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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/10/2005 10:23:05 PM

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In the interest of peaceful conversation, I am going to offer this alternative suggestion:

If you are too busy to read her entries every day, tell her that. Perhaps something along the lines of: "I have been so busy lately that I haven't been able to get to your journal entries yet. But, in my next free minute, I will be reading them."

This lets her know that you are interested and will be looking for all of her entries and that it could be at any time so they better be there. Logging onto the website to see if it is there is probably enough for now until you have a chance to catch up on your reading. It also reinforces your expectation that she is following orders without assuming she is not doing them (which will give her an excuse not to).

Keeping a daily activity log was mentioned earlier in the thread and this is a good way to discipline her to write. I work two jobs and have three kids, and I can still sit down for five minutes each day to check email. Looking over a daily activity log could be easier than reading volumes of journal entries, and definitely not as daunting!

I think it's very important to let your submissive/slave know that you are as good as your word. You gave an order and you expect it to be followed and you will be checking to see that it is.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/10/2005 11:58:43 PM

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EmeraldSlave2: I agree ~ i wouldn't 'expect' Master to do anything... it is entirely up to him whether he reads what i've written or not (incidentally, Master has never required me to write a journal ~ conversation about what i've been doing during the day is how we communicate). However, i don't consider my slavery a thankless, pointless task. We hear so much about 'communication being key' in this lifestyle ~ but if he's not communicating his dis/pleasure to me about How i've completed a task... then how am i to know he's happy with things? ( i can think of a couple of possible answers to this, but i'm trying to avoid my usual trick of arguing all sides and ending up looking at my backside!).

Now if Master wants to teach me something particular by getting me to do something 'pointless' ~ that is a whole different issue. But in that case i would expect that the lesson became clear at some point. Even if he himself never told me the purpose, then i hope i would have a moment of clarity and understanding of what i was learning. But then... perhaps i'm guilty of wanting to understand too much... I can certainly see how i could lean too far in that direction. haha.

I suppose in most of these issues, its a question of the dynamics of a relationship, rather than a right-or-wrong answer to any of these things.

DomNeo: No offence at all taken (can't see anything to take offence at!). I'd reply that if you have time to read and reply to 5 pages of suggestions for Punishment, then you probably have time to check in on your sub and see she's ok. Obviously i don't know as much about your situation as you do, and i don't know what your sub is like or how your relationship works... i'm just an outside observer saying what i see.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/11/2005 1:11:18 PM

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ok I confess i havent read every reply usually when they are this big I dont. < bad bad bad > anyhow I will give my 2 cents worth. besides what i mostly see of this person has strayed and you dont have her under any control my suggestion is. I assume she has a computer invest in a web cam so you can see this person. They really are not expensive you can get one for like 10.00 at walmart or check ebay. then you can see that punishment is being done such as, ginger, clothes pins, kneeling on rice or dried beans, heck gravel works to. wax, and ice, anyhow these are things that can be done by herself to herself and you will see that it is getting done. OR if no computer invest in a poloroid camera lord i prob spelled that wrong and have pics taken of these things and have them sent to you. IF they dont get done then i would say time for a new submissive.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/11/2005 4:27:08 PM

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DomNeo: No offence at all taken (can't see anything to take offence at!). I'd reply that if you have time to read and reply to 5 pages of suggestions for Punishment, then you probably have time to check in on your sub and see she's ok. Obviously i don't know as much about your situation as you do, and i don't know what your sub is like or how your relationship works... i'm just an outside observer saying what i see.

~ Elektra

Did you skip the one post i said where my work was starting to slow down due to spring break up and an audit?

Sweeticing Although we both have webcams they can't fallow her all the way around the house and it would be hard to be punishing yourself while taking a pic of yourself.

Now if i've offended anyone with the post my apologies. I ment no harm or to offend. I"m just trying to get my point accross.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/12/2005 7:19:06 AM

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Actually thought this would be a really interesting post, however after reading the first 2 pages, it seemed to become some sort of critique of the original posters relationship...full of what I can only describe as pop-psychological pseudo analysis, that seems so common on a lot of forums...nothing wrong with that but I find it tedious so I skipped to the end to post this.

