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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 8:55:06 AM   
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Hee hee!!  The OP could change her age to 53 and then she would only get hit on by guys under 30 who think us dinosaurs are so unfuckable that we need the services of young studs willing to perform acts of mercy LOL


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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 8:59:24 AM   
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You're expecting people to read and respect your profile?

When it comes to the net- don't have any expectations that another's sense of values will match with yours, and be pleasantly surprised when they do.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:10:52 AM   
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I'm so bored with these kinda posts.  There are  many other much more positive ways to bring attention to one's self.  The "oh poor me, I'm getting unwanted mail" card has been played once a week since I've been here.

Truth is your mail box probably isn't as full as you'd like, so you thought you'd come up here and complain about unwanted mail to boost your self esteem.  I find this sad, each time it's done, it just gets sadder and sadder.

These men are not stupid, they DO see through this ploy for attention. 

Next time I suggest to all women and men whinging about unwanted mail to get attention, try posting well thought out posts, play around in the random stupidity area, this will bring you loads of attention.  It'll come to you, you wont have to seek it.

On a side note to the OP,  just because a man is 40 +, he should not be mistaken for being useless or old.  Exactly opposite, these men are stong, smart, funny as hell and could teach a few of us younger ones a lesson or two (not that 32 is that much younger), and should not be discounted.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:21:47 AM   
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Take a tissue and grow up. This is but another example of how, when people find the 'in thing', they jump on the bandwagon without a clue. Younger, new submissive females, this is an example of how NOT to act!

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:23:17 AM   
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A self professed submissive ending her profile with "That is all. You may be gone now."  ????
You are rather ridiculous. 
And I agree with desertdancer - you appear to be seeking more attention with your "poor me" post.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:27:27 AM   
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Was going to say something else but, the sooner we stop feeding the animals.....

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:37:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TrueCalling

Was going to say something else but, the sooner we stop feeding the animals.....



... they stop poopin' on you?

Seriously, I got pooped on by a wombat.  Was one of the best moments of my life.

~dancer

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:43:30 AM   
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Welcome to the internet.........you will get a lot of replies from people who do not read  profiles, are not your type, etc... it is a part of life.

Just don't forget you too one day will be "old" and you may find yourself lamenting about how  difficult it is to find a Dom/Master your age or older............

If they are not your type simply delete them, i always tried to send a nice thank you but no thank you note as a courtesy, so  do  as you please.

On a side note perhaps CM might consider a Rant & Rave section on the boards, just for  threads like this.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:46:26 AM   
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~laughing~ Dancer, that's some kink, eh?   I can indulge bratty neighbor teens any time..why should i bother doing so here!

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:46:34 AM   
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... I also once got snotted on by a Sloth Bear at the zoo, I mean covered in Sloth Bear goo, yet another GREAT moment of my life, man it's good to be me.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:47:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aubre

Because they know that they are the "One Dom" who could change your mind.



The unrealistic expectations of the OP that in cyber people will ignore anything that eliminates them and to get upset or frustrated about it is pointless and makes you look small and less attractive to potential people in your range.

To actually discuss what the OP loosely mentioned, I like Aubre comment the best. To me it is the combination of the mass marketing, wishful thinking, wanting young as possible and the time of looking causing people to be expanding their search to pretty much anything that breathes. I have no problem with any reason but to be fair to the OP who has been ripped pretty good, it is not necessarily that they write you, but the way they write you and when you reply back what they say in their reply that can get to you a little bit that can add up to wanting to blow off some steam even though a public forum is not a good place for it.

It is human nature to feel smarter and better then everyone. It is human nature to think what is important to you should be important to everyone else. It is also human nature to dismiss ones “liabilities” as unimportant as well. I saw this behavior a lot in my search and not just from significantly older gentlemen. Everything they were and cared about was very important and everything that was a potential bad thing was a “does it really matter”, “you may think that is important” and a whole bunch of others things that is an attempt to dismiss issues but mostly come off as disingenuous and somewhat insulting of the other person. It is reasons of convenience.

It is human nature, you see this all the time on any message board including this one. Bring up that sex is an important part of an M/s relationship and you will have some asexual and people with low sex drives argue that is not the case or it is way overblown. It is a couple looking for their third who complains when a person they like does not want poly by preaching if they are actually submissive it would not matter, but would the woman writing that get divorced so the third can be married and get all the benefits that a married person gets and they are stuck without many legal rights?

We have had a string of “expectation” threads on here recently and I always see this type of reasoning come to the surface. I want this, I do not have this, I am right and these people are wrong for thinking that. There is not right or wrong. It is about compatibility and when in the profile section it is too often the search for anyone over the search for the right one and therefore you have people writing to anyone with a pulse no matter what the person has in their profile. It is never going to change.


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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 9:49:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Zensee

Your profile makes no mention of age preferences, only that you have a boyfriend (and that's not enough to disqualify you as contactable, in this lifestyle). Your journal entries might discuss age but that's not the place for such stipulations. Put it up front (where it can be ignored more easily - LOL).

Z.

PS: And please ues a darker font colour for posting on the forums.



The only real thing that stood out on your profile and journals was a lot of male bashing, but no metion of age or what is "old" to you....
 
As far old goes, as long as everything is still working, i am a happy camper....

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:01:20 AM   
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Smiles @ desertdancer.. i was sneezed on by an elephant at the zoo a couple of years ago...sheesh and the poster thinks her hair gets in a mess with mere cum init!

