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a Master - 2/22/2007 9:06:54 PM

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it met a Master here . it...that is He wants to think and feel like. we are into a lot of the same stuff.
He is assuming control over it as W/it and correspond. it feels great about the way and the extent that He is taking control of it. Trouble is the He wants it to make some serious commitments when W/it first meet. In about a month. are things moving too fast?

RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 9:08:30 PM

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it is NOT vanilla. whatever the icon might say. it very kinky. Thank You.

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RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 9:10:26 PM

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If you have to ask the question, the answer is yes.

You've nothing to gain in rushing. This is all YOUR choice (and his, but he's not having an issue right now)- go at the pace you feel comfortable going.

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RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 9:21:01 PM

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I'll second what LA said - this stuff takes a lot of trust, and trust isn't always easy or quick to build. Take it at a pace that's comfortable for you, or you'll find yourself in a situation that's not comfortable.

Negotation is also important to this stuff - negotiating over the pace is a fine place to start that, and build good communication skills with each other.

Best of luck to you both,

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RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 9:33:46 PM

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it is NOT vanilla. whatever the icon might say. it very kinky. Thank You.

Why does everyone care so much about that bloody icon?

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RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 9:43:55 PM

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AS I find it amusing that so many people get positivly worked up over a simple little icon.

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RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 9:58:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: carlaa

it met a Master here . it...that is He wants to think and feel like. we are into a lot of the same stuff.
He is assuming control over it as W/it and correspond. it feels great about the way and the extent that He is taking control of it. Trouble is the He wants it to make some serious commitments when W/it first meet. In about a month. are things moving too fast?

It??? what is "it"??

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RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 10:03:17 PM

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Patience, Trust and more patience..
you btw are NOT an "IT" but a human being and I pray that your Master/Dom treats you with the respect that your submission merits.

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RE: a Master - 2/22/2007 10:27:51 PM

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it, I assume is the original posters way of refering to themself.

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RE: a Master - 2/23/2007 12:13:47 AM

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In a word."yes"

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RE: a Master - 2/23/2007 12:31:41 AM

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Indecent???

*struggles to find some decent clothes to put on*

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RE: a Master - 2/23/2007 1:51:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: carlaa

it met a Master here . it...that is He wants to think and feel like. we are into a lot of the same stuff.
He is assuming control over it as W/it and correspond. it feels great about the way and the extent that He is taking control of it. Trouble is the He wants it to make some serious commitments when W/it first meet. In about a month. are things moving too fast?

Well, this isn't going to be a very popular answer, but hell, carlaa.. you're a 64 year old gay male sissy submissive and your swimming pool is going to be very limited. You have a month before your first meet to spend a lot of time online/phone getting to know him better and hopefully, your logic, gut and heart will be able to use that month to get in sync. If you are comfortable and you want to go for it, then go for it. Quite honestly, you just might not get that many chances to grab the brass ring. You are feeling 'great' about the way things are going. Take the month and see if things continue to feel great. Watch for red flags and if any pop up, analyze them.

You have some trepidation and that's understandable, so be careful and have your first few meets in public. Get his contact info and share it with a few trusted friends and let him know that you've done so. Seriously, use the month you have before your meet wisely. You may find that within that month, he isn't the one you're seeking anyway. Just take things one day at a time, carlaa and when you meet, see if the chemistry is there. You don't have to make a plan right this minute to commit to him, but I wouldn't completely shun the idea either.

Good luck to you,

Celeste

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RE: a Master - 2/23/2007 4:23:51 AM

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lol, it's amazing the visual picture you get in your head when you read a post, and then you check the profile.......

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RE: a Master - 2/23/2007 6:18:36 AM

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yes, plain and simple, yes

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RE: a Master - 2/23/2007 6:20:35 AM

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and what happened to you wanting a femme?

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RE: a Master - 2/24/2007 4:21:17 PM

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thanks to all of you who replied to my "rushing it" concerns. they were all helpful
carlaa

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RE: a Master - 2/24/2007 11:00:16 PM

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In a word."yes"

When forced to commit to a word, I prefer words like peurile and ephemeral.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

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RE: a Master - 2/25/2007 11:10:56 AM

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BitaTrudle has a point. Sound like a rock and a hard place. Rushing isn't a good idea if your not comfortable on the other hand a older gay TV isn't going to have many options. BitaTrube also gives some safty advise, take it. If you decide that grabbing for that ring faster that fast is worthwhile you will need it. Even if you take your time it isn't a bad idea.

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RE: a Master - 2/26/2007 11:46:25 AM

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at 64 you have had other lovers and relationships, some that worked better then others right?

ask yourself what qualities made those relationships work, were they ones that this relationship has an abundance or a dearth of?

ask yourself what patterns with men do you have? is jumping in with two feet into the unknown served you well in the past or has it been harmful?

ask yourself why you want to be called an it, is it a sexy thrill/rush...or is it more?

imho unstable sissys are more common then stable ones, but then that is my experience with submissives in general, as well.

part of my definition of "stable" would mean not needing to ask a hundred total strangers whether they should make life changing commitments to some one they have not met in real life. ...your definition is probally different.

if you have a history of making unstable decisions, then no, i would not make this decision till you were sure in your heart.

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RE: a Master - 3/2/2007 10:18:49 PM

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carlaa, in my experiance the top that pushes things where you even think you are going too fast is usually not the real deal ( which is why I didn't cap the t). Take a step back and look really carefully for the red flags. If you don't see any get a friend to help cuz you're not seeing clearly because there are always red flags that must be negotiated even with the best of Tops.

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