Anyways a few suggestions from the top of my head (and I loved the rice one - but isn't that supposed to hurt like f**k?)

- an elastic band around the base of each breast for an hour or whatever each evening (common sense note -vary the time on how tight the band is)
- high heels to be worn all weekend / during the week (time depending on how used she is to wearing high heels).
- early bedtime! Naughty boys and girls should go to bed early. Actually weird how effective this one can be, plenty of time for thinking about how 'bad' one has been lying in bed and waiting to fall asleep...
- cold showers only for a week, personally think this one might be a wee bit vindictive, hot shower deprivation should be outlawed...but if your feeling mean this might do it (oh yeah - if your living in a hot country probably not worthwhile really lol)

Anyways - would love to see other peoples ideas about punishment ideas rather than the 'off-topic' posts that seem to have been posted;)

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/12/2005 7:47:36 AM

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I think most "punishment ideas" like those are just ways for a dom to be sadistic without feeling responsible for the pain. Those ideas really have nothing to do with the actual problem, nothing to do with correcting the behavior that you want to change and nothing to do with figuring out why this supposed submissive disobeyed in the first place.

To me punishment is behavior modification. Making someone wear high heels all weekend because they didn't take your suit to the dry cleaners just doesn't make sense to me.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/12/2005 7:55:11 AM

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- an elastic band around the base of each breast for an hour or whatever each evening (common sense note -vary the time on how tight the band is)

- early bedtime! Naughty boys and girls should go to bed early. Actually weird how effective this one can be, plenty of time for thinking about how 'bad' one has been lying in bed and waiting to fall asleep...

this boy did have an Online relationship with a Couple and those were 2 of Their favoured methods of punishment, obviously the elsatic bad went around somewhere else (Y/you can imagine where) and that was a very effective method of reminding me of what boy had done wrong, and as for the early bedtime it really does work and can be done using a webcam (if PC is in your room) as one of boys Owners used to be online to ensure boy was tucked up in bed by 4pm!! Also sleep deprevation is a good one!

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/12/2005 10:26:59 AM

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I thank all of you for your idea's and even though we both have webcams my comp is the only one that is in my room. hers is in her parents office.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/14/2005 4:44:45 PM

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BUZZ!

Feel free to post more ideas E/everyone.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/14/2005 8:55:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: DomNeo

BUZZ!

Feel free to post more ideas E/everyone.

DomNeo.

This is where we ask

"...but, how have thigns gone? We gave you quite a few ideas and quite a few sugestions. It doesn't seem like you -need- more ideas, at this point."

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/14/2005 10:37:28 PM

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I never did say i had to use the ideas now though. Could always keep them for later.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/15/2005 3:10:06 AM

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The point is sometimes If you read it or not she KNOWS you can be looking at any time I had a potential who expected his girls to journa. he may not always read it he might you never knew the point is it was to BE THERE read or not:))

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/15/2005 11:08:02 AM

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I never did say i had to use the ideas now though. Could always keep them for later.

DomNeo.

At some point you have to take responsibility on your own. Soliciting ideas because you are kind of in a mental roadblock on an issue is one thing; then to just keep asking for more for "later" smacks of a guy who can't think on his own or just gets off on hearing ideas. People already gave you tons of advice, the communication side of which you mostly thumbed your nose at.

Now you want more ideas?

Why not give your submissive over to the newsgroup and let us collectively handle the relationship?

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/15/2005 12:08:23 PM

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Why not give your submissive over to the newsgroup and let us collectively handle the relationship?

This actually might not be a horrible idea, I would really like to see what she has to say about all this. It might be interesting.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/15/2005 1:46:56 PM

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Why not give your submissive over to the newsgroup and let us collectively handle the relationship?

This actually might not be a horrible idea, I would really like to see what she has to say about all this. It might be interesting.

I was thinking something similar. I'd really like to hear her outlook on the relationship.

Too, I'm curious how the essay-thing went, and if they were able to work out time to corespond.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/16/2005 2:25:21 AM

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I think this would have been a really fun thread if it had just been asking for punishment ideas.

