velvetears
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ORIGINAL: stella40 Gift of submission? Hmmm. No, not really. Oh yes (and I admit I have thought this way myself once) the gift of 'twue' submission, so precious, so valuable that you bestow your 'gift' on your Dominant in much the same way as the Queen bestows a knighthood on a citizen. Poppycock! This is nothing more than arrogance from the side of the submissive, the big favour. No it isn't. There are no favours. Just two people, two roles, and an agreement to take on one or the other role. Don't get me wrong, submission when it is genuine and real and comes from the heart is precious, it is valuable and to be appreciated, but so too is the time, attention, effort and feelings etc invested into any relationship by a Dominant. And nothing to me can be ever as valuable as the chance or opportunity of the right Dominant for you to show your submission. IMO submission cannot be a gift. A gift, is something like a bunch of flowers, a box of chocolates, a watch, it is complete, whole,and finished. Submission to me is a process. It is where you take all those promises you made to your Dominant and you work at fulfilling each and every one. It is opening up yourself to your Dominant, it is laying yourself bare and vulnerable, so that your Dominant can come into that vulnerable part of you and take control. It is working on the relationship to make it possible, to make anything your Dominant wants possible, and it is showing your Dominant that not only do you accept their control and their authority but you are also worthy and deserving of their attention. Calling yourself Mistress X or Master Y doesn't make you a Dominant, and neither does calling yourself a submissive or a slave make you a submissive. Words can be very beautiful and pretty, but they come cheap and nothing is as precious in a relationship as actions which back up those beautiful words. Words can arouse interest and open a mind, but it's the actions behind the words which are the currency which is needed for the precious commodities of friendship, trust and confidence needed for a successful relationship. Yes, submission can be truly precious and valuable - when it is sincere and honest and genuine. The gift of submission isn't a gift at all but an empty promise, and rather like a good wine, a malt whisky or even a tree, submission grows with time and becomes more precious and valuable the longer it lasts. Submission to me is nothing more than a choice, in that I can choose who I can be submissive with. Therefore I feel 'choice' of submission to be a far more accurate term. Thank you for stating so eloquently and succinctly how i feel on the matter - it mirrors my own thoughts to a tee.
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