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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 5:15:42 PM

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Well here is a search of all Sinergy's posts with the key word intercourse.. only 6 records showing, none of them that one
http://www.collarchat.com/searchpro.asp?phrase=intercourSE&author=sinergy&forumid=ALL&topicreply=both&message=body&timeframe=%3E&timefilter=0&language=single&top=300&criteria=AND&minRank=0&sortMethod=r&submitbutton=+OK+

aqua, anal can tear you, and it is wise to be careful if you use a desenitizer. I have not done it yet, it was our next avenue. I was going to solve the issue of him being desensitized by putting it in several minutes before we used any other lube so my body could absorb it... if you like I can email you and let you know if it works like we planned.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 6:32:33 PM

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oh man don't use a desensitizer that is defeating the purpose. if it ain't feelin right it jus goin too fast. go slow till u good then pick up d pace

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 6:37:47 PM

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oh man don't use a desensitizer that is defeating the purpose. if it ain't feelin right it jus goin too fast. go slow till u good then pick up d pace.

I am inclined to agree, after the initial stroke or two that hurts it is amzingly hot. I'd hate to miss out on the totalexperience just to avoid a minute or two of pain.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 7:39:57 PM

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Something that hasn't been mentioned but was an issue with one of my former dominants....

Does he have any sort of curve to his..uh...what word can I use here that won't get blurred out? Yea, you know what I'm talking about.

My ex had a pretty noticeable curve and anal was nearly impossible with him in any position because of it. If your master has one, and you haven't tried multiple positions, I'd defintely go that route.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 8:02:08 PM

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My Mistress uses a position where I am on my back and she has my legs over her shoulders. It is actually pretty comfortable. My problem was that I wanted to push back to help her in but I was afraid I would make a mess so i would tighten up instead...good reason to clean yourself out.
She started out small and worked up in a continuous session. time consuming but it worked really well.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 8:40:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Now feel free to post a link to the original quote so I can see the date and read it in context.... or people can search for the post like I did to see if they can find it.If no one else can find it, makes me think that it never existed perhaps?

Oooo.... a mystery!

Everybody sing - "Come on Scooby Doo, where are you..."

Mystery solved!

Some nice angel who shall remain nameless unless she chooses to reveal her sacred identity sent me this old thread that was revived that is a poll. I am wondering if polls do not show up in searches? Oh well, this poll was taken in May 2004, two years before I met my Daddy.

I just thought I would solve the mystery...laughing

http://www.collarchat.com/m_7856/tm.htm

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 8:49:25 PM

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oh man don't use a desensitizer that is defeating the purpose. if it ain't feelin right it jus goin too fast. go slow till u good then pick up d pace

It was hopefully a temporary thing until I become accustomed to one certain position for anal. It is not supposed to be a permanent measure. I can take the discomfort in every other position and then enjoy it rather quickly. I have been able to accept him in this one position FINALLY, but it remains so uncomfortable I am just waiting for it to be over with no enjoyment. We are looking at a couple of different avenues to accomplish what he wants, and it will happen, but it just takes time I guess. But if something is worth doing it is worth waiting for! I enjoy anal very much, but I am rather new to it.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 11:11:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Mystery solved!

Some nice angel who shall remain nameless unless she chooses to reveal her sacred identity sent me this old thread that was revived that is a poll. I am wondering if polls do not show up in searches? Oh well, this poll was taken in May 2004, two years before I met my Daddy.

I just thought I would solve the mystery...laughing

http://www.collarchat.com/m_7856/tm.htm

Wow....

That's kinda sad. Someone went to all that trouble just to call you a liar? That's all sorts of special. Considering they just joined, why were they looking backwards two years in the polls sections? I rarely click past into the second page worth of threads let alone going back two years...

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 11:21:30 PM

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Someone revived this in the general discussion a few days ago, but it did not show when I searched for it using "intercourse" as a keyword. Perhaps this person stumbled across it and thought it a new post? It still is rather mysterious to me that they knew he and I are involved, although we love to banter on the board I suppose.

I try to give benefit of the doubt to people because frankly, I do not care enough to dwell on it anyways... so Jane, best to avoid jumping the gun, but welcome to CM and I hope to read more of your posts...

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/16/2007 11:29:37 PM

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Doesn't make a great first impression, but no doubt you are right. I shall await more posts eagerly and hope they are nicer.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 9:58:23 AM

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PONYSEEKER you may think you write like crap but you don't *s*. You gave a great detailed way to go, um very detailed yes. Heehee. Seriously though, this is the way that I was introduced to it, as a teasing-erotic-make me-squirm-beg-gasp near torture. It removed all fear and all stress about pain from me.
Also the 'you sitting on him and sinking down at YOUR comfort level' is another great way to go once you're ready. It gives you a measure of control & you can set the pace.
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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 10:37:33 AM

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"This is done casually about three times a week with no expectations or any kind of seriouse communications about it. I actually dont confront her feeling about it at all as they really are not that important."

Good to know you so value your partners' emotions. Who needs communication? That's not important when trying something new.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 10:48:24 AM

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Good to know you so value your partners' emotions. Who needs communication? That's not important when trying something new.

