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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:31:58 AM

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Hee hee!! The OP could change her age to 53 and then she would only get hit on by guys under 30 who think us dinosaurs are so unfuckable that we need the services of young studs willing to perform acts of mercy LOL

And where would you like me to stand?

I think the reason young studs feel needed is that many older men suffer from ED. Of course, that's what Viagra is for, but does it always work?

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:34:29 AM

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Its the same way with men offline or at clubs. They want what they cant have. No 18-25 year old girl is going to want to hook up with some dirtbag who is 40+ overweight, and has issues. Many doms are are so unattractive it makes me wonder if they ever get any without having to pay for it.

I agree with the initial post and sorry but to most doms out there I am out of your league. You need to set your goals a lot lower. Emphasis on a lot.

Thank you! Someone who understands I dont wanna feel like im having sex with my father! And its not so much how the dom looks or his age. I have found that older doms seek nothing in me other then my large and perky and small and tight assets if you know what I mean. I want doms to take me seriously.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:36:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

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Hee hee!! The OP could change her age to 53 and then she would only get hit on by guys under 30 who think us dinosaurs are so unfuckable that we need the services of young studs willing to perform acts of mercy LOL

And where would you like me to stand?

I think the reason young studs feel needed is that many older men suffer from ED. Of course, that's what Viagra is for, but does it always work?

Viagra or not there is nothing that can compare to the wisdom and experience the older Gentleman can impart on a younger girl. I learned my best lessons about, love, life, sex etc etc from "older" men.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:38:19 AM

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I look at 99% of the male profiles onhere and think serial killer. sad but true. Its how they portray themselves and then get upset when they cant get whatthey want.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:39:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: Koukei
Thank you! Someone who understands I dont wanna feel like im having sex with my father! And its not so much how the dom looks or his age. I have found that older doms seek nothing in me other then my large and perky and small and tight assets if you know what I mean. I want doms to take me seriously.

I've been very fortunate in finding partners who use me as a trophy young hot piece of arm candy AND who take me seriously. They don't have to be mutually exclusive and I get a lot of fulfillment from both.

I'm not sure what makes you think people closer to your age will be MORE likely to take you seriously?

It all depends on the person. I completely understand your desire to have a particular age range. Most of us do. The problem is that you're bitching about a problem that is as old as the net itself, that we ALL experience and that isn't going to go away. You get an email you don't like- delete it. Move on.

And it's nothing to do with age.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:43:47 AM

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It has to do with guys who have no business looking at girls our age and should go elsewhere maybe to the trailer trash section.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 10:53:42 AM

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It has to do with guys who have no business looking at girls our age and should go elsewhere maybe to the trailer trash section.

Hmm well I guess I could get into that sort of humiliation play.

There are a lot of women who enjoy much older men and a lot of older men who enjoy much younger women. If that's not your kink, fine, but insulting those or suggesting people shouldn't have the kinks that they do just shows a lack of character on your part.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 11:30:11 AM

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It has to do with guys who have no business looking at girls our age and should go elsewhere maybe to the trailer trash section.

This from a girl who is "soon to be a 19 year old exotic dancer". Guess who's going to be tucking $10 bills in your g-string, toots.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 11:45:58 AM

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I look at 99% of the male profiles onhere and think serial killer. sad but true. Its how they portray themselves and then get upset when they cant get whatthey want.

How many do I actually have to "off" in a given period of time to qualify as a "serial killer", as opposed to say... occasional killler... or serial maimer who occasionally kills by accident... or.... maybe this isn't the right venue to be discussing this. Please strike all that from the record.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 11:54:24 AM

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Reeeeally old Dom here....

Your profile says you're female, submissive and young - and that's just asking for trouble.... lol You take this far too personally; all women get geek mail, including Dommes.

But I'm curious.... You actually only get it from the oldies or is it that you don't mind it from younger males?

Focus.

And beyond all that, I'd have to say just get over yourself. Unless your name is actually Rodney Dangerfield, you're not dealing with less respect than anyone else around here hasn't had to deal with.

And here's a REALLY novel idea! You could simply choose to contact those people privately and thank them for their interest while restating that you are not looking. It takes a full 3 seconds maybe - unless you're on dial-up and then, it might take longer.

It's been my experience that profile or no profile, picture or no picture, the bottom line is that when people are searching, and your name comes up, they're going to make contact. Get over it. Get over yourself. Move on.

You're really not all that. And they're not sitting back contemplating just what they can do to make your day difficult. They're simply sending you an e-mail. Delete it. You'll feel better. Even better, respond to it, politely declining their inquiry and you'll seem a whole lot more mature than coming in here ranting over those "old doms" who have the unmitigated *gaul* to contact god's gift to the universe (young and nubile you) when afterall, your profile specifically states "exceptions rarely made." (Here's a clue: "rarely" means sometimes, and if nothing else - although many have pointed out that you have a lot more in your profile that actually encourages rather than discourages contact - that alone is enough to give people the impression that perhaps you might be open to them.)

