LeatherBentOne
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I'd ask you the question,"What's in it for me?" There are some Dominants, myself being one of them, that ask this questions as mentoring or establishing an apprenticeship is a lot of work. Not just on your side, but especially on the Dominant who must invest much thought, time and energy (not to mention responsibilty) in taking on an apprentice. So, we ask where the win-win situation is in regards to our "extra" efforts, not saying that learning isnt an effort, but teaching can be especially draining to some. Ive been on both sides of the whip regarding this issue. Therefore . . . one of my requirements is that an apprentice bottom for me, preferably submit as well. That being said, I feel less drained as I have some energy coming back to me. Secondly, Im one of those who believes it's a character-building experience for one to "pay their dues." Thirdly, Ive always felt that a Dominant is more at an advantage to get into a submissive's mind on top of using S/m techniques and what inflicted pain really feels like on a physical, mental and sprititual level. Also, I believe that I am a better Dominant for having done so; however, Im not using this experience to compare myself to other Dom/Dommes but to how I might dominate had I not had the experience myself. I did this for 5 years in real life but their is only one real-life Dominant I'd ever consider subbing/bottoming to, who is incidently one of my previous Dommes and the one I consider to be the "love of my life." Best of luck to you during your journey. I hope Ive given you and others another prospect to consider. LBO
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