Mavis
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Of course all symbols, labels, rituals and traditions only have the meanings that each couple ascribes to them, but here's mine: wedding ring taken or removed is clearly saying divorce is an option, or a pending event, barring some change of behavior. collar taken or removed is clearly saying release is an option, or a pending event, barring some change of behavior. So is "If that happens again, I will release you from My service because you will have broken the bounds of our agreement." When i have committed some offense that shows a pattern that He won't tolerate, He has no problem stating quite clearly that He would rather release me than allow me to operate outside the objectives of the relationship. Oddly enough... When hubby went thru his "midlife stoopids", you dam bet we said the divorce word. You don't bandy it about easily, but at some point you do have to acknowledge there is this line, and beyond that, the relationship is a loss. (relationship healed, but we still haven't replaced the rings, my finger still aches over that) i don't consider either an idle threat, but facing reality. In marriage or M/s, we only have the relationship symbolised by the ring or collar as long as both parties are operating according to the dictates of that relationship. i don't think in either case is it a "punishment", but it is definately a viable, and very serious warning to remove or take back the symbol.
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