Okay, let me make something clear here,
I'm not trying to argue this point, I know precisely who I am, what I'm about etc, just as every other switch does. But you say things such as:
"My typewriter does not have the capability to "type between the lines". So please stop saying things I have never said!" When you've said precisely what I quoted you as stating. In fact, it reads precisely as I took it. Ask anyone reading it.
And then you state things such as:
"I keep my posts brief and to the point." When in reality, you keep your posts curt, and sarcastically repugnant, and quite a bit reflective of "racist" though I would think it might well be something along the lines of "orientationist"... Prejudiced against those that have a capacity to slip in one direction or the other according to the currents in the stream.
So, say what you mean. Because if what you've stated and what I've read is not what you meant, then there is something seriously in error here somewhere.
What I responded to is precisely what was written. And I wrote precisely what I meant.
And you're not using a typewriter... You're using a computer keyboard. Quite a bit of a difference there... Doncha' think? Okay, perhaps that was me sarcastically picking at something with little importance... But here's a perception of yours that is false also that IS more important to me...
"We have so many of the posts here about switches and why they are unpopular.."
Ha!! You really do crack me up, you know that?? *slaps his thigh and shakes his head as he laughs and laughs...*
So unpopular? Lady, I've got so many friends at the moment I literally have to tell people I'm not looking for more.. The ones that I like and align with are all that I need... I am not miserable...
In fact, most people in the actual community have a tendency to agree (4 out of 5 Tops agree) that a switch is fun to play with... LMAO!
Okay, I don't know if that's the ratio... My point is that, no regardless of your perception or experiences, it doesn't make us unpopular. People are seeming to be confused with the label.
Just cause I'm a switch, does not mean I'm not a person, a whole person like everyone else... Being a switch wouldn't make me unpopular... Handling my situations badly, being a liar, a thief, a cheat, etc.
These things would make me unpopular... Not my lifestyle identity. Which, incidentally is quite a bit more Top than bottom, but I'm able to slide into that mental space of a bottom on occasion... In fact, I do it on the fly, to understand the reality of my slave sometimes...
The meaning of a look, the stance of her body, etc... This isn't to say I "switch" with my slave. This is to say that I allow my mentality to shift into bottom mode when I'm thinking of somethng I need to understand about my girl...
On the internet, someone can only be so short and to the point, btw, and still get the RIGHT point they wish to get across, across to someone. Something about tonal differences, the way we speak naturally being disturbed by plain text.
"the constant lament of why they can't find a partner.." This is everywhere, by the way. This is with Tops, bottoms, S/switches, slaves, submissives, Dominants, Masters and Mistresses...
Some people will not be good at hunting, or even capturing and keeping that which travels within their nets, for very long. It has nothing to do with them being switches.
However, I will say that there are some ignoramii amongst us that seem to think that we're "wishy-washy" or "indecisive" or "choosey" or whatever other word they use as a descriptive which is inaccurate...
No.. We're not. We're capable. Plain and simple. And probably more so than those moron's that make statements like that. And no, not a direct swipe at you LotusSong, I haven't heard that precisely out of you...
Just a general statement towards those that are still not knowing. I aint miserable at all... IN fact, when it comes to opportunities, I find myself with more as a result of my switchiness...
"If you guys don't want a discussion from DIFFERENT view points.. then don't ask the question."
Then by all means, stick to the question, and don't digress into "switch bashing" as what you'll end up with is getting burned by some switches...
And yes, switch bashing is directly what you degenerated into... Try stepping into someones shoes who is a switch and look at your posts and tell me otherwise...
We have stuck to the question, why can't you? The question was "Why are we so rare?"... NOT "Why can't I get a date as a switch?"
Note the difference? I sure hope so, it's pretty obvious to me...
"Otherwise, I'll leave you all to huddle and point fingers as you commiserate." Please, I don't want to hear your plans for the day, any more than you want to hear mine... This much is obvious.
"If it's so fulfilling.. then why are all so miserable?" This is obviously where you don't get it... We are not ALL so miserable. Perhaps some are. But I wager those are yet to find comfort in their own skin and I doubt they even realize what they are doing, let alone know they're a switch. But that's just me, guessing here. I don't have hard data and facts and figures to back that up, and neither do you to oppose it.
I'm not miserable... I can only speak for myself... But as a switch, I'm nowhere near miserable. Please don't make blanket statements that, again, PIGEONHOLE us into a state of being... Miserable, Role Players, Wanna Be, Dateless, Nothing Going Right, etc. etc.
Please... Get real. We're switches. We're flexible and capable. But unless something specific happens, rarely are we miserable.
As for taking this personally... No... Taking it as a slander to an entire group, that could damage the credibility of any one person that identifies with it, just like prejudice wants to do?
Absolutely... This sort of ignorance is what brings out my claws... So if we're going to agree to disagree, I think, LotusSong, you know what your best course of action is.
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