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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 11:46:51 AM

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Here's another thread on long distance punishment that might help you:

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 12:02:27 PM

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Didn't read the whole thread but here's my 2 cents.

i can't, for the life of me, imagine forgetting something for 2 weeks...and i am pretty damn forgetful, just ask my Master lol....But then again i can't imagine my Master letting it slide for 2 weeks, or letting it go unnoticed. i know you are busy, so are most of us, but a D/s relationship usually takes a lot of devotion and sometimes we really do have to make the time.

i would suggest the following punishment, Have her write (hand written) the 2 weeks of journal, plus either lines and or an essay, and let her know that she is not to contact you in any way until you receive what you have requested by mail (air (snail) mail)

i truly don't think the other types punishments, like oragasm denial are that effective when you are physically together, realistically you have no guarantee that she is really obeying you.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 3:40:13 PM

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I'm going to agree with AAkasha and others. I don't think either you or your sub is very serious about this. You don't have to be, if you just like role playing a bit. I'm not being smart-assed. There's nothing wrong with that. But a serious submissive doesn't "forget" to do something for 2 weeks, anymore than they might forget to take their wallet along when going out to buy something.

One piece of advice that is useful no matter what you are trying to train (subs, pets, critters, kids, co-workers, etc.). Never give an order that you are not willing to enforce if need be. If you are not willing to keep up on her consistently to make the journal entries, then don't tell her she has to do it in the first place.

It is a little hard to stay on someone when your working from 7 in the morning to 11 everynight and have to drive an hour to and from work. she is and will be getting punished for this everyday til i move though.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 3:45:34 PM

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I know she wouldn't lie to me cause i can tell when she lies and she isn't that low and pathetic to lie to someone she has devoted herself to and is willing to die for.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 3:45:42 PM

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It is a little hard to stay on someone when your working from 7 in the morning to 11 everynight and have to drive an hour to and from work. she is and will be getting punished for this everyday til i move though.

Not to be totally rude, but do you really have time for a slave if it's that difficult and you don't have the time to enforce something so simple?
My relationship is a little different, but we set aside at least an hour every day to just spend time with each other and/or talk. We do not live together right now (in fact, we are well over an hour away from each other), he works from 9 to 9 and I am in class all day and work two part time jobs, but we still manage that.
Relationships take work and dedication and that should be something to consider before starting a relationship.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 3:52:02 PM

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i was only working those hours for 2 weeks and now i have a couple days off and i should not really need to stay on anyone for something so small. she should not need her masters reminder to do it and like i said it is only for 47 more days about. then she is totally mine and we'll be living alone together.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 3:57:35 PM

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I still have to agree with some of the other posters here and say that it sounds like she is not really interested nor dedicated. Maybe it's just because it isn't a real life thing, but I don't know her or what she is feeling. Maybe you should ask her why she isn't doing it (and if she says that she forgets then I think it would be safe to say that she isn't interested)

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:04:01 PM

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I still have to agree with some of the other posters here and say that it sounds like she is not really interested nor dedicated. Maybe it's just because it isn't a real life thing, but I don't know her or what she is feeling. Maybe you should ask her why she isn't doing it (and if she says that she forgets then I think it would be safe to say that she isn't interested)

it was a real life thing for 6 months so far and only online for about 2 months and i will say it again i did not start this thread to argue with anyone. just here for ideas and if you need to hear why she didn't from her then i will allow her to come on and say why this one time.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:07:56 PM

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Just trying to put in my two cents.

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....i will allow her to come on and say why this one time.

I have issues with that all on its own, but I'm going to leave it alone unless someone is interested in hearing because I don't know if I want to start an argument.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:11:03 PM

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I know. I had no intent of insulting you siamsa24.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:14:19 PM

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You didn't insult me, it takes a lot to do that, I work retail

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:22:57 PM

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Ok i got the full story from her. the first couple days after i left she was feeling really down and had to get used to being alone again and the rest of the time was just loneliness so she is going to be punished for the whole thing so can i just start getting other ideas for punishment's? no offence ment in what i just said to anyone.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:27:25 PM

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Here's my two cents on the subject. I'm 2 hours from Fangs so I kind of have a personal perspaective. If I "forgot" to do something for him for 2 weeks, it would be less forgetting and more testing his limits. Maybe I'm just a brat, but I need reminders and assurances that he will enforce what he says.

