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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 10/28/2006 7:38:47 AM

diaperedbaby

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I agree with alot of the posts. The older and larger ladies can be just as fun and rewarding as someone thin. Attitude and personality are everything. I love a cool loving dominant mommy type.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 10/28/2006 9:55:07 AM

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I am one of the "larger and older" Dommes being discussed and would like to add that the D/s world runs on different rules than the vanilla world. At least, we sincerely hope it does. In the vanilla world, most pick their mates, at least initially, based on what they look like - their "beauty" as defined by the one choosing. In our current culture, "beauty" is definied as "thin" first and foremost, with "young" being a close second. In the D/s world, we theoretically choose based on role which is the only quality that ultimately matters. If you are seeking a Domme, it matters not how good the barbie doll looks in fetish wear - what matters is if She can take you where you want to go. Looks are not as important as Domme or sub and finding a Domme is certainly not the same as seeking a girlfriend. Girlfriend (or boyfriend) material is everywhere - an experienced Domme who is actually looking for yet another sub is amazingly rare. There are not that many of us and many of us have had a lot of living before we realized who and what we were. Size is powerful. It is hard to be a powerful presence when you are half the size of the male you are attempting to dominate. Age is also a powerful thing. I am in my mid-50's and have become more Dominant with each passing year.

I have been in the scene for many years and cannot count how many times I have been rejected by some silly wannabe sub looking for a Domme who looks like a swimsuit model, lives close enough to him for the encounter to even be possible and who will give him the experience of his life and not expect one single thing from him in return. The real joke is that these inexperienced wannabes have all turned down the opportunity to play with someone with years of expereince and expertise because I don't look like their fanstasy Mistress. Sad but true. Dominance is not and age or a dress size, it is who and what we are.
I am pleased to hear some of the subs out there have an appreciation for older, larger Dommes. Life is good.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 10/28/2006 2:06:48 PM

AvalonGoddess

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Thank you all for your responses. I was a bit of a pain slut myself in my only expereince as an owned ( but not collared) sub. I learned then that being submissive is not my nature, but being nurturing in my domination is. I am heading off to play with a trained switch this weekend and I have been getting very excited about the prospect of giving him the kind of pleasure/pain that I used to crave. And he loves that I am big and kinda intimidating. Woohoo!

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 10/29/2006 5:26:16 AM

Connector

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Seems like I'm the only one on this site who has no experience in this game and just wants to try it out. Im not submissive, but a dominant person who has the desire to let go and let a mature woman show him the ropes including controlling ass w/strapon

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 10/29/2006 10:52:31 AM

AvalonGoddess

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What exactly is my motivation for playing with your ass hole? I read your profile and basically you want a dominant wonmman to serve you sexually. There is something wrong with this attitude and I am getting sick of hearing it from sub and switch men.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/21/2006 9:04:04 AM

BossySSBBW

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So many men, so many not relocating....sigh. In the land of the most bbw/ssbbw women in the country it seems none of the men who like us big want to move here.
I can take control in the south as well as the north, I just prefer the heat of the south.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/26/2006 8:00:13 AM

LthrdWolf

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Wonderful thread ...short BBW & proudly '55yo' today.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/28/2006 9:43:18 AM

MistressYlwa

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Find I am contacted more by younger boys wanted an experienced domme. There is nothing wrong with it, but for a LT I prefer older slaves. Just my personal preference. Though should clarify my definition of "older". A boy over 35, who has experience. lol

Never judge a trainee by his age, but would have to be exceptional for me to considered for longterm.

Will say that at my age, I am not a perky, petite little girl. But have had no complaints. LOL

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/28/2006 2:33:40 PM

SkinnySlave

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You are soooo right. A very large dominant woman, in her 50's-60's creates respect and demands attention.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/29/2006 11:38:03 AM

LadyTY2Uall

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AvalonGoddess

What exactly is my motivation for playing with your ass hole? I read your profile and basically you want a dominant wonmman to serve you sexually. There is something wrong with this attitude and I am getting sick of hearing it from sub and switch men.

