wildnwanton
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Joined: 10/6/2005 Status: offline
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Having lived a very similar life for 8 years, I can say that it has both its good points, and its bad. My last husband and I were not in any specific LS. We were as vanilla as vanilla gets. I stayed at home and took care of the rearing of the children, the upkeep of the house, errands that needed to be ran, I dressed in ways that he found pleasing, cooked the dinners he enjoyed, I shaved him, washed his back, and massaged him every evening. I also helped him with his business by doing the books and taking care of the payroll. I did not do this because I felt that he was stronger, better, bigger, or more important than me. I did it simply because I loved him. I felt it was my duty since he was out earning a living for us all, and bearing the stresses of the outside world, to see to it that when he came home he would find peace and comfort. I wished for him to be in all respects the man of the house, to bear the burden of making the decisions. We rarely argued, our home was peaceful, our lives were quiet, and for a time, extremely happy, or so I thought. But in the course of things, I did lose sight of who I was. I put a lot of my own personal goals on the back burner, and it made me a little bitter after the divorce, to realize that in all the years that I was taking care of his desires, I completely forgot all of my own. But, as with most things in life, things that are given freely out of love are rarely appreciated, they are taken for granted by the person who receives them. He left me for someone much younger. It took me a long time to come to terms with it, but on the whole I have worked through the anger and bitterness. I am not sure if I would be able to give up so much of myself again. I still have trust issues, still get a little bitter when I think about all the things I did to see to his comfort when he cared naught about mine. But I think for the most part, it boils down to allowing everyone to live as they choose. If these women are happy in that life, if this is the way they wish to live, it's not my place to tell them otherwise. Kind of like respecting other's kink, isn't it? We all have the freedom to choose how we wish to live.
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