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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 1:47:32 PM

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A quick answer seems to me is this...Forward the mail asking for tribute to the moderators and this will stop....Tos forbids asking for money or gifts,,,Now if you are fool enought to want to tribute then its your own ass...THIS is why most money dommes ask to to yahoo....bounty

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 1:48:57 PM

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lol what a load fucken codswollop ... do you think you would have gotten as far as you have gotten in your life without the domidong ... you have a penis .. accept it ... the fact you have one has molded your life and your life's experiences ... to pretend nothing in your life has being influenced by the fact you have penis is pathetic ... yes you too, you with the cock .. have being brought ... like anyone ...

Put on a dress and try to pull off the "I've never being brought for the sum of my holes" ... but you have being brought for the sum of your cock.

At least, me as a pro dom and happy with my life and my profession, as well as my other business I run, do it because of the sum of experiences I have had with my Vage ... I'm not going to pretend my life existed without it ... the moisteness I get each time a submissive willingly parts with another hundy or two to experience domination at my hand ... makes me revell in the fact I was born with an inny and not an outty ...

Fuck penis envy ... you boys have fucken VAGE envy in spades... my advice .... LET IT GOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. ...unless you want to chop your boy off .. there ain't much I can do about the fact you have one ...

For FARKSake STAND UP AND LET YOUR COCK BE COUNTED ... and don't moralise bullshit that it hasn't played a part in who you are now ... or professions ...yet moralise a woman's cunt is going to play a part in who she is ...

When a lot of prostitutes are fucked, molested, abused, raped before they join the profession and told they are worth nothing but being a cum receptical by the men in her life ... don't moralise that she should be some holier than though princess who should know better ...

When the world stops treating women like shite ... women might stop saying 'ah ah ... that's two dollar sucky sucky" ..and if she doesn't... more fucken power to her ... and boohoo to the boys in the hood ...

your penis is not some kind of sacred cow ... lol ...for farksake ... plenty of men have whored out their cocks for $$'s ... god bless em ... lol christ ... a recent survey on sexuality stated of their respondents ...more men had been paid for sexual favours than women.. yet, here we go again .. blame the bitch with the slit ... the Whore, the slut ... how dare she put a price on her own body ... yet when there is a fucken 'nother tribute/pro domme thread .. .you boys are out in force, beating your pathethic women are whores for selling their holes line ...

Yet no mention of the boys whoring themselves to the masses ...or do you guys pretend boys don't do that ... like the world use to pretend women didn't orgasm unless a penis was inside her ...

Fuck you guys make me laugh ... stop treating women like shit and demanding they live their life to your pathetic, limiting and oppressive ideals ...

If she wants to be a Whore ... go for your fucken life babe ... be the best Whore the world can get ...

Ps .. .don't ask for clarification ... if you can't work it out .. then more fool you ...

What's that saying ... if it quacks like a duck, then it is a duck ... quack quack ... try thinking like a swan ...

OMG thank you so much! Thats truly made my day. Perfect. Too bad they just won't get it.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 1:50:52 PM

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I am soooooo glad I'm staying out of this one.

Move along, nothing to see here.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 2:40:25 PM

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The only mistresses that ask for tribute are ones that are professional, either part time or full time. Mistresses that only engage in lifestyle bdsm don't ask for tributes. Some lifestyle dominas are also professional domina's who charge submissives they are not in a relationship with.

There have been many times when I have considered exploring the realm of professional domination. My reasons are primarily relationship and experience orriented. As a lifestyle top and domme, I frequently recieve offers from men who want to play with me or be submissive to me.

I rarely play casually. I usually play with an intimate partner who is mine. As a pro-domme, I wouldn't feel the need to view every submissive or bottom as a potential partner who will become my own. Because of this, I have more opportunities to share knowledge and experience that I don't have simply being in the lifestyle. I believe that as a pro-domme, It would be much easier for me to enjoy dominance and bdsm with out all of the wants, needs and desires of a committed relationship.

Another point. Pro-dommes are not the only ones who make money in this lifestyle. There are website designers, fetish fashion designers, toy makers, magazine publishers, book authors and movie directors, who have all made a profit from this lifestyle. Many of these people are proffesionals in the lifestyle who have made with lifestyle better for those who choose to participate. On some days, I hope to become one of them, some one who makes the lifestyle better for those who choose to participate.