Often that is true yet there are occasions when an owner simply gently leads their sub/slave down a formerly forbidden path.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 11:26:36 AM

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Ponyseeker, thank you for posting that. I enjoyed reading it LOL My former Master introduced me to anal play in much the same way. He went very slowly, took his time, was very patient with me, used fingers and toys first so I got used to just being penetrated without the concern about thrusting and force.

Before Him, I NEVER let anyone touch me there. I didnt want to try it, I was very afraid of it, so it was a huge deal for me when he said he wanted me to at least try a little bit of anal play. I wanted to be a good pleasing submissive and I knew what a huge step that would be for me, and for us, so I agreed to try it. (At that point, I was not pledged to him, so I had options then when we played.)

Anal play became my favorite thing! It was how he would reward me when I had earned something extra special. When we reached the point of him wanting to take my ass, to make it his totally his, I still felt scared, not sure I could do or not. But he wanted it, and I wanted to please him.

It took a bit of time to get used to the force of his thrusts, and the intital penetration was a bit painful. But once he was totally inside me and taking me completely, it was the most incredible feeling in the world!!!   I was able to orgasm whenever we had anal sex, and became my favorite way to please him.

To the OP: What stood out for ME when I read your intial post, and other posts you made throughout the thread was what seems to ME is HIS lack of drive and desire to really take your ass. You seem to have done everything to prepare for it, but he doesnt seem as invested in doing it.   I would imagine that would make it harder to follow through with full penetration. My former Master very much desired and wanted to take my ass, and he was persistent, consistent, and kept it in my mind for a long time before he first tried it. Had he been half hearted, or could do it or not, I would not have pushed to have it. I would have not worked as hard as I did to prepare my body to receive him, or prepare my mind for it. Just MY thoughts and feelings when I read your post.

Good luck with this! I hope it works out well for you. Being taken anally was the most incredible thing for me. It took me to a deep place of submission and pleasure, more than anything else ever did. And it gave me a much deeper level of trust and connection to my Master. (He was my first, and so far, my only Master)

And just a caution: For those who are diabetic or have other health conditions or allergies, please be careful with what you use as a lube for any kind of penetration. Some lubes are sugar based solutions, and can cause alot of problems for diabetics, as it could very well lead to yeast and other kinds of infections.

Thank you for this thread and the various responses to it. It was good reading for me LOL though it sure did make me miss my former Master!

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 11:41:17 AM

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It is not recomended to use creams that desensitize, you will not feel it as easily if something is going wrong since the area has been numbed,

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I looked into a product called anal eze

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 12:37:11 PM

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To the OP: What stood out for ME when I read your intial post, and other posts you made throughout the thread was what seems to ME is HIS lack of drive and desire to really take your ass. You seem to have done everything to prepare for it, but he doesnt seem as invested in doing it. I would imagine that would make it harder to follow through with full penetration. My former Master very much desired and wanted to take my ass, and he was persistent, consistent, and kept it in my mind for a long time before he first tried it. Had he been half hearted, or could do it or not, I would not have pushed to have it. I would have not worked as hard as I did to prepare my body to receive him, or prepare my mind for it. Just MY thoughts and feelings when I read your post.
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As the party in question, I'd like to make my position on this whole issue of "it doesn't seem like he really wants it, so why are you making this such a big deal?" that people have been raising with Aqua. I've expressed a desire to try anal to Aqua, which led to some experimentation on our part, the subsequent issues, and this thread. It's not a huge deal for me, but neither is it something that I'm completely ambivalent about. I'd simply like to have it available as an option in our sex life, with an increasing or decreasing emphasis depending on our mutual enjoyment.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 12:47:26 PM

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that is if you can sit on him, Daddy is so much bigger and taller and has wider hips that I can not sit on top of his cock. It simply will not reach very well after all the girth of body differnces is taken into consideration.

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Also the 'you sitting on him and sinking down at YOUR comfort level' is another great way to go once you're ready. It gives you a measure of control & you can set the pace.
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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/17/2007 2:36:30 PM

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After reading this thread I saw only one suggestion that had not been made..Have you tried to have him enter you while only partially erect?..This may make the "fit " easier to take...once past the initial entry it would seem that the "hardest" ~w~ part is over.......Tempting..

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/18/2007 11:19:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I try to give benefit of the doubt to people because frankly, I do not care enough to dwell on it anyways... so Jane, best to avoid jumping the gun, but welcome to CM and I hope to read more of your posts...

Namaste

...this one can't help but wonder why the great and powerful Sinergy doesn't speak for himeself? Is He real?

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/18/2007 11:24:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I try to give benefit of the doubt to people because frankly, I do not care enough to dwell on it anyways... so Jane, best to avoid jumping the gun, but welcome to CM and I hope to read more of your posts...

Namaste

...this one can't help but wonder why the great and powerful Sinergy doesn't speak for himeself? Is He real?

As much as having seen his posts proves anything, yes he is real. Still better question: Why does jane, and now you, care so much about discrediting this couple? I still maintain that anyone going back two years in the polls section is insane and then pulling that up to try and prove that Julia is a liar when it doesn't have anything to do with my original post...

It smacks of ulterior motives. Unfortunately these are not tasty with good wine and cheese.

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