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ORIGINAL: 714Lovin

My former slave had a eating disorder when I first met her, I cured her of that by being strict about her eating, but in the end she got a little plump.  I accepted that to keep her healthy.  My point being is that eating disorders are pretty common so before a Master attempts to regulate a slaves eating habits he should be fully aware of her mental history and what is really healthy for her.  Once that has been determine it is his duty to make sure she is at the weight she should be for physical and metal health.

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ORIGINAL: 714Lovin

Not sure what you are trying to say/ask.

I should be more clear and say when I first met her she would throw her food up.  I helped her with that, but than she got a little chubby.  Later she might find another DOM that does not understand her history and put her on a diet causing her to start throwing up her food again.  My only point is that eating disorders can be dangerious and one should know his slave before treading here.  I'm not saying that weight enforcement is bad.  A slave should be perfected as her master sees it.  I'm just advising he be mindful.

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ORIGINAL: 714Lovin

All the chunky girls out there are hating you right now for this comment:

"I am skinny but don't have an eating disorder, I eat like a pig sometimes but still nothing."

I could almost hear all of them saying in a single voice "Bitch!" lol

I did have to force feed her and monitor her eating happen extensively for while.  It was fun actually, but also very helpful to her.  Control food in take is important for any slave I think, but it should be healthy.  A win/win like all D/s should be ;-)

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ORIGINAL: 714Lovin

My former slave had a eating disorder when I first met her, I cured her of that by being strict about her eating, but in the end she got a little plump.  I accepted that to keep her healthy.  My point being is that eating disorders are pretty common so before a Master attempts to regulate a slaves eating habits he should be fully aware of her mental history and what is really healthy for her.  Once that has been determine it is his duty to make sure she is at the weight she should be for physical and metal health.

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ORIGINAL: Faramir

I don't ever talk about or engage in "weight control," "loosing weight" or anything that uses weight as a metric.  I think that is unhealthy, unproductive, and reflects an enfrnachisement in the sick rhetoric we have produced around our bodies and our health. 

The more someone talks and thinks in terms of "weight," "loosing pounds" and "dieting," the farther they move from health, and the physical beauty that springs from health.  I don't believe in conspiracies, but it almost makes you want to think there is one, a conspiracy of the "weigth loss industry" to make people sick, and hate their bodies in their sickness.

I have "enforced" health within a relationship before, but I would really say it was more like coaching, inculcating and modelling.  Health means functional, strong bodies, and a modality for eating that encompasses the rela purpose of food: to fuel us and to be a pleasure.  Food is wonderful--we all deserve to be fed, to be fed well, and to take pleasure in our food.  Once we turn away from the sickness of dieting, the sick, horrible self-loathing of denial, and instead eat joyfully, we can let go of the maladaptions around eating.  We can stop gorging, sneaking, starving, purging, junking, and start eating.

It's such a pleasure to see someone stop being sick, and start being healthy.  To train their bodies to be strong and powerful, and to eat with pleasure and purpose, and to be healthy. 

The impulse and desire to look good, to want to have a healthy, attractive body is good and wholesome.  We should have healthy, attractive bodies that reflect our wholeness and strength.  Form follows function, and once a person stops weighing themselves, and counting calories, and doing portion control, and all the sick, sick, ultimately suicidal tropes of the denial/loss culture, they can start to make their bodies healthy.

And once you are healthy, once you have made your body functionally powerful, you will find that your form reflects it, and you can stop denying, and permit yourself to be ok.

We were made to run, jump, twist, squat down, lift up, push and pull, and once that is pursued, you are on the road to health and beauty.

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

Okay I am taking a big risk here, and I am not trying to start
another friggin fat thread.
Thus said, I am in the process of buying a bathing suit and getting
ready for a long, hot summer and many fun times in the pool.
Of course, I want/need to lose at least 10-15 pounds to feel more comfortable
in my bathing suit.
I wonder if it would be easier, IF I was a submissive and had a Master to help,
make and exert control over what I eat.
How many Masters {men and women} are able to enforce and control their
submissives weight and influence their dietary habits?
Thank you in advance, now let me eat a few more chips and find a cold brew.

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ORIGINAL: winterlight

I notice not many Doms like BBW's. I am a BBW. I have been on both sides of the weight equation. I would love to be thin again. The women on my one Grandmother's side are large and gain weight. I didn't escape it..Also to be honest i don't exercise enough and the bottom line is i love food more than i love me. I have no Dom yet but wonder about the weight issue with most Doms. I had talked to a Dom and He told me i am a Daddy's girl and frankly i don't know what that means. (I am new to the l/s). Been going to munches for over 2 years but have had no play etc.

How would the Dom's in here approach weight loss on a sub like me?

tyvm

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ORIGINAL: winterlight

I notice not many Doms like BBW's. I am a BBW. I have been on both sides of the weight equation. I would love to be thin again. The women on my one Grandmother's side are large and gain weight. I didn't escape it..Also to be honest i don't exercise enough and the bottom line is i love food more than i love me. I have no Dom yet but wonder about the weight issue with most Doms. I had talked to a Dom and He told me i am a Daddy's girl and frankly i don't know what that means. (I am new to the l/s). Been going to munches for over 2 years but have had no play etc.

How would the Dom's in here approach weight loss on a sub like me?

tyvm

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ORIGINAL: JockTrainee190

Eureka---this is more or less the thread I've wanted to see, concerning weight-control and domination dynamics, when I posted on the general board under "sadorexia."

Now, after reading all the male-female stories, I'm wondering in addition if there are any male-male couples who have had this experience, as I did.