I am so glad you said that, I get that SO much from subs lately and was beginning to wonder if there was something wrong with me that it offended me to have that held over my head. Thank you for putting that so clearly and succintly. :D

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/8/2006 3:36:05 PM

LadyIce

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Too funny, I think many of the so called-submissive men that are BEGGING for strap-ons are on the road
to being gay, but scared to admit it.
You are correct, there is no submission in approaching strangers and begging for strap-on play and forced-bisexual activities!

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/8/2006 4:36:59 PM

MsTammyLee1

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Well, thank goodness there are plenty of men who love us larger older ladies. Now if I can just find one local who is ready to bend over and say ahhhhhhhhhhhhh..LOL

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/10/2006 8:21:36 AM

BossySSBBW

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I have the same experience with the younger men contacting me as you do. Also, I would prefer an older man for the LTR. In my experience younger men have such attention deficit for long term relationships, or they get.....disillusioned with what my definition of long term is and theirs is that parting company seems to happed too often.
If a younger man understands that for me LTR means death of one of us, then perhaps, but I remember being young, that concept is hard at that age.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/10/2006 1:19:19 PM

GuidingLite

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I feel the same too.

Looks play a role but for something to last, someone has to have a good attitude.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/20/2006 8:33:35 AM

Billwil

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I don't know about the rest of you, but no one is more powerful than a larger, experienced domme. But they seem hard to find in the northeast. Most seem to be down south.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/20/2006 9:00:43 AM

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Dear Connector, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Seemingly, in my mind's eyes you seek a "Service Top." Someone you give a menu of services you want to have done. That will not show you the ropes to being a more skilled dominant individual, as to serve fully will you see and experience things words fail to describe. Enlightenment is often in the total submission and not just getting the sex jollies and let the rest of the lessons fall on the ground.

The most important element of "the game" you claim, that you wish to experiment, comes with some inner truths along with it--which I identify as the "Spirit of Intent." As long as you approach it as a game, you will never have a serious mentor and or experience, as it will just be a joke, a game where it is how much you can screw over others on so many levels and so many ways.

That said, as a SSBBW--I have in the past done role play scenes where physical strength had to out weigh the victim. Using my equestrian knowledge, past uniformed services experiences out of the moth balls and into active use--I have held my own very well. But, regardless of the size of the person, I must say that it also takes some mental, emotional, spiritual and physical smarts as well. Skills and knowledge speak for me and in a 'nut shell' --I'm just me.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/20/2006 11:55:59 AM

Dennis80401

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Young women are still unformed. The older, larger Domme has a special appeal for those of us who are more seasoned ourselves. She is more tolerant, wiser, funnier and definitely more attractive. She is open to more and different viewpoints and is sure of herself because of her experience. Definitely classier and more fun to be with. She doesn't take herself so seriously and can laugh a lot.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/20/2006 12:29:01 PM

MercilessMarcy

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I warn men up front that what they think is going on and what really goes on are two different things when it comes to a BBW, domination and age. We're addictive!! We're more likely to be cheerful, accept ourselves, be unique and true. It's harder for them to get away with anything (like trying to top from the bottom) or pull some scheme because at our age, we've seen it, heard it, done it. Think of a serene budda-like goddess. We cheerfully tie them up, talk them up, spank them and control them. They haven't got a chance! I love being a Mistress of Size!

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/20/2006 8:23:25 PM

howcaniserveu

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why is it that younger slender dommes so hard to find?

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/21/2006 7:41:28 AM

LadyHugs

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Dear howcaniserveu, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I could say, that we're all skinny on the inside and weight is just padding against the many hits made by men, we're more padded. Hey--if the guys on the football field wear pads--so can women; we just prefer more skin coordinated color padding.

Respectfully submitted with a bit of wit,
Lady Hugs

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