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ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash But when speaking with someone openly, wouldn't it be handy to have a name for what it is? Without a descriptive term, it seems like it would be rather awkward to explain any relationship. quote:
ORIGINAL: Sinergy I apologize if you feel awkward explaining what you do in the lifestyle. I am not sure I can recommend any way you can overcome this, but I do wish you well. At what point did ScooterTrash state the HE personally or for that matter we as a poly M/M/s group felt awkward explaining what we do in the lifestyle? He simply stated" But when speaking with someone openly, wouldn't it be handy to have a name for what it is?" Due to the fact that "Without a descriptive term, it seems like it would be rather awkward to explain any relationship". This statement is true, how do you describe something without a term to describe it? If you are speaking of your foot you simply say foot and everybody knows what you mean. Or would you rather stand there and say "that oblong appendage at the end of my leg that i cover with socks and shoes that is attached to my ankle that has five things on the end of it that sort of resemble fingers but not really that has tougher skin on the bottom to protect it when it lands on the ground as it goes up and down with my leg as i walk."? As to Scooter feeling awkward explaining who we are or WIITWD, you are so far off base it is comical. Tell me, do your or julia's parents, brothers, sisters, children if you have any, friends, co workers, neighbors etc that are outside the lifestyle know what you and she are to each other? Does she call you her Daddy Dom or Master (oops that's right neither of you is comfortable with that term, sorry about that) in public? Do you call her your subbie or Daddy's little girl in front of anyone outside of the lifestyle? Where Scooter works the president of his company and co workers simply call Jewel and i the girls because they know he has two wives, we are accepted, greeted and welcomed even at public conferences as such. When we attended a business conference for different aspects of the various corporations got together to display their wares and services to each other where the couples were given bags to take home the samples and stuff that are given away they had a bag for Jewel and i both. Are they aware i am their slave, well, they have heard me address them as Master and Mistress, the only reason they have no further information, much like some of the neighbors, is they know if they ask him Scooter will cheerfully explain. All our families are very aware of our lifestyle, at family gatherings when introducing me to family members or friends i do not know i am introduced as their slave or their girl. I address them as Master and Mistress there as well. When speaking of them or introducing them to my family or friends i speak of them as my owners or as Master and Mistress. My grandchildren are tickled pink to have an extra granny; when there was a problem with the storage locker my bikes were in my brother had sufficient knowledge of our lifestyle and protocols that he contacted Scooter first. Jewel's lesbian daughter came over the day after my collaring to congratulate and hug me because she was so happy and excited for us all. She introduces me as their slave or girl. When Jewel's daughter's adopted 18 year old son (he is her life mate's child) came over and was curious as to what my being their girl meant the four of us had a long and serious very open and comfortable talk about exactly what it meant. He left feeling better informed and comfortable enough to add me to his list of grandmas. Do you see any evidence of awkwardness here? Scooter was speaking generally; we are very secure in the terminology we use and extremely at ease giving a fuller definition of it to those who ask. Which do you think would be easier saying "this is my slave" or "this is the girl who serves us sexually and non sexually we tell her what to do….on and on…"(you get my drift here I am sure). We believe by being open about who we are and WIITWD not only are our lives less complicated (no remembering who we told what cover story to) but that we can dispel the myths and secrecy about the lifestyle as whole. For instance the myth that slaves are abused, coerced, unloved, weak or brainless. Or the myth that dominants are abusers, evil, lazy, hate the members of the sex they enslave or are psychos preying on the helpless.
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