And as I'm reading this thread, about the only response I had regarding the depth and level of your experience, even in juxtaposition with newness of your de-virginification was to quote my kids back when they were 9 or so... "Big whoop." A hymen's a hymen honey, and by the way, what does THIS have to do with receiving e-mails?

juliet

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 11:54:38 AM

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Koukei

We all know that some doms (of all ages) don't take the time to read profiles, or if they do they ignore what they see. But in all fairness (as others have pointed out) your profile *doesn't* say that you're 'not looking' and it *doesn't* say 'no men over 35'. What it *does* say is that you are Actively seeking Men (Dominant, Switch or Submissive). Yes, it says that you have a boyfriend, but it doesn't state that you are monogomous.

Now, perhaps when you set your own search criteria you specified that you were only looking for male profiles under 35, but that doesn't stop older men seeing your profile and having no inkling of that fact. Why not take a look at your profile and be clearer about what contacts are acceptable / unacceptable to you. It probably won't stop the unwanted messages, but at least then you'll save the thoughtful, literate guys that make the effort to read what you've written the trouble of contacting you.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 12:04:12 PM

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I can't see how any sincere RT Dominant of ANY age would want to deal with her childish and bratty antics..Sweetie, when you grow up you'll learn it's not all about you..I get a feeling you're getting exactly what you deserve.....

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 12:06:58 PM

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I would just like to know...Why do doms in the 40s plus hit on/mail me after putting in my profile/journal SO MANY TIMES that men over 35 unwelcome and exceptions rarely made? There is nothing wrong with being older... but why totally ignore me? Dont you think I should get some respect for my boundries?

Well, honey, this is one "old" Dom who won't be bothering you. I stopped when I got to the 5'2", 190 lbs. on your profile.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 12:12:10 PM

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Dyin laughing....Thanks, Dan!

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 12:20:54 PM

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Well how about the 25 and younger sub/slaves who want to meet 50+ year old Masters. I have seen these here on Collarme. I respond in a polite introduction, they reply in a very rude manner and block me. They continue to come on to Collarme and in their journals complain they can't find anyone.

I wish you well

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 12:30:21 PM

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A self professed submissive ending her profile with "That is all. You may be gone now." ????
You are rather ridiculous.
And I agree with desertdancer - you appear to be seeking more attention with your "poor me" post.

arrow

Arrow, I agree with you. "Thank you. That is all, you may be gone now"???? How childish and rude! There is only one piece of advice for the OP that I can think of: GROW UP!!!

You don't like the e-mail you get? Delete it!

And for the love of heaven, stop whining!

End of rant <<grins & ducks for cover>>

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 12:56:36 PM

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LOL, OP you aint a TWUE submissive or you would learn how to spell FUCK OFF rather than make a long post bringing darkness to the outer reaches.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 12:58:13 PM

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I think I misunderstood the OP in her original posting....I knew she was ranting, but the last couple of posts makes me think that she is rather childish and thinks the world should owe her something.....its not how it works. And the OP's profile should be clear and to the point....so in the end its just drama and she wants attention. Shame, I was thinking this could be a serious post.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 1:06:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: Koukei
I would just like to know...Why do doms in the 40s plus hit on/mail me after putting in my profile/journal SO MANY TIMES that men over 35 unwelcome and exceptions rarely made? There is nothing wrong with being older... but why totally ignore me? Dont you think I should get some respect for my boundries?

I don't blame you ... if you've clearly put the age range that you are interested in, then folks outside of that age range should leave you alone. But I suppose everyone likes to think THEY are the exception. And maybe it's also a measure of desperation (a good reason to shy away from those individuals under any circumstance!)?

Only a small percentage are looking for a large age differential, but I've been surprised by several ... there ARE a few. If you don't specify ... then you are fair game for folks to ask the question.

Even the small percentage who eventually seek an age-differential relationship usually start with a near-age relationship, and only after finding some dissatisfaction with someone their own age, do they seek out a greater age differential.

I know someone has told you about putting filters onto your mail that will filter out folks above or below a certain age. But those filters don't save others from wasting their time in writing. It would save us all more time if we all knew in advance of your limitations. I just think it's a big flaw in this board that we aren't all nagged while writing our profiles, to put such info into it. Too many folks don't give any hint that they have a specific limited range.

Personally, if I fall outside of someones age range, I "hide" their profile & leave them alone. If they don't list an age range and IF we have a lot in common, sometimes I'll send a note, sometimes I won't. But I am never surprised (or rude) if someone prefers someone closer to their age, that's pretty common.

I just wish the CM programmers would make folks who only wanted someone from 20-28 (or 35-45 for examples) ... invisible to folks outside of that age range ... it would cut out a lot of the harrassing junk mail that subs get & that drives them away from this board.

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RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? - 1/17/2007 1:43:38 PM

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It has to do with guys who have no business looking at girls our age and should go elsewhere maybe to the trailer trash section.

The most severe case of chronic cranial rectal inversion i have encountered in some time.........

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