LotusSong
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Joined: 7/2/2006 From: Domme Emeritus Status: offline
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I finally watched the video. All I saw were the fresh young faces and wondered where the older females were. Then I remembered “Lois”. “Lois” and I have been friends for over 20 years. “Lois” is 63. She got married at 17 to her high school sweetheart and they were married for over 40 years. I recall visiting with her one afternoon when her husband, who was self employed, and had been home on the computer all day, interrupted out conversation to request that she make him a grilled cheese sandwich. She was a bit flustered/embarrassed by him but she complied. She had two sons (young adults) living at home, at the time, also who treated her the same way. “Lois” never worked outside the home. This was her life. A few years ago, she called me to tell me her husband died suddenly of a heart attack. He took care of all the household finances. She was trying to sort through all the paperwork left behind, trying to make sense of it all. His idea of insurance was buying several tv-ad policies that didn’t cover expenses she needed at this time. He was an entrepreneur that would invest and find that the ‘sure thing’ didn’t pan out. She found out just how bad their finances were the collectors came calling. There is a benefit of working as a team, discussing things, sharing ideas and opinions. Her sons have difficulty in finding lasting relationships because of this example they grew up with. What to know the saddest thing? When her husband died, she didn’t miss him all that much and there wasn’t that many “warm” memories. I treat my husband well. I do things for him that I know he enjoys. When he comes home at night, I greet him with a hug and a kiss. I don’t chat his ear off. He grabs a beer and a Lazy-boy comfy chair J I sit with him while he decompresses from the day’s work. I used to have supper ready, but he doesn’t want to eat when he hits the door, so I make sure we have munchies. (summer sausage, cheese and crackers), then if the spirit compels us, we eat later or simply go out. I keep the house neat because that is how we like it.. me more than he. I’m a neat freak. I don’t micro-mange him and he doesn’t micro-manage me. Before you think any lifestyle is the ANSWER, consider what lies ahead. You won’t always be young. You won‘t always be able bodied. You need your friends. Everyone here seems so big on “thinking outside the box”- think things through as if they are going to last. Life isn’t a game. Most of you have needs you haven’t even thought of yet. Laying your life in the hands of another to orchestrate doubles their burden. They have to run their life as WELL as yours.
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Life Lesson #1 I'm not your type. I'm not inflatable.
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