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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 12:46:02 AM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

I actually disagree with your theory that people who have had a lot of drama don't attract nice guys...  I know at least a couple of nice guys (friends) who only date/marry girls who've had a lot of drama, lol.    M



M, I can go with this. I like complicated, emotional women with a heart who have a depth of feeling inside them - deep feelings = drama. Where's the fun and challenge with a girl who's head is screwed on all of the time?!

Drama is fine, only when it borders on stalking does it become a problem :-)

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 12:50:58 AM   
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1: That's an inferrence from what I posted; not to be picky, but that's not what I really said.
Okay it is an inference, and I thought a valid one...   What you said, and correct me if I'm wrong
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BEING a non victim to avoid being victimized is a REALISTIC expectation.  Putting out a GLOBAL INTERNET billboard saying you have been a victim (which bastards know mean you'll be easier to hurt again) and then expecting nice guys to come to you, when dammit, you were suckered by the BAD GUYS PRETENDING TO BE NICE GUYS, is flaming fucking UNREALISTIC.
Who among us can say what is realistic for whom?   None of us know exactly what makes each person unique, special, horny....  So while I agree that one shouldn't always show his/her ass in public, sometimes, you can attract a nice ass man by doing just that...  There are plenty of us nice folks who like to rescue and love the hurt and desolate.  

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M, I can go with this. I like complicated, emotional women with a heart who have a depth of feeling inside them - deep feelings = drama.
My point made!   Another nice guy who likes drama.     So I never told what an evil prick my ex hubby was Northern....   M

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 1/16/2007 12:54:15 AM >

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 12:56:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am wounded you ignored my tribute to Flip, and thus I am gonna be a drama queen and start a pity party thread, and from you said I EXPECT that you shall rescue me in my hurt and desolation!  LOL

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:00:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		 LOLOL, you're drama is not real enough, you're just making me laugh...
I'm sorry I agree that Flip was funnier than Eddie and Prior.     M

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:08:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Flip was the best, aside from Redd Fox uncut (hard to get a hold of).

and hey, laughter is EVERYTHING.  I can't trust a woman who doesn't love to laugh, so all good.  (Tho this is a prob with Goth chicks, har har).

Hell, I've even used inciting uncontrollable laughter as a "top thannnnng".  Excellent prelude to bottom roasting.  Making someone gasp for air from showing them your appreciation of their mindset RE humour is a SUBLIME dominant act.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:10:40 AM   
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`Well you can, but I won't tell yah how, lol... `    how do you suggest hehe

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:22:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Have you tried Godiva chocolate, or strawberry shortcake (made with real butter) with whipped cream topping?  LOLOL,     M

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:23:48 AM   
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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:25:17 AM   
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and a Denny's Grand Slam 3 times a week with a chock milkshake...

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:26:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		sounds even better !!!

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:32:24 AM   
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Stunning -not - striking, yes, stunning, no
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Stable and drama free
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Oh, and is a Domme.

Dang! Missed the pool.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 1:58:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

So I never told what an evil prick my ex hubby was Northern....   M



You didn't. Did he get his comeuppance?.....something along the lines of suitably relieving him of his balls by crushing them in a vice?

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 2:06:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		I must say I agree with you even though I am one of the overweight older subs
I did it to myself trying to lactate all the wrong ways.
Now just seeking the shots for full volume.
Not a Dom anymore.
If I cannot control myself then I am not ready to be controlled and I was a 12/14 last year this year an 18
not good but was worth the feel of the squirting and spray and drops. My choice,Now it is mine to get back in shape. Yet have you ever looked at just what is presented as Dom materail
they are heavey , not stylish , nor excitiong out of their role on here but yet expect arm candy. Oh there are a fw who are great but just like the arm candy few and far betwen. The great lookers with money already have that young one.
Why would a young woman want to hook up woth this type of older man , Money or to be taken care of in a lifestyle she didn't have to work to get too enjoy. And girls go for it your looks will only last so many years and they'll be after another.

You write and make a good point but oit works too ways.
If you are a male older , low income, and cannot afford a sub/slave  yet want the best, what can you expect, except it is always the subs being the wrong one, not the fact you do not have yourseld undercontrol or any idea one week to the next what you really want.

Think experience in years makes you dominate , it can, but not always wisdom.

I have learned much by reading and studing the profile s, men and women alike they all read the same.
we all want the same.
Mine will be changing greatly . No longer seking anything but lactation shots.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 3:39:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		You got that right.  I, for one, simply don't understand the point to this entire thread.  We seek what we seek...we'll find it or we won't.  And, to be honest, NO ONE, especially someone from the internet (of all places) is going to change anyone else's mind.  It's nonsense to think so.  If you lower the bar (using someone else's term) and "settle", you won't be happy.  We gotta do what we gotta do.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 5:40:31 AM   
bignipples2share


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Status: offline 		Thank you sultry. That was lovely.

To the OP

I'm also an older woman and prefer younger men. I see no reason to change the things I find attractive in a man simply because I have chosen BDSM over vanilla. I didn't join up so I could feel sexy, no matter what size, or age I happen to have been at any given stage of my life.
Heavy, thin and so far my age, has had little bearing in me attracting ‘my type’ of man. BDSM has. I see no reason to lower my bar, or to search for that which I’m not interested in. If I’m not going to ‘settle’ offline, I’m certainly not going to do it online.

As I get even older, I’m sure the field is going to get smaller and smaller. I’m prepared for that and at that time, I may decide to lower the bar, but it will probably only be lowered to include vanilla men, or newbies, that I presently don’t touch, no matter how interested they are in me.

I see nothing wrong in your wanting what you want. Go for it. I do think it’s wrong for you tell someone else they should not want, or have what they want, simply because they’re older, fatter, thinner, or whatever. Just because you think we shouldn’t have it, doesn’t mean we can’t get it.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 6:42:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

You got that right.  I, for one, simply don't understand the point to this entire thread.  We seek what we seek...we'll find it or we won't.  And, to be honest, NO ONE, especially someone from the internet (of all places) is going to change anyone else's mind.  It's nonsense to think so.  If you lower the bar (using someone else's term) and "settle", you won't be happy.  We gotta do what we gotta do.



It did get alot of mileage though! lol!

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 7:15:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

I actually disagree with your theory that people who have had a lot of drama don't attract nice guys...  I know at least a couple of nice guys (friends) who only date/marry girls who've had a lot of drama, lol.    M



M, I can go with this. I like complicated, emotional women with a heart who have a depth of feeling inside them - deep feelings = drama. Where's the fun and challenge with a girl who's head is screwed on all of the time?!

Drama is fine, only when it borders on stalking does it become a problem :-)


Glad to know there are guys out there who realize/appreciate that.  I have never even come close to stalking someone, I won't allow myself to, but I do tend to have very intense emotional episodes.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 7:19:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

M, I can go with this. I like complicated, emotional women with a heart who have a depth of feeling inside them - deep feelings = drama. Where's the fun and challenge with a girl who's head is screwed on all of the time?!



I could put you in touch with a woman (ney bitch) who would cure you of such naivety.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 11:44:13 AM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

M, I can go with this. I like complicated, emotional women with a heart who have a depth of feeling inside them - deep feelings = drama. Where's the fun and challenge with a girl who's head is screwed on all of the time?!



I could put you in touch with a woman (ney bitch) who would cure you of such naivety.


Based on previous chats about your ex-mrs, I think we have a different idea of what constitutes drama and emotional behaviour. If memory serves, she crossed the line well beyond what we are talking about in this thread.

She didn't sound like a class act but then again one swallow doesn't make a summer.


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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/16/2007 11:53:05 AM   
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