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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/20/2007 8:43:34 AM

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I know that a body can become dependant upon laxatives and chemical enemas, but does also hold true for plain water enemas?

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/20/2007 8:58:41 AM

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Hello. =)

Okay, I have a question ( thank you for the info by the way, DefiantFlower). It's a dumb one, lol. How far does the liquid go in, when you administer it? I know of some people who have gotten enemas in hospitals for medical reasons, and they said it made their stomach get bloaty and achey. How is a home enema different from a hospital one?

I think the whole enema idea is actually scarier to me then the actual anal act itself. =)

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/20/2007 9:55:46 AM

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Home enemas only evacuate the lower digestive tract, the other type has to be performed by someone who knows what they are doing, but it is a good thing to have done because it can clean your colon out.. some people have lost up to 10 lbs by doing this... gross but true from what I have read... you can store lots of ick in there

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/20/2007 1:12:07 PM

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You're welcome Stella

And like juliaoceania said, the enemas done in hospitals are a bit more..um...thorough? Home enemas can sometimes make you feel a little bloated or uncomfortable, and that's when you let it out. Then again, having never done it before, it might feel a little uncomfortable anyway, till you get used to how it feels. It should never hurt, as long as you follow the instructions.

And like someone mentioned before, many times using an enema before doing any ass play can calm your nerves about any surprises that might present themselves during play!

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/20/2007 1:33:30 PM

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I try not to use anything in my body that would not be ok for me to drink. I use natural peppermint soaps and such. The older I get, the more I feel good about that. As you probably know, anything liquid that gets inserted up your anus will absorb quickly into the blood stream. I have used Fleet enemas, but I would not do it on a regular basis personally.
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This is a GREAT point to make - that the lower bowel/colon will absorb things, so be careful with what you use, especially if you have health problems. For example, the drugstore kind of FLeet enema is a sodium solution, so if you have high blood pressure, or lymphedema, or edema, it could be a problem as your body would absorb alot of sodium. Once in a while is OK if you have those conditions, but not on a regular basis. And if the body absorbs alot of caffeine from a coffee enema, a person could have problems too.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/20/2007 4:15:51 PM

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I am immune to coffee, I have considered those coffee IVs that are all the rage

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/23/2007 10:38:42 AM

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i have found through my very long life, that when one tries really, really hard to perform something sexually, one tends to get stressed & the necessary relaxation won't happen...perhaps you should take a break from this, stop trying so hard & relax a bit...it just might work...do let us know....

This is exactly what I was thinking.

The first few times that I ever tried anal other than the first time....I couldn't handle it. I gave it up for a long time and just recently gave it a chance again. I realized however that the times that I couldn't take. I was really nervous, very afraid that it was going to hurt.

The last two times, i was in a complete state of humility, very humbled very needy almost to please. I was so into it that I actually had an orgasm. I was amazed and in a complete of subspace. It wasn't until recently that I figured out that I wasn't afraid of it that night.

maybe the pain from the past is what is making it to hurt persistantly.....your afraid it's going to hurt so therfor it does because you are tense and can not relax.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/23/2007 4:57:22 PM

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ok that was fun, i was typing away, and it all dissappeared, what the hell did i type.

ok short version this time.
Enemas. I use plain water. But be very careful to get the temperature right, too cold will give you horrible cramps, too hot and you will know about it. Also I found that it "washed" out your natural fluids, so either give your body time or make sure to get some lube inside or you will feel dry, or thats how i feel.

Also i have found that if you quickly remove the offending cock lol (my Mistress loves her strapon) especially if you do it when you have first put it in and got that "oh my god pain" feeling ,that you might find that also hurts even more (slamming shut feeling) and boy the thought of putting it back :%. This will not help you relax next time you feel the urge either, relaxation is the key i think.

Practice: i remember someone saying get a dildo about the same size, good idea, also maybe a bit smaller so you can become comfortable with it. um a though what about him using a strapon on you, it will stay hard and you wont have to worry about going down due to things not working out , thus no stress on time etc, its not working etc, you can relax and laught about it. And you could also practice with it by yourself and get used to the size of it.

Also i do find some nights are better than others, some nights i just relax more, so dont stress, laugh and have fun, its the reason you are doing it remember

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/24/2007 7:52:53 AM

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I used to have the same problem. I found that, more than anything else, waiting until I was so turned on that I would do absolutely anything helped more than anything else. Also, waiting until right after your period, when your pain tolerance is a bit higher, may also be something to try. I would definately recommend against the numbing creams. A friend of mine tried and neither of them could feel anything. If he isn't overwhelmingly driven for anal now, a shot of novocaine to the cock probably is gonna increase his preference for other options rather than open any new avenues.

