Zensee
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In general - consideration, cybering, mentoring, double-domming and protection - NOT the same thing. Lumping them together just causes confusion. ************** Just because something doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. Some submissives really do need protection, even if it is just as an asshole filter. Is such an arrangement open to abuse and misunderstanding? Certainly. But so is every other arrangement we discuss on these boards, up to and including marriage. emdoub, your second argument is problematic - “...if the sub is not his property, he simply doesn't have any authority to say "you may not" or "you must" negotiate with a third party - myself. If she gives him that authority, why not just let her submit to him and be done with it?” Using the term “property” is a straw-man argument, which amplifies your indignation without cause. Obviously there IS an authority granted and accepted here or the situation would not exist to confound you. That authority is clearly not for personal / intimate control or the submissive would not be available for even casual consideration by a new Dom. Right? Some are clearly offended by protection arrangements. That's a common but not a universal opinion - and it is only an opinion, not some sort of fact. In this case, you could protest to the submissive, ignoring their expressed limit and probably disqualifying yourself. You could complain to the protector, demonstrating you neither respect nor understand the situation and probably disqualify yourself. Or you can say to yourself – I don’t like this – and move on. Z. 0
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