adaddysgirl
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The first 'dom' i ever met labelled himself a Master. He referred to me as 'slave'. Since i had no idea at all about D/s, i freely accepted those labels. In a nutshell, he really was not a Master. He dominated in the bedroom only; he ended up wanting to switch; and then admitted he was a crossdresser and bisexual. When i left that relationship, i read up on all kind of 'slave' things. i joined M/s groups. i even ventured into a brief M/s relationship and found it was not for me. In short, i realized i was not a slave but willing to submit to a partner within defined parameters.
i then met a dom who said he was dominant but he was not a Master. Great! (Although i wasn't sure exactly what that meant.) Again, in short, i found he was a Daddy Dom, he introduced me to the Daddy/girl dynamic, it worked for us, and that is what i have identified with ever since (although it appears to be a minority within a minority...lol).
In any event, it worked for us because we shared similar ideas/goals with regards to what D/s meant for us. During roleplay, sometimes i was a slave, and he a Master....and if that is what we chose to call each other then, who cares?
But what bothers me is when people misrepresent themselves on personals sites such as CM. If you put the word 'Master' in the search box, you will come up with a thousand hits....and i would bet most of them are self proclaimed Masters....those that have never been trained as such nor owned a slave, or whatever. Or how about the dom who met a sub in chat, collared her a month later without ever meeting her, then calls himself a Master? What a joke! i would much rather see a dom say he is dominant but has an interest in being a Master...that i can understand. But for someone to randomly label themselves as a Master and present that to others is just misrepresentation to me.
i say the same for females who label themselves slaves. Have they lived as a slave in RL? It's a lot different than reading about it or doing it online, that's for sure. But perhaps they identify with that role. Again, that is fine....but make that clear in your profile.
There is a big difference between what we have tried and know we are (or are not) than what we aspire to be. i just thinks it's fair to clarify that when trying to meet a suitable partner.
When i was vanilla, i dated a few guys who were dominant (and kinky) in the bedroom. But i would no sooner refer to them as Masters than i would many self proclaimed Masters i have spoken with. i think if everyone was just true to their experience level and what they eventually hoped to live, it would be a lot easier to find a comptatible parnter.
Just my 2 cents, anyway.
Daddysgirl
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