There is a saying about professional sex workers: You don't pay them to be girlfriends, you pay them to leave and let you go home to the girlfriend you already have...

With a professional domina, you don't have to be good looking, single, in the same age group, service orriented, with all the same fetishes, a great sense of humor, great personality, simaler taste in music, movies and books, fairly liberal, enjoy volunteer work and computer technology..

As a lifestyle domina, I require a submissive to be good looking, single, poly, in the same age group, service orriented, with all the same fetishes, a great sense of humor, great personality, simaler taste in music, movies and books, fairly liberal, enjoys volunteer work and computer technology. Fortunately, I have a great sub who is all of those things.

But...When I am not in a long term relationship, being a lifestyle domina doesn't necessarily mean I get to play or be served on a regular basis. Actually, being a lifestyle domina means I don't get to play or be served on a regular basis. Professional Dominas are the ones who playing and being served on a daily basis.. and having thier rent paid at the same time.

It's really less of a tribute and more of a tax. The way we add taxes to "sins" such as cigarretes, alcohol and other things that are not good for us. Many people have complained that we can't tax people for being stupid, ugly, married or a milllion other qualities that annoy us, but the pro dommes have found a way around that. And many of them call this tax: a tribute.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 3:57:12 PM

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Let's hear it for the empowerment of woman to feel great about themselves for selling the very holes that the majority of women seem to possess....How Special!!! .Nothing like getting by on simply the holes that you were born with....Too bad there isn't a way to have your brain removed to allow you another space to harbor some cock.

Both men and woman who have chosen to make their living off of the sex trade I have little use for....They tend to be incomplete...Missing something essential....Something special. I can't explain it any further....You don't possess that certain something that would allow you to understand. It actually is rather sad....But you should feel fortunate that you are unable to see it. Maybe in this case ignorance is actually bliss.

Get a grip domi... How typical to resort to insults when I don't share your moral outrage that some girls have learned to use their tits and asses to their benefit.
I'm not saddened or invonvenienced by what people to do with their bodies or their money once they are adults of sound mind. If your having a dick allows you some privilleges, and my having a cunt allows me others, it's all good. I neither hate nor love anyone who does anything with their bodies for their purposes, unless someone is forcing it on me yah see the difference. Oh nah forget it, it is I who lack the ability to see. I value other things in a human being, albeit a nice dick on a gentleman still gets me.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 4:09:10 PM

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i ask for tribute because it shows how the respect me

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 4:44:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMaam

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
Let's hear it for the empowerment of woman to feel great about themselves for selling the very holes that the majority of women seem to possess....How Special!!! .Nothing like getting by on simply the holes that you were born with....Too bad there isn't a way to have your brain removed to allow you another space to harbor some cock.

Both men and woman who have chosen to make their living off of the sex trade I have little use for....They tend to be incomplete...Missing something essential....Something special. I can't explain it any further....You don't possess that certain something that would allow you to understand. It actually is rather sad....But you should feel fortunate that you are unable to see it. Maybe in this case ignorance is actually bliss.
Get a grip domi... How typical to resort to insults when I don't share your moral outrage that some girls have learned to use their tits and asses to their benefit.
I'm not saddened or invonvenienced by what people to do with their bodies or their money once they are adults of sound mind. If your having a dick allows you some privilleges, and my having a cunt allows me others, it's all good. I neither hate nor love anyone who does anything with their bodies for their purposes, unless someone is forcing it on me yah see the difference. Oh nah forget it, it is I who lack the ability to see. I value other things in a human being, albeit a nice dick on a gentleman still gets me. M

As I enjoy a nice tight ass, natural tits that are perky....Long legs and a vagina that doesn't look like it is about to fly away....

Anywhoooo, I just hope for more out of people. I would expect more out of my daughter in what choices she might make for her life just as I would expect more from any woman that I was to be associated with....We act as if that because we are on a bdsm forum that every single activity is to be viewed as hunky dory.....I have always thought prostitution was pretty fucking gross....Not everyone feels that way....I just think that very few women thought when they were a little girl that they were going to be a Pro Domme when they grew up....Yes, they are adults and yes they are dealing with other adults....They are plenty of activities that I participate in that others might find repulsive....Just as I am not receptive to the choices that every adult has made for themselves....