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:13:48 AM   
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I am an old dom in years 60 to be correct,I am fit active and look forward to many years of living this lifestyle..after all you are only as old as you feel..I find I get more interst from females ranging from 19 to 40 why I don't know ITS just  that I don't bullshit them and lay it all out up front what I am seeking and what would be expected of them...MY policy is not to lie for then you have to tell another hundred to cover your ass.but of course as always just the opinion of this "OL" MASTER..WILLIAM

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:17:40 AM   
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Older men are yummy. Yummy I say.

Erm, did I say that out loud?

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:25:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

And beyond all that, I'd have to say just get over yourself. Unless your name is actually Rodney Dangerfield, you're not dealing with less respect than anyone else around here hasn't had to deal with.

And here's a REALLY novel idea! You could simply choose to contact those people privately and thank them for their interest while restating that you are not looking. It takes a full 3 seconds maybe - unless you're on dial-up and then, it might take longer.

It's been my experience that profile or no profile, picture or no picture, the bottom line is that when people are searching, and your name comes up, they're going to make contact. Get over it. Get over yourself. Move on.

You're really not all that. And they're not sitting back contemplating just what they can do to make your day difficult. They're simply sending you an e-mail. Delete it. You'll feel better. Even better, respond to it, politely declining their inquiry and you'll seem a whole lot more mature than coming in here ranting over those "old doms" who have the unmitigated *gaul* to contact god's gift to the universe (young and nubile you) when afterall, your profile specifically states "exceptions rarely made." (Here's a clue: "rarely" means sometimes, and if nothing else - although many have pointed out that you have a lot more in your profile that actually encourages rather than discourages contact - that alone is enough to give people the impression that perhaps you might be open to them.)

And as I'm reading this thread, about the only response I had regarding the depth and level of your experience, even in juxtaposition with newness of your de-virginification was to quote my kids back when they were 9 or so... "Big whoop." A hymen's a hymen honey, and by the way, what does THIS have to do with receiving e-mails?

juliet


First off, NO I will not "get over myself" because I have every right to think im amazing.
Secondly, no matter how many times I reply nicely saying "im sorry, my profile says im not looking for anyone over 35 and im not intrested" its not always an "oh okay im so sorry perhaps we can just be friends?" No. More then half the time I gets doms sending me back mail that says "Your a bitch slut blah blah blah heres a picture of my dick and your going to suck it" AND YES I HAVE GOTTEN MAIL JUST LIKE THAT. So I dont think I have to be nice.
 
And as far as younger doms being idiots... I dont even wasted my time being nice to them.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:28:17 AM   
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YEA one vote for the "OL" timers smile...WILLIAM

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:29:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Koukei

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

And beyond all that, I'd have to say just get over yourself. Unless your name is actually Rodney Dangerfield, you're not dealing with less respect than anyone else around here hasn't had to deal with.

And here's a REALLY novel idea! You could simply choose to contact those people privately and thank them for their interest while restating that you are not looking. It takes a full 3 seconds maybe - unless you're on dial-up and then, it might take longer.

It's been my experience that profile or no profile, picture or no picture, the bottom line is that when people are searching, and your name comes up, they're going to make contact. Get over it. Get over yourself. Move on.

You're really not all that. And they're not sitting back contemplating just what they can do to make your day difficult. They're simply sending you an e-mail. Delete it. You'll feel better. Even better, respond to it, politely declining their inquiry and you'll seem a whole lot more mature than coming in here ranting over those "old doms" who have the unmitigated *gaul* to contact god's gift to the universe (young and nubile you) when afterall, your profile specifically states "exceptions rarely made." (Here's a clue: "rarely" means sometimes, and if nothing else - although many have pointed out that you have a lot more in your profile that actually encourages rather than discourages contact - that alone is enough to give people the impression that perhaps you might be open to them.)

And as I'm reading this thread, about the only response I had regarding the depth and level of your experience, even in juxtaposition with newness of your de-virginification was to quote my kids back when they were 9 or so... "Big whoop." A hymen's a hymen honey, and by the way, what does THIS have to do with receiving e-mails?

juliet


Secondly, no matter how many times I reply nicely saying "im sorry, my profile says im not looking for anyone over 35 and im not intrested" its not always an "oh okay im so sorry perhaps we can just be friends?" No. More then half the time I gets doms sending me back mail that says "Your a bitch slut blah blah blah heres a picture of my dick and your going to suck it" AND YES I HAVE GOTTEN MAIL JUST LIKE THAT.  


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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:30:14 AM   
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Its the same way with men offline or at clubs. They want what they cant have. No 18-25 year old girl is going to want to hook up with some dirtbag who is 40+ overweight, and has issues. Many doms are are so unattractive it makes me wonder if they ever get any without having to pay for it.

I agree with the initial post and sorry but to most doms out there I am out of your league. You need to set your goals a lot lower. Emphasis on a lot.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:30:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

I am an old dom in years 60 to be correct,I am fit active and look forward to many years of living this lifestyle..after all you are only as old as you feel..I find I get more interst from females ranging from 19 to 40 why I don't know ITS just  that I don't bullshit them and lay it all out up front what I am seeking and what would be expected of them...MY policy is not to lie for then you have to tell another hundred to cover your ass.but of course as always just the opinion of this "OL" MASTER..WILLIAM


I dont mind when older doms mail me to talk. I'm perfectly okay with us being friends. Hell, I even have a dom who is 62 and we met off collarme and we go to the movies almost every weekend together. He is a great amazing guy and I love him as a friend! I just realized I made a typo in the thread subject. Its supposed to say "Older" not old. :X Oopie. Sorry!

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