RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 7:18:26 AM

MsBearlee

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Yes, everything LadyPact said...and:

I like the exchange of power; authority. While I don’t see one sex as being superior to another…or even one person being superior to another…I do enjoy TPE.

Having said that…for me, I look at my submissive man as my knight. He would be quite capable, strong in character and interested in both taking care of…and being taken care of; if that makes sense.

While I understand some men enjoy being vulnerable to the point of being degraded and kept like animals, I think that is somewhat of a rarity in real life.

I would like to hear how a man embraces submission; gives up authority to his lady, offers up his service to her in any way she will have it…yet continues to be both independent and powerful in his own right. Is it possible to be submissive and a free-thinker who does not need micro-management? Is it possible to be a Knight…and yet completely submissive?

I would like to hear what submissive men think about all these things.

B

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 7:25:50 AM

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I try to be those things. I document my experiences on my blog here http://slave2catwoman.blogspot.com/

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 7:29:30 AM

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I posted a profile where I said I was there for the Dom/me. I get as much interest as a Marine Corps recruiter at Woodstock.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 7:33:16 AM

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Pedicure tips. I'd love to see male subs swapping pedicure tips and cleaning suggestions. Sharing a neat new way to handle lawn care, or keeping down allergens (while cleaning and everyday) for a sensitive Domme.

Sharing skill sets and resources. Posting a link to an article or essay and then their opinion on it.

~E

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 8:55:37 AM

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Great responses - I hope submissive men are taking notes and planning to start some topics soon!

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 1:48:31 PM

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I can't speak for the entire malesub population, but here's my POV:

Just because a man desires to submit to a special woman, it doesn't even remotely mean that he's going to turn into a touchy-feely, open-book kind of guy in public... or around other guys.

He only wants to be submissive to that one special woman... not the rest of the world.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 2:16:14 PM

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There is also the fact that males, generally (culture-related, maybe?), have a tendency to, when confronted with a problem, not express their frustrations; rather, they seek to solve them on their own. This is due to the fragile male ego at work. After some time, their frustration boils over, and they lash out - not realizing the anger they are feeling is, actually, anger at themselves for failure to succeed at a self-appointed task.
We males need to back off and think before we speak. Well, okay, that goes for most people. Males with a Mistress (or even a vanilla wife/helper, and Doms with a trusted high ranking bond-servant) have someone to help/teach/guide them. If they remember to seek that help. Those males still looking are too often without any guidance. Especially since western culture has seemingly forgotten the power a male can provide another male in a covenant friendship (think blood-brothers). As iron sharpens iron...
Personally, I'd like to hear how male subs strive to please their Mistress, have they learned Her love &/or power language(s)? What makes their Mistress say: "Well done!"?

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 3:10:59 PM

LadyIce

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I would too Gaze, I asked the question yesterday. I guess no-one can think of
anything they can do to please their Mistress. I keep waiting and hoping, we might
get one or two posts answering the question.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 4:26:16 PM

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LadyIce,
Did you ask the question in a post on CM? If so, I didn't see it and can't seem to locate the thread...

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 4:44:07 PM

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To me, being a male sub fits right in with being a gentleman. After all, "Ladies First." I usually love all women and will go out of my way just to make something a little easier for them, even strangers. Of course the same goes for my partner. I am most content when I'm helping a woman with something. It's as if anything else would be unnatural. To carry the thought further, my ultimate fantasy would be to become a woman's total slave.

Of course at work, there are defined rules and I follow them. Still I make an extra effort with wome to make the contact as pleasant as possible.

Don't know if this helps, but I have no problems discussing it further.

need

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/28/2007 5:56:24 PM

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Good thread, with some thought-provoking and interesting and useful responses from both males and females, subs and Dommes.

I want to respond to Strike1's saying:
" How about a few saying what they have to offer, rather than WANT?"

While I agree that this is perfectly reasonable, especially if, like I am, you're a sub and want to attract a Domme (if you want to sell what Jane Smith buys, you've got to see the world through Jane Smith's eyes, and Jane, just like practically ALL of us, is pretty much constantly tuned in to the radio station WIFM -- as in What's In It For Me, so it would seem to be more intelligent to be customer oriented).......but I've also got to say that it's pretty difficult, almost to the point of being impossible, for some of us to feel comfortable in "advertising" what we have to offer. After all, we're taught not to brag or boast about ourselves.

This is even more true for those of us who are submissive -- in my case, and I'd bet it's the case for many others, the submissiveness is tied in with some strong feelings of inadequacy and shyness. And it doesn't seem too chivalrous, if we think about "serving" a woman, to be too public about our own qualities rather than being a whole lot more interested in our partner, what SHE wants, and what SHE thinks. So it's a little bit of a self-defeating cycle, it seems -- it's very reasonable that the Domme WANTS to hear what we have to offer, and if we DON'T be up-front about that then there's no special reason for the Domme to want us (esp. those of us who can't depend on our appearance alone making us desirable !) but for a lot of reasons -- and good reasons, I think -- we're reluctant to self-promote.

Don't know if this helps anybody else, but other responses to this thread have got me to thinking that the behavior that I'm talking about is more self-defeating than I'd realized.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 12:31:40 AM

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Skills. Abilities. Something that makes everyday life with said submissive more pleasant, perhaps. Just a thought...

-Einzelgänger
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My skills and abilities include (but are not limited to) the following:

Caring, loving, cool, fun.

Just a thought. You know?

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 1:17:46 AM

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joy,

Those are admirable character traits, but they are not skills nor abilities. Are you a computer expert (software or hardware)? Are you mechanically inclined? Are you a skilled professional in an area that might be useful (accountant, lawyer, doctor, massage therapist)? Are you a gourmet chef?

I think many of us would like to know in what areas subs/slaves are proficient so that we can gauge their usefulness to us.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 1:26:42 AM

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I'd opt for starting with the list I've provided.

All other things in due time.

I'm all about reality (sanity) based. Everything else is, really, just BS.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 1:36:39 AM

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That's nice that you opt for your list first. Again, those are character traits, not skills.

Nothing in my list was unreal, insane, nor BS.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 1:45:44 AM

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Fair enough but 'skills' can be learned.

In a relationship I'll stick with mine but best of luck to you.

If you need a mechanic, carpenter, lawyer, botanist, veterinarian, middle manager, etc. just let me know. I have a few friends I can recommend to you (you would have to pay for the service though, sorry).

I can't f*#^>*#! spell.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 1:51:02 AM

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Skills can be learned, indeed, and I have no need for any such skills at the time. But, I certainly would give preference to someone who was a skilled massage therapist over one who had no skills, if they were equal in all other respects.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 1:52:48 AM

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Well right on.

I'm sure he's out there.

Best of luck to you.

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RE: Posts you'd love to see from male subs - 4/29/2007 1:57:17 AM

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My reply to you was not intended to put you down in any manner. It was intended to explain why some of us would like to see these threads discussed.

Good luck to you as well.

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