This site seems to be so uptight about the reference to any number of activities that might be construed as being illegal....Yet they turn a blind eye to the Pro's that advertise on this site.....If CM is concerned about revenue seems like charging the folks that make a buck or two off of this site might be a good place to start.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 5:08:24 PM

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The thing that gets me is I cant get paid from the women for doing it. It just doesnt seem fair.....since I've invested so much of my time and money in buying all these darn whips and chains and stuff...and then all the time practicing and learning how to use them just right....it seems I should be allowed to get some return on my investment here.

The problem as I see it is there are just too many guys out there who are willing to give it away for free.

JD

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 5:08:36 PM

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Not every submissive guy sees a Prostitute and a pro Domme as the same thing though. To me, a pro Domme is providing a service in which She has to cover the cost of a dungeon/play area and also the equipement. You are also paying for ( Hopefully ) Her experience. Simple prostitution isnt the same thing.

No offense Domiguy but i think Dom males and submissive males will see this differently.

Jasmyn....

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a recent survey on sexuality stated of their respondents ...more men had been paid for sexual favours than women..

I just cant see this in a million years, a link would be nice please Ma`am

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 6:01:21 PM

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The thing that gets me is I cant get paid from the women for doing it. It just doesnt seem fair.....since I've invested so much of my time and money in buying all these darn whips and chains and stuff...and then all the time practicing and learning how to use them just right....it seems I should be allowed to get some return on my investment here.

The problem as I see it is there are just too many guys out there who are willing to give it away for free.

JD

What they are willing to give away for free you would have to PAY people to take. It's like a load of garbage on your lawn. You can say "It's free for taking, why wouldn't people jump at it?" -- because it has no value and is more work than pleasure to take it. Haul it to the dump yourself.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 6:14:50 PM

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I have been managing a personal on this site for the last month or so and as I sort through the responses and try to get a handle on things, I realize there is a category of men that sadly have no choice but to pay. And they deserve to pay. Period. Because what they are asking a woman to do is basically give him a considerable amount of time to satisfy his needs and is not willing to show any amount of consideration for the value of her time.

There are three types of men:

1. Men I pursue
I find them. I contact them first. I initiate contact. I carry the burden of the conversation - I frankly initiate most of the talking points, I ask the questions, I take the reigns, I show most interest, I push forward if there's a lull, I try to engage, I court, and I send gifts or tokens of my appreciation if I am trying to win his favor. This is a comfortable process for me. It is also a time consuming process. It is time I am happy to invest, because I am the one driving the process - after all, I initiated the contact and continue to push toward higher levels of intimacy with the prospect.

2. Men that pursue me and respect my time
These are the men that contact me first, but seem sincere and are obviously putting effort into it. They ask questions, they try to keep the conversation going. They don't push their fetishes on me. They don't flat out ask for domination. They try to make me laugh, they show me glimpses of their personality. They don't complain to me that I don't respond right away. They try to spark my curiosity.

3.. Men that pursue me and expect me to take control
This is the biggest batch and the biggest time waste. They initiate contact, and then they sit back and seem to expect me to carry the conversation. They send short emails that get shorter. It's as if they believe they get moved into category 1 by just being available. After all, I am the femdom, right? I should be pursuing, asking the questions. They basically have a "Here I am, what can I do for you?" attitude and expect that it's my job to find out what makes them interesting. At least they are not pushing their fetishes on me. They are polite enough, but they are incredibly time consuming and I don't know if they are worth the effort. In a perfect world, these are the guys that would do well to "politely, pressurelessly gift" a domina if they could - a way to say "hey, you mean something to me. Maybe I don't know what I am doing, maybe I am stumbling here, but I am interested and your time is valuable, so here's a gift of appreciation so you will take my advances seriously and know I am not behaving this way out of laziness or insincerity."

4. Men that pursue me, expect me to take control, and bombard me with their fantasies
These guys are a nightmare. It's all about their kink from the start. It's "how can I please you Mistress? I am ready." There's no class or tact in their approach and it's obvious they are just hitting you up because you are online and have a vagina. They feel ENTITLED to be in position #1 and wonder why the orders are not coming fast and furious (you must be a fake) and sometimes you wonder if under all that bad programming there might be someone worth getting to know. But is it worth trying to reeducate them to calm down and treat