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Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 12:22:43 PM   
bottomwildchild


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hello to all.  i am new to this site.  But, was seeking some advice, or something of that nature.  i am a slave, happily owned, and what i thought was treated well...until...lol...i was loaned out to Master's friend, which is fine by me.  But, i witnessed something that i veiw as unsual.   Ok, and i know this may sound really wacky, and maybe me and Master just have a different way of doing things.   The night i was taken there, we played, and played, had a great time.  At the end of the night, i naturally curled up into my blanket on the floor, and His slave crawled into bed with Him, and snuggled Him, and slept with Him, she wasn't chained, or cuffed.  Master and i maybe are old school in a sense..lol..i only sleep in the bed when He says it's ok, and generally i am always chained.  Anywho..the next morning, she awoke, and didn't bother asking to get up, she just went and did her own thing, and invited me to do so, which mind you i was a little worried about, because in all honestly i am quite controlled.   But, i had noticed all of these beautiful things she has, material items, and such.  While i was helping her do wash, i had commented on how nice her washer and dryer set was,  and i was informed that he had bought these for her because she wanted them and asked.  so, maybe being out of place here, i had asked her, if she asks for things alot.  and she told me yes.  her words were as follows,  "i may be his slave, but i am also his love, and if i am not happy.  Master will not be happy."  of course, i didn't want to have this discussion with my Master.  and i kindly told him i was feeling a little perplexed and needed answers so He pointed me this way.  i do know that everyone has a different way of doing things, and i can respect that.  But, is it normal for a slave girl to be so spoiled?    And is it ok, to want and ask for material things from your Master?  i feel like i am living in the dark ages here..lol.
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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 12:26:02 PM   
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Funny I was asking that earlier.

Basically- whatever works for you.  I'm sure some slaves would say YOU are terribly spoiled to be able to go online and start new threads.  It's all a matter of perspective.

If everyone's fulfilled, that's what matters.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 12:28:48 PM   
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You're not living in the Dark Ages.  You are living as your Master desires for you.  The other slave was living as her Master wished.

From the experience you had, it 'seemed' as if the other couple were just that, a couple, living together.  You can 'believe' that the washer and dryer were hers, but in actuality aren't they the Master's that she gets to use?  Wouldn't any of 'their' possessions be deemed, at least by some, 'his' possessions?

Different people do different things different ways.  Seeing how others live in their natural habitat is nice, but think of it like going to the zoo.  It's best not to become envious if you don't need to be.

Food for thought.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 12:30:31 PM   
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Having a nice washer and dryer in order to take care of his laundry is being spoiled?
Being happy in a relationship is being spoiled?
Not everyone's M/s relationship is going to mirror yours.  How boring would that be.


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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 12:40:42 PM   
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Master and i maybe are old school in a sense..lol..i only sleep in the bed when He says it's ok, and generally i am always chained. 


This isnt "old school", it's the way things go in your master's house.


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Anywho..the next morning, she awoke, and didn't bother asking to get up, she just went and did her own thing, and invited me to do so, which mind you i was a little worried about, because in all honestly i am quite controlled.


Some people have no desire to micro-manage. It's more of a burden to them than anything else.

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But, i had noticed all of these beautiful things she has, material items, and such.  While i was helping her do wash, i had commented on how nice her washer and dryer set was,  and i was informed that he had bought these for her because she wanted them and asked.  so, maybe being out of place here, i had asked her, if she asks for things alot.  and she told me yes.  her words were as follows,  "i may be his slave, but i am also his love, and if i am not happy.  Master will not be happy." 

Okay, so this is the way things go in her master's house.

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of course, i didn't want to have this discussion with my Master.  and i kindly told him i was feeling a little perplexed and needed answers

Is this the first time you've ever witnessed a relationship dynamic that wasnt exactly like yours?

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  But, is it normal for a slave girl to be so spoiled?

I dont believe that being allowed to ask for things you want = spoiled.

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And is it ok, to want and ask for material things from your Master? 

Apparently not for her.
I am wondering why your master sent you to ask us what's okay for you to do in his house.

I know LA already said it, but the bottom line is: Are you both happy in your relationship as it is?


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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 12:44:02 PM   
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It sounds to me like you were buying into what you "thought a slave" should be like and accepting the treatment you got as - this is how life is for a "slave"
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bottomwildchild

i am a slave, happily owned, and what i thought was treated well.



You used past tense - does that mean you now think you were not treated well?  If so you need to rethink what you want, who you want to be, what your needs are, and if these are still in line with your Master's needs, desires, expectations etc, then don't compare yourself in terms of contentment and treatment with other slaves.

