TigerNINTails
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong Neither a dom nor a sub, not either a dom or a sub...simply a switch. When one is a switch (I know for a fact from where I speak, I've been one my entire life), as it pertains to the D/s and M/s dynamics (and it DOES pertain to both) and the BDSM activities, and interrelations of individuals in this community, this statement is absolutely diametrically opposed to the reality. Switch = An individual in the alternative lifestyles community which partakes in both Dominant and submissive roles, exhibiting both Dominant and submissive traits dependent on context, situation and relation. In order to be a switch, we must have both Dominant and submissive qualities within. If we did not have either... We would be dysfunctional. I believe your view point to be completely and maliciously twisted by your previous experience. Just my opinion here. quote:
ORIGINAL: LotusSong So you are a switch who dictates to other switches when they can switch? LOL! Just be who you are and know you are not going to be everyones' cup of tea and leave others to enjoy THEIR choices. (This is getting downright ridiculous) What's ridiculous is that you obviously truly don't understand an M/s dynamic involving switches to switches (How could you, you aren't a switch?) What she is saying is that in regards to her as a switch, and being slave to ONE chosen Master, (and I implore you to stop fighting to "Be right" about this) is that when she's dealing with switches that bottom to and slave to and submit to HER, THOSE switches are not allowed to TOP her... There is no "Topping from the bottom" in her relationship on any level, either with her to her Owner, or those whom service her towards her. In addition, and this was plain as day to me, I don't see how you could be confused about it, is that she only submits to one man. So being a switch, and a bit Toppy with other switches and slaves, she can choose NOT to allow anyone to Top or Dominate her BUT her Owner... After all, can't you make that choice? Of course you can. Don't begrudge her ability to make her own decisions. I see something here that reminds me of an envious neighbor that sees everything as greener on the other side of a fence they can't get over. quote:
ORIGINAL: LotusSong So what is you big beef then? I don't mean a switch is a bad person.. I just see their focus more on "role play" for whatever fits at the moment. Not too wide a brush as you accuse me of. This is absolutely too broad a brush... You're shotgun marketing with your definition of switches and at the same time, you're pigeonholing us into a rather unsavoury definition of being "RolePlayers"... I enjoy role playing, sure... But I live my M/s TPE relationship. Am I a switch? Yes. Do I switch with my slaves? No. Do I partner up with some people, on occasion at play parties, to bottom, and explore my bottom side? Absolutely. Do I submit to these people? No. You see, it's not about what fits the moment. It's about how it applies to your life. Switches are not empty, greedy, dishonest and manipulative individuals that simply are out to fulfill whatever "fantasy" that they see fit for the moment. We, on the contrary, have so much depth, and curiosity, it spills into different aspects of the lifestyles. There is no wrong way to do something in D/s, M/s and BDSM, unless you are doing something harmful to another, physically, mentally or spiritually. Note there is a difference between hurt and harm. Hurt serves a purpose. In some cases, sometimes it's senseless, but that's beside the point. Switches are fluid, compatible in many more situations, with many more individuals on a personal and lifestyle level, simply by being true to their fluid and dynamic nature. And that is the key point. We are fluid. You asked "Why can't they accept "I'm not interested?"..." I put to you another question... Why are you so hurt, due to the choices that a switch (or anyone else for that matter) has a right to make? Further, switches don't try to be everything to everyone. We do however, have an ability to flow, and become that which is needed or wanted by any one specific individual at that time, or even permanently, should we align well enough. I hope that you understand better now, what it is that you seem to be inclined to flame. Have a great day. Peace. Tora
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