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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 1:21:27 AM

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I believe there's an aura of attraction to people who know who they are and what they want, and that happens to coincide, frequently, with "older" women.

I wonder if part of the attraction to larger Dommes isn't ingrained by a long history of larger, older women being portrayed (in movies and on tv) with Strong Personalities, to say the least. The first example to immediately spring to mind is Hyacinth Bucket from BBC's Keeping Up Appearances -- there's certainly an astringently clear D/s dynamic in her household!)

Anyhoo, I thought a few folks on this thread might enjoy one of my favorite poems by Maya Angelou. Enjoy!

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say, It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say, It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say, It's the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care.
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman
that's me.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 5:14:58 AM

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Everyone has a preference or "fantasy" type they find most desirable. I'm no different. My first owner was older and plus-sized. When we first met, I was 23 and she was 40. I was maybe 5'4" and 125 pounds and she was nearly six foot tall and double my weight...basically an "amazon". In a corset, she was a plus-sized Jessica Rabbit and she would definitely turn heads and stop traffic in downtown Manhattan. She actually influenced my desire for older, plus-sized women. There is something very sexy about the confidence older women exude, the way tight clothing looks on the soft, voluptuous curves, and the way the body feels. There was also something sexy about a domme who was big enough to literally physically take me as she wished...an intimidation factor, so to speak. After she and I split, the attraction for older, plus-sized women remained. That was the exact type of domme I searched for. That was until I found the domme of my dreams. I had to make a few small adjustment to my preferences, and I'm so glad I did! She is a plus-sized, gothic vampire goddess who is nearly seven years younger than me. I'll be 30 in February and She'll be 23 in December, but She has to have the most maturity I've ever seen in someone under 40. She's focused on earning Her degree and prioritizing what comes next in Her life instead of partying and getting drunk everynight like most people at that age do. Also, She's not a six-foot amazon, but even at 5' 4", She has complete control over me, which is no easy task, mind you.

Some guys prefer the young, petite ladies while other prefer older and larger, just like women have their preferences. Some require their partner to be over six foot tall or built a certain way. Whatever your type is, there is someone out there for all of us. Just play nicely for you never know if the young, whip-wielding, petite lil' domme will be your future captor

My captor just happens to be a young, curvaceous, flogger-swangin', gothic vampire goddess that loves the taste of blood.....my blood!

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 8:49:33 AM

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OMG, over 40 is older now???????????

So they say. But they'll find the closer tey get to that number, they'll realize how young it is

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 9:32:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

OMG, over 40 is older now???????????

So they say. But they'll find the closer tey get to that number, they'll realize how young it is

I don't know.... a man on another tread referred to "old women" as over 35. Funny thing is, his profile says he is 60! LOL

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 10:31:35 AM

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They are harder to find because 67 percent of the American population is overweight, and, in two years, it is predicted that 75 percent will be.

I find beauty in people of all shapes and sizes; I just think that everyone should be healthy. It is true that heavier people who work out are more fit than thin people who don't.

I am also a personal trainer.....

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 10:35:14 AM

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"Why is it that younger slender dommes are so important to find, hmm? :-)"

Everyone is allowed to have his or her own preferences. As you can see from this thread, there are many who love larger women. Just look at any chat program, and these rooms are among the fullest.

A heavier person who works out is fitter than a thin person who doesn't.

Caitlin

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 2:24:44 PM

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I find beauty in people of all shapes and sizes; I just think that everyone should be healthy. It is true that heavier people who work out are more fit than thin people who don't.

I agree 100%. Body image and overall health don't have as much connection as conventional wisdom would lead you to believe. Some people take that statement as a criticism or attack, though...Maybe I've just never said it right. Do you mind if I steal that line? ;)

And on the subject of 40 being older...There's a big difference between "old" and "older". I like older Women, but at my age, that covers most of the Domme population. Nothing wrong with being older...And "old" is more a mindset than your age. My uncle is only 40 and I think of him as an old guy because he still tries to dress like John Travolta from Saturday Night Fever.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 11/8/2007 3:31:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: indenturedslave

Two words. Cinderella's Stepmother. The one from the Disney cartoon. How I would love to meet a Domme who looks like that!

