjoy it with us or not. He has access to my bank accounts, though he does not live with us or us with him. He is on this slave's insurance, and she on his. When this slave offered herself, she did so totally and completly. 24/7 this slave's thoughts are on what would please Master and best how to go about that. One does not need to have 24/7 physical contact to have such a dynamic. quote:
quote: ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash To me, no dynamic is clarified solely by the mindset..it is the physical relationship as well. For the sake of argument, what of a married couple that must live apart? For example, in a family I know, the husband's company transferred him to the UK. Because his line of work is scarce, he went. Rather than uprooting both of his children from their home, their school, their grandparents and other relatives, his wife continues to live in the States with the kids, and they visit him one week out of each month. Would this mean their marriage is no longer clarified as a marriage? A CEO I worked for had a similar situation, only his wife and 4 kids were in Southern California, while his job was in Northern California. He was in the Bay Area 4 days out of the week, and home Fri-Sun. How would that marriage be clarified, by the definitions listed above? My cousin's husband is a merchant marine, out to sea 3 months at a time. Obviously there is no physical interaction, and hardly even voice interaction as well. The examples above, in my opinion, show how a dynamic can absolutely be a full time, 24/7 one, whether the parties are in the same residence or not. Or, is there a set value of number of days together per week/month/year that would then define what is 24/7 for the masses? What of a slave whose Master has absolute authority over all she does - her finances, her job, her family activity, her daily schedule, etc.? Yet she does not live with him? She is watched while at home, even as she sleeps. Is she still considered something other than a 24/7 slave, by your definition? Not trying to be argumentative, but stating that in my definitions, complete authority can occur in non-traditional settings. I may have misunderstood your post, however. If the emphasis is on the word solely, then that would mean simply that some form of physicality must exist, rather than a requirement somehow being that they must live under the same roof. thankyou Ma'am, you said it much more better than this slave could quote:
Hello A/all, I apologize if you feel awkward explaining what you do in the lifestyle. I am not sure I can recommend any way you can overcome this, but I do wish you well. While your comment is a nice ideal, I cannot help but think you want precise definitions to deal with your own feelings of awkwardness in explaining it to other people. In my experience in the Real World it seldom happens. People tend to take a standard definition (say C (the speed of light)) and start to monkey with it to work in their own dynamic. For example, is that the speed of light in a vacuum? through water? through a gravitational field? So what ends up happening is the two people have to COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER and figure out what their individual definitions are and come up with a common agreed upon definition that works within the context they are talking about. Scientists do it. Why cant we? Forcing me to define my Dominance by somebody else's yardstick is problematic. What if the most Dominant thing I can possibly conceive of involves spearfishing with my submissive in Fiji? Am I likely to encounter another Dominant with a similar bent. No. Does this mean my definition is wrong? No. It simply means that I choose to define my existence in this lifestyle a certain way. So in my opinion, people have to sit down and figure out what definition works for both of them within the context they are talking about. In my experience, limited though it might be, the people who most insistent on clarified, codified, nailed down, types of definitions tend to be the most insecure in their own interactions in the lifestyle. To me, they seem inordinately concerned with whether I consider them a True Dominant or True submissive or True Republican or whatever, leaving me to wonder why the hell they care what I think. Universal infinitive definitions have not ever worked for any group of people who have attempted it in history (feel free to disagree, but please cite SPECIFIC EXAMPLES) and I personally do not think this is likely to change. But that is just me, and I could be wrong. Sinergy this is the first time that this slave has every agreed 100% with what you have said Sir, thank you
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