As is was, i think a lot of us are wondering... just how the relationship is going, and whether its going to work out, and how she is feeling.

~ Elektra

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/16/2005 5:58:55 AM

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I think that the punichment should always fit whatever was done to recieve it. So it's important to know why the punishment is taking place. In this case, I am starting to wonder what exactly is going on and if this is a real relationship at all.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/16/2005 10:33:45 AM

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People already gave you tons of advice, the communication side of which you mostly thumbed your nose at.

Now you want more ideas?

Why not give your submissive over to the newsgroup and let us collectively handle the relationship?

Akasha

*laughs* Oooo sounds fun.. Let us play with them.. like our own little kinky Barbie and Ken dolls.

All kidding aside.. I agree.. Something about asking for more ideas for future mishaps just rubs me wrong. Not exactly sure why.

Maybe its because this Dom doesn't seem inclined to use what I'd consider suitable punishment for the crime and seems far more interested in what he can make his sub/slave do sexually than her well-being.

But I could be just reading into things.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/16/2005 11:19:02 AM

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Making someone wear high heels all weekend because they didn't take your suit to the dry cleaners just doesn't make sense to me.

Emerald that one he sugested just sounded like something that would be sexy for the dom to see but usless as punishment for forgetting your writing duties.

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RE: Long distance punishment ideas. - 4/16/2005 12:15:48 PM

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Greetings A/all who visit this thread.
Here is my situation. My slave has been forgetting to do her journal entrys for over 2 weeks now and i've been too busy to keep track of it but i need a new punishment to add to what she already has. Any ideas from A/anyone?

I already have her going 50 days with no orgasms while bringing herself close 4 times a day everyday and it is a long distance relationship so i am not there to punish her by hand.

Thank you E/everyone for your input.

Dom Neo.

i have been reading CM forums long enough to know what the general response will be ..so i will not torment myself reading all the replies.

May i say something from my expereince?

When He ignores directives and lets me slip with them, i assume they mean very little to Him. When i asked about them, He admitted that to always attend to them ws like attending to a wet diaper. Either i did them or i didnt.
Was He pleased? No.
But He used silence and lack of calling attention to my disobedience as a form of discipline. (Note i did not call it punishment.) This bothered me more than anything and i knew this way His way for me.... worked for U/us.

i never do intentionally disobey, it is not in me or of me.
Sometimes i simply forgot and He could tell by conversation that i was lacking focus and thus just forgot with my hectic schedule.

LDR's are a bitch, but "intuneness" is so important.

Punishment? 99.9% on this board will totally judge this, but i dont give a S*** for He knew it would work for me.... He set me up with a Dom or two to fuck me and slap my ass and basicly humiliate me into realizing 1. He could do what He wanted and how He wanted it 2. i was His and He was willing to be creative in discipline 3. He knew He could trust me and my words that i followed through in actions.

Whatever you do with yours is becasue you KNOW her. Another's idea on how to punish or discipline may not work for you and yours.

He knew me and knows me instinctively. He trusts His gut and proceeds.

Do what works for you and yours and be creative, DO NOT be afraid of what others will think.

~~shy

PS as i was about to post his, i got really nawty and thought....
1. he "should" have her color dot to dot in kids activity books, a book a week and mail them by pony express
2. instead of orgasm control, make her suck cock every other day for a month (works only if she needs her pussy used and cant get it...no toys either) after she finds a guy who is willing to do this for you ... this too will be horribly frowned upon on CM forums
3. instead of orgasm control (which she could lie the ying yang about for you) allow her anything she wants
4. hang up on her whenever she calls and email her with the resons why everytime you do
5. ignore her for a week and tell her it is her "punishment"
6. send her to a corner with a dunce cap on, nude and have a neighbor take her picture every 10 min for 8 hours
7. have her scrub the toilet with a toothbrush and then take a pic of herself doing so
...getting cheeky arent i? hehehehehehehe

In my expereince, sexual control does not always work...it is the emotions, heart and brain that must be controlled. Well that is O/our power exchange, may not be yours.

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