Do I for a minute actually think that I would get away with something like that? Nope. If it was allowed to slide, especially for that long, I'd be hurt that he didn't care enough to follow through, and just get brattier and brattier. Good thing he doesn't let anything slide, it's comforting to always know where I stand.

Back to the subject at hand, all the suggested punishments are good. You might also want to try having her get a webcam and kneel on the rice with nipples clamped or something else painful while you watch. No communication with you other than knowing you are there watching her suffer. Knowing Fangs was there but not reachable because of my own idiocy would kill me.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:32:03 PM

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Thank you for your input liltxsubby but did you read the whole thread or just the first post? and i think i might try that idea although she only has binder clips for clamps which are pretty harsh as it is without the rice.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:35:35 PM

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Ok i got the full story from her. the first couple days after i left she was feeling really down and had to get used to being alone again and the rest of the time was just loneliness so she is going to be punished for the whole thing so can i just start getting other ideas for punishment's? no offence ment in what i just said to anyone.

Are you kidding me? You said you have not been able to pay attention to her, and part of the problem was you were not following up with her on the requests you made, so much so you lost track that she wasn't even doing it. Then all the excuses about your working hours.

Now you tell us she didn't do it because she was sad and lonely? Could it be that you were not following up, paying attention to her? And so the solution now -- oh, punish her of course!

Did it occur to you that you have some emotional obligations to her as her "Master", and that includes holding up your end of the deal? You visit there and everything is hot then leave and she stops receiving communication from you (as you admit) and then you are ready to punish her for not doing her report (without even asking her why, you have to let all of us tell you to find out why), and now you find out it's because she's upset at the lack of contact from *you*?

Some advice here. A submissive is not a playtoy you just use at your convenience, and if you are too "busy" to do the dominating/follow up then she just sits and suffers with no direction, AND gets punished for being upset about it. You should treat people you care about better than that.

It's a *two way street*. It's as much your fault as hers.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:37:06 PM

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Exactly what I was going to point out AAkasha, you beat me to it.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 4:49:27 PM

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It was an order not a request aakasha. My working hours were not an excuse either. they were true. She was sad and lonely cause i was there with her for 10 days and then had to come back home to go back to work. She still gets communication from me just not in person. I did ask her why and the first answer i got was "i forgot." She knows what she should do and shouldn't do.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 5:03:11 PM

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It was an order not a request aakasha. My working hours were not an excuse either. they were true. She was sad and lonely cause i was there with her for 10 days and then had to come back home to go back to work. She still gets communication from me just not in person. I did ask her why and the first answer i got was "i forgot." She knows what she should do and shouldn't do.

I guess I need to spell it out to be more clear. She "forgot" because she's crying out for attention and you are too blind to see it, and all you can think about now is what a good punishment should be.

You admitted in your first post you've been too busy to "keep track" of what she is and isn't doing to even realize she hadn't done her daily assignments. You have to get your priorities straight.

If she was getting regular communication from you and it never mentioned why she hasn't been doing her assignments, she's probably feeling like you don't care one way or another.

Regardless, your relationship is in need of better communication first and foremost.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 5:12:40 PM

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i believe this Master is asking for our help not to bash him... I am in a M/s relation ship where i do not live with my Master but he trust me and knows me well enough to know if i am doing as he asks of me... He talks to me every day weather it be by the computer or phone....sometimes when i have been punished the punishment has been given to with out him there but also if the punishment calls for it is put on hold until i can see him again... i guess it would depend what i did not do or what i did wrong.... i to keep a journal for him to read because of our distance... it is for his benefits as well as mine i believe. I have forgotten to send it to him at times or just got busy with everyday stuff or even ill and not written in it depending on why i have been punished..... things that i can think of are Have her write a letter to you as to why it is an important thing to do... not contacting her....tell her there will be a punishment when you see her next (some times that gets me worse then the punishment)

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/6/2005 5:13:40 PM

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she knows i care. she know's that she is the most important thing in my life and pretty much the only reason i haven't snapped yet. Don't imply that i'm an idiot aakasha i know slaves need communication just like any vanilla relationship doesno good relationship will last with out communication between the 2 or more partners. Now i'm tired of argueing with you aakasha. i didn't say i had to use those punishment ideas now. i could always leave them for another time.

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