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 bottomwildchild

But, is it normal for a slave girl to be so spoiled?   


What is normal?  Shouldn't a Master do as he wishes - which can include spoiling his slave if he so desires to? 

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 12:54:18 PM   
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quote:

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hello to all.  i am new to this site.  But, was seeking some advice, or something of that nature.  i am a slave, happily owned, and what i thought was treated well...until
If you were "happily owned" and "treated well" before you saw how this other slave lived, aren't you still after you saw it?  I mean, nothing changed except you got to see how another lives.

His slave crawled into bed with Him, and snuggled Him, and slept with Him, she wasn't chained, or cuffed.  Master and i maybe are old school in a sense..lol..i only sleep in the bed when He says it's ok, and generally i am always chained. 
This is an oft-discussed subject on here.  Some never sleep in the bed with their Dom/Master, some always do, and everything in between.  I always sleep cuddled up with Master but I have one ankle chained to the bed frame.  Whatever works for each couple. 
While i was helping her do wash, i had commented on how nice her washer and dryer set was,  and i was informed that he had bought these for her because she wanted them and asked.  so, maybe being out of place here, i had asked her, if she asks for things alot.  and she told me yes.  her words were as follows,  "i may be his slave, but i am also his love, and if i am not happy.  Master will not be happy."
I would have to concur here.  Master makes it clear many times each day that, though I am His slave - His owned property - I am also His dearest love.  He enjoys seeing me smile and be happy and fulfilled.  Often, He buys me even just small things that mean so much.  It truly makes Him happy to see His girl happy.
of course, i didn't want to have this discussion with my Master.  and i kindly told him i was feeling a little perplexed and needed answers so He pointed me this way
Speaking of perplexed, I'm a little bit so at the fact that he would point you "this way."  Did he not have a sufficient answer?  Only he can know how he wants your particular relationship to be. 
i do know that everyone has a different way of doing things, and i can respect that.  But, is it normal for a slave girl to be so spoiled?
First of all, "spoiled" is such a subjective term.  I bet you each person who responds to this thread will have a different definition of what it means to them and in their particular relationship.  There are such vast differences in what each sub/slave needs or wants and in what their respective Doms/Masters are willing to permit them.   
And is it ok, to want and ask for material things from your Master?
No one can legitimately tell you what is "ok" to want and ask for.  You have to decide what you need and be willing to speak with your Dom/Master about it.  People on these boards run the gamut from those who would say you have the right to near demand what you feel you need to those who say they wouldn't bat an eye if they were slowly starved or slashed up.  Then there's all of us in between these two poles.  You said you were happily owned and treated well before you spent the night out so I would like to suggest to you not to lose sight of that.  Just because she sleeps in the same bed unchained, gets up and leaves the room when she wants, and has some new home appliances does not guarantee that she has a better, deeper, more fulfilling relationship with her Dom/Master than you do.  Don't let those things dazzle or blind you to what you have with yours.  Good luck....................luci


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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 1:16:25 PM   
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If you want stuff, ask. He might 1) give it to you, 2) refuse the request, 3) tell you it was inapproprate and to not ask again and/or 4) use it as a rewards for good behavior. You won't know until you ask.

What is spoiled to one isn't to another.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 1:17:26 PM   
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My girl cassie is sitting here in my office with me and was reading this thread. We have been as one for almost seven years and there are still things, thankfully, that we learn day to day about each other. She often has come to me and asked how could one person live this way or that and this sparks some rather lovely and often colorful discussions regarding this lifestyle. One of the biggest things that she has learned over the past few years is that the definition of normal is as varied and robust as each person speaking the word.

What works for us may or may not work for others, what is "right" for some may be less than this for others. One of the guiding things that this lifestyle brings is our inate ability to see past most judgements and "fears."

You may be asking yourself what any of the above has to do with this particular thread, well here it is as simple as I can speak of it:

When you entered into your relationship with each other or others you accepted a set of guidlines/rules/ way of life. It does not pertain to anyone outside of your house nor does theirs "intrude" upon your ways. If you look at another relationship and it seems like the old adage "greener pastures" then perhaps it is time to speak with your partner about the dynamics. So many rush in and out of relationships it is often said they wear velcro collars. Many who have been together for years sometimes feel that the "routine" has become stagnant. This tends to lead to "seeing greener pastures"

Remember to each their own, and within their home what is right for them, is right for them. You never have to condone but you should refrain from condeming anything that is "distasteful" to you simply on that basis. Because normal is such a subjective term. The only true way any can judge anothers lifestyle choices is if they walk in that persons shoes for the same period of time they have. This is often forgotten in the mad rush to give advice or "your two cents worth".

