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RE: "Under My protection" - 12/1/2006 12:22:59 PM

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Oh, Aileen went off and so I had to translate myself, and I am afraid I can't stop.

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RE: "Under My protection" - 12/2/2006 11:25:22 AM

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But KatyLied - he IS a creepy cyber-troller, isn't he?

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RE: "Under My protection" - 12/2/2006 4:52:51 PM

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Simply put, I wouldn't deal with it. I am a protector by nature - subs, female friends, etc. -- I am the oldest brother of 5 very cute sisters. She COULD frankly be so submissive or willing that she needs a rational third party to make sure she doesn't find herself in 8 man GB and line forming at the door.

Nevertheless, for all my empathy -- I simply wouldn't bow down to another guy. And, if she needs a protector, she maybe too much of a risk for you too.

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RE: "Under My protection" - 12/2/2006 6:20:29 PM

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I would like to believe that while I am a submissive female, that I am capable of making my own decisions when it comes to my well being. And if I can't..and I really have problems with discerning from people that could be potentially harming to me and/or my well being, I wouldn't be here. I think the whole idea is pretty hokey. But that's just my take on it. I mean it is always good to have a friend to look out for you of course, but there comes a point when we are ultimately responsible for our own well being. I am an insightful, intelligent woman. While I am openminded, if something doesn't feel right, I don't pursue it without further investigation.

Mentoring is always a plus. One can never learn too much and have too many friends who are willing to help and assist you on your journey. That is a beautiful thing. But in the end, you alone are responsible for your own well being...and if that isn't a concept you can grasp...maybe being here isn't the best thing.

But to each their own I suppose.

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RE: "Under My protection" - 12/2/2006 7:24:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

I've done this for a number of newbies, but it's not necessary to make it a formal designation. It's more like, "Hey, I'll be your buddy and your listening ear, and if you want me to help with a reality check or a safety check, it's cool to run your prospective partners or scenes by me first to help make sure you're not getting into anything that isn't safe or healthy for you."

I have done the same thing. Although I generally dont use the emotionally loaded buzz-words "under my protection" when I tell them I will listen to them, call somebody up, be a safe call, or whatever.

I have contacted Doms and Dommes for submissives and asked them politely what was up with things they were doing. An abusive relationship exists in silence, and sometimes all that is required to get a stalker to leave somebody alone is to send a nice email to them asking them to leave the person alone.

When I have done this in the past, I generally had somebody in my life and I am not polygamous. I was clear up front that I was doing this person a favor with no strings attached. When I have done it with nobody in my life, I also made it clear that I was not actively pursuing the person I was mentoring / protecting.

In one case I simply gave a collar to wear to a friend of my submissive at the time because she wanted to go to the Lair and not be hassled. I didnt think it was that big a deal.

This is just me, and I could be wrong.

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RE: "Under My protection" - 12/2/2006 10:09:02 PM

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If you're wrong, it's not in any way I can see.

Again, it's not this kind of behavior I was whining about - this is stuff that I do, too.

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RE: "Under My protection" - 12/4/2006 6:30:20 AM

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greetings

i think this is a time honor thing i see nothing wrong with it. now before i became a dominant i thought i had the feeling of being a submissive do i wish i had that protector? Yes could i had use him Yes i ran into the nuts of the cyberworld in my jounery into to this world i was scare out of my mind by men who thought speaking to me meant they own me ass and all. some would write even if i said no thank they would change their names to get to me and believe to al who think this is wierd or strange think again there are so very very sick people who are not in BDSM but hurting someone in a way that you see only in horror moives. these women are not saying they can not control themselves at least not me but they are saying i am bother but this man who will not take no for an asnwer nor will he stop making me scare out of my mind, and people when your so new you believe all they say, yes i was that naive. so i think a stand up guy would make a wonderful protector and i known some they do not test the waters

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