On a side note to Jane, maybe you misunderstood the topic and took "stretching for anal" to mean "how to be a huge asshole"? But thank you for the wonderful demonstration as to what a combo of bitter grapes and a half-assed reading of severely outdated threads can get ya.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/24/2007 11:48:15 AM

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Coming from a girl who enjoys this particular thing, i've found that warming up and sitting on plugs isn't enough. You have to really WANT for your Master to do it, or your body will fight it more than it naturally does already.

When it comes to him entering, take it slow. You'll want to do the warm up of course, so that your muscles loosen up, at least until your body is trained enough to naturally accept it. Then when it does come time to enter, take it easy. Don't take him all in at once, and if possible, slowly rock back and forth on him until he's inside. This may take a little bit of time, but well worth it!

Also, until you're trained for this, it WILL be uncomfortable at minimum. Some pain... i can relate it to being sharp. When the pain is there, squeeze and grip him and hold it as long as you can, then slowly release. (Don't confuse squeezing with pushing against him!) This will not only relieve some of the pain, if not all, but the tension in your muscles. And don't let discomfort stop you, or you'll never get far. Slow and easy... you'll eventually be able to take it hard and fast. *giggle*

And if it's that important to you for him to be able to use all of you, then it should be important enough to you to remember to consistently use your plugs and vibes, so that you can train your body to accept your Master.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/24/2007 3:00:15 PM

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And if it's that important to you for him to be able to use all of you, then it should be important enough to you to remember to consistently use your plugs and vibes, so that you can train your body to accept your Master.

Thanks for the advice. We've discovered, thanks to all the wonderful advice here, that I can provide him use of my rear entrance with a lot of lube, the spoon position and a very encouraging scene. It amazing what I can do when I'm petted on the head and told I'm a good kitten!

The only problem with remembering is that it's not just that I'm forgetful. I have ADHD. Unless I write it on my arm in sharpie, there is a pretty good chance I'm going to forget. I think everyone would understand why I don't want to go around with that written on my arm! I am strongly considering leaving a note for me on my desk at home though.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/24/2007 4:02:38 PM

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Thanks for the advice. We've discovered, thanks to all the wonderful advice here, that I can provide him use of my rear entrance with a lot of lube, the spoon position and a very encouraging scene. It amazing what I can do when I'm petted on the head and told I'm a good kitten!

The only problem with remembering is that it's not just that I'm forgetful. I have ADHD. Unless I write it on my arm in sharpie, there is a pretty good chance I'm going to forget. I think everyone would understand why I don't want to go around with that written on my arm! I am strongly considering leaving a note for me on my desk at home though.

Congratulations!

And the sharpie thing might be fun if you were really into humiliation. ;)

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/24/2007 6:09:44 PM

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Congratulations!

And the sharpie thing might be fun if you were really into humiliation. ;)

You know I like humiliation but not that much!

By the way, Valyraen loves your icon. He keeps saying "Ah am a TOASTER!!"

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/25/2007 4:43:15 AM

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Thanks. When I saw it as an option, I couldn't resist. I am a huge Red Dwarf fan, and it reminded me of Talkie.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/25/2007 10:46:58 AM

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Talkie? I used to watch Red Drawf but I don't remember that character.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/28/2007 9:00:07 AM

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try 5-6 vodkas and when you feel relax, will hapen easy

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/28/2007 9:19:15 AM

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try 5-6 vodkas and when you feel relax, will hapen easy

5 or 6? Oh, yeah, I'd be relaxed alright. As in passed out cold on the bed. After a major hurl.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/28/2007 12:25:58 PM

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try 5-6 vodkas and when you feel relax, will hapen easy

Five or six shots of vodka? I suppose it is easy to have anal sex with a corpse...

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 2/28/2007 8:53:36 PM

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My boy can't get it in the butt unless I have had a vaginal orgasm first. It seems to relax me. Even then it's a chore. Try it lastly in a big long sex marathon. Also, relax, condom, lube up.

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RE: Issues of the Behind - 3/1/2007 12:44:01 PM

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So glad I stumbled upon this thread. I have learned a lot. I just recently discovered the pleasures of anal, had done it only 2 times prior. The first time, I wouldn't let him past the "foyer", he was too big. But I liked the sensation. Then many years later, with a man who I now realize was a sexual dominant (the sex was always great with him) we tried it once. I had an orgasm,but didn't like the after affects (we were monogamous and he released back there, sorry TMI, but I didn't care for feeling that AFTER...during, a different story) Then, I was with a an new man over the New Years, and he just happened to keep miss and enter the back way. It was delicious, I think the condom made things much easier, my opinion.

I do have some maintenance concerns....like because said NYE lover had girth, I had trouble with letting gas slip without wanting it to for about 3 days

. So I began to realize this method of 'fun' could only be once in a while. Also, I don't wish to do anal when my tummy isn't feeling so terrific, so all of you giving enema info, well that was really helpful. I do wish to please a future dom by being able to have anal on his command, so now I think I can fulfill this request. I feel very prepared now to face most challenges. THANKYOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

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