That's my sister-in-law.. I'll see if she has an opening

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/28/2007 3:13:59 AM

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As an FA - Fat Admirer have to state that I'm only attracted to BBW/SSBBW Dommes. No offence here for skinny people - it's just my private preference. Being honest I never been in D/s relationship and I just found that site so I'm complete newbie but when it comes to dating - I only date BBW/SSBBW, again - preference. Age is not main factor - can be younger older...

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 12/28/2007 4:33:31 AM

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I prefer a woman that carries herself well. Confidence is the biggest thing.
Most of the young, model looking females, I assume are not real (excuse me and I apoligize if I am wrong) or are prodomme's
I know ass u me but I can't help thinging that way.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 5:16:31 AM

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I want a older bbw domme

.......And I want a million dollars. Wonder who will get what they want first? <g>

MoGa

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 10:38:04 AM

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My favorite thread is back! *s*

Older, Larger Domme checking in.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 10:58:34 AM

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My favorite thread is back! *s*

Older, Larger Domme checking in.

Well hello there. *mmrrooww*

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 11:14:15 AM

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I kinda enjoyed this thread as well, if only because the vast majority of my society is screaming YOUNG! and SKINNY! at women pretty much 25/8.

I may not be the oldest or largest domme on CM, but it's nice to know there are a few malesubs looking for something other than a fitness model in leather.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 11:29:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: aidan

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ORIGINAL: MsWorthy

My favorite thread is back! *s*

Older, Larger Domme checking in.

Well hello there. *mmrrooww*

Hey there you.... cute little monkey boy! *s*

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 11:58:01 AM

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I am a BBW and I love it. I am in my early 30's and so don't know the category for older women. I love to hear that male subs are into us. Having confidence and knowing how to present yourself is always a plus. I just wish I would get more looks here because I always get them IRL.

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 12:06:41 PM

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I have an admitted Cougar fetish. I love older/mature women. It's that air of confidence and...I'm not sure how to describe it. That feeling that comes through subtle, in looks and words, that they can wrap you up 'round their finger and unspool you at their leisure, and my aren't you cute when you try to resist? That's darling, here's a cookie.

*drifts a bit, smiling*

I'm sorry, what were we talking about?

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 12:15:36 PM

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I kinda enjoyed this thread as well, if only because the vast majority of my society is screaming YOUNG! and SKINNY! at women pretty much 25/8. I may not be the oldest or largest domme on CM, but it's nice to know there are a few malesubs looking for something other than a fitness model in leather.

While there is nothing wrong with older or larger Dommes, i suspect most submissives want someone who is honest, has a good personality, and mainly supplies that certain chemistry.

Anyway leather looks good on most women in my book

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 1:43:38 PM

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While there is nothing wrong with older or larger Dommes, i suspect most submissives want someone who is honest, has a good personality, and mainly supplies that certain chemistry.

So I am a little confused, are you saying that older and larger Dominas don't supply that certain chemistry? And what chemistry are we talking about here, the one that exists in the dynamic or the one between his legs--because from what I have seen, many of the "boys" here cater far too much to their fantasy and the rise in their pants.

I get so tired of :

" seeking considerate Mistress with experience to fulfill my submissive drive--no BBW's need apply"

"seeking a good firm Mistress to build a life long relationship--must be HW proportionate"

"seeking attractive Mistress to guide me on my path of submission"

puhleez--

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RE: Older and Larger Dommes - 2/9/2008 1:54:01 PM

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Lady Hathor, what i am saying is that while there is nothing wrong with older and larger women, i dont think looks are what most submissives are worried about. When i talk of chemisry, i talk of that "Spark" between two people. If i meant "Lust" i would have said, not that lust is a bad thing on the odd occassion.

i hope this clarifies and sorry for any confusion.

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