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 1:21:16 PM   
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The real question is why does it bother me that this slave is treated this way while I am treated this other way?

When you answer that question for yourself then the old question will handle itself.


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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 1:52:58 PM   
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Archer hit the nail on the head.

You'd really think you lived in the stone age if you saw how my slave and I interact.  We are far more liberated than what you discussed in the OP.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:01:40 PM   
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I would concur with Archer.  There is something about the way she was treated that is bothering you.  I don't know if it's just because you didn't know that slaves could be treated that way, or it's because that is how you would really like to be treated. 

I have had Doms that treated me like nothing more than an object, but I have a Master that treats me like gold.  Make no mistake that I always know that I belong to him, but he doesn't fail to show me how much I am appreciated and loved along with it. 

I don't consider myself spoiled by any means, nor does he.  I do get up every morning without asking, but I am getting up to make his breakfast and prepare things for his day.  I sleep with him every night, falling asleep in his arms with a kiss on the back of my neck as he tells me how much he loves me.  I get my nails done, pedicures, and gifts on occasion.  Along with that though, I always take care of him and please him in any way possible.  Being happy and feeling loved does not equal being spoiled.

We all live in different ways, not one more right than the other.  Some of us have more strict Masters, some are more into micro-managment....others just expect you to know what needs to be done and do it (mine is like this).

As long as you are content in your relationship, it doesn't matter what anyone is doing in theirs.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:05:11 PM   
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As I said in a recent response; evaluate the bait before you swallow the hook. Obviously no one can see how one's relationship will evolve. We have hope for things to move in certain ways; but there is no crystal ball to really see how dynamics and context and relations change over time. Several of the responders talk about how your perception has been altered; how you see the context of another in comparison to you.  You haven't changed; your perception has. Your relationship hasn't changed...the danger is allowing this event to eat away at your previously positive bond. Stuff doesn't make a realtionship. Don't be distracted by stuff. Be the best person you can be within your own personal context. We all can wish our lives away in futile comparisons and competitions. Read some zen. It's all about learning while moving within the illusions in the material world. Refocus and breathe.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:06:47 PM   
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I cant get over you calling her spoiled... Her Master wants her to do the loundry so he buys her a nice washer and drier to make it easier, what you think she should hike to a lake and beat his cloths on a rock?? im not getting how asking for things that you may need to do the things that are expected of you is spoiled? To me  it just seems like good communication. If I waited for  Master to just give me everything I need i wouldnt get a lot of the things I need from him because no matter how well he knows he he still has not learned to read my mind.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:08:53 PM   
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Yeah, that's pretty much how see it too.

And what Archer said.

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Having a nice washer and dryer in order to take care of his laundry is being spoiled?
Being happy in a relationship is being spoiled?
Not everyone's M/s relationship is going to mirror yours.  How boring would that be.

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:10:24 PM   
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quote:

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The real question is why does it bother me that this slave is treated this way while I am treated this other way?

When you answer that question for yourself then the old question will handle itself.




Very well put Sir

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:17:28 PM   
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I suppose spoiled is a relative term... diversity is a wonderous thing.....

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:23:21 PM   
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I believe it is a Master's perogative to treat His slave how He desires.  Not because she has Him wrapped around her little finger, but because it is HIS pleasure that it sought first.

I wouldn't consider myself spoiled per se, but I was raised by parents who went out of their way to make their children happy and healthy individuals in society.  I work hard to get the necessities I need to survive, and to make my Master happy.  Now, Master thinks because of me being my parents' youngest child, I *AM* spoiled, and at times I do get a spoiled attitude that He immediately squelches if it gets too out of hand.  Most of the time, He calls me a spoiled brat all in fun.

Master never wants me to be unhappy, but He does rule with an iron fist and i know my place...if i behave, i get rewarded with His love, affection, compliments, and sometimes material things.  In my opinion, the most important reward is seeing that look of approval in my Master's eyes and feeling His arms around me, petting me and telling me He is proud of me..

That's my two cents...take it as you will..

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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:27:07 PM   
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what you think she should hike to a lake and beat his cloths on a rock??


She gets to use a rock? Man, I have to use my bare fists...and all the water I have is from a mud puddle.
Some girls really live the life, I tell ya.


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RE: Differences between slaves and how they are treated. - 6/7/2007 2:33:04 PM   
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Had a little typo with my original post: 

It should be "...but because it is HIS pleasure that IS sought first"....not "it"....darn typo demons

heather, i have to use my bare fists too! heheheheh *winks*

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