SexyRed
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ORIGINAL: SexyRed I dislike the term "gift of submission". When I became aware of my submissive feelings way back when, I never thought of it as a gift. I thought of it as just another facet of my being. And I knew I had to find someone to submit to, and I always understood it as a power exchange and agreement. For some reason, I find it a bit pretentious to call it a gift, because a gift is something you give someone without expecting anything in return, and I for one expect something back when I submit; I expect my needs and his needs to be met. To me, the gift is in meeting the right partner for the exchange. So a gift no, but if viewed in the right context, it is a gift that keeps on giving. If you are a Femmedomme, then why can't a submissive or slave come to you and give you his or her unyealding service WITHOUT any expectations? Do you believe that it is not possible for someone who loves you enough to put aside his or her personal needs in order to cater to your needs? If a submissive or slave is truly dedicated to his or her owner/mistress/master, their only concern is to give of themselves without expecting anything in return. I am probably the only one who is replying to his own post, but I DO apologize for misunderstanding your role or preference, SexyRed. You are not a dominant. I also agree with you that, domination and submission IS a power exchange, because both the dominant and submissive participants are giving and receiving. And to me, that equates to the equalization of energy, and to the circumstance that neither one is essentially giving or getting more than the other. Again, and in the true spirit of giving, one should present a gift to another without any expectation of reciprocation. In other words, there should be no strings attached or conditions placed upon that gift. Thank you for clarifying your point. I am not a dominant but even if I were, I would feel the same way, that this is an exhange, a fluid dynamic and an evolving one, but not a gift.
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