HardnRuff
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ORIGINAL: SweetAndInnocent quote:
ORIGINAL: HardnRuff I was trained as a sub By a Mistress for 2 years . And I am Sooooooooooooo Not a sub . She was very hard on Me , WAY harder than the others in the family. She did that for a reason , I had expressed My views and My interest in the Lifestyle and she suggested this was the best way to learn what it felt like to be on the recieving end of things. It Made Me see what this is all about... I Hated every minute of it at the time .But it was def a growing experience . Just a question here. This is the stance that always makes me not understand why some who know from the beginning they are Dom, submit first. Now, before I begin, please understand I am not referring to "offering service" as Archer talked about. What he described sounded to me much more like a bottom than a submission. It was never about "doing for the Dominant" as much as about "getting what the other needed". Now, back to my original statement. You said you hated every minute of it. If the person who knows they are a Dom, is attempting to submit, and is miserable in the role, won't it then give them a skewed view of submissives? How does it help to understand being on the other side, when submissives enjoy being there? This is really really old school and glbt flavored, which is one of the traditions I came up in. It's because being a D is excercising a privilege. One which isn't yours just because it "feels right" which is a very contemporary reason not to ever do anything you don't want to do, and one I reject. It's a privilege that I felt should be earned in part by subjecting myself to the other position and doing some things I found unpleasant which might be equally as unpleasant to an inexperienced sub/bottom and which I might later insist on for my own pleasure. It created, if not in the eyes of others, in the ones I have to look in the bathroom mirror, a sense that I had worked for my position, knowing all along it was what I wanted, but not just expecting it to be handed to me "because it's what I want" but because I understood as much as I could the responsibility and the effects of my power. Bingo Grlwithboy.... I am glad that You can appreciate this .. So many just dont get that I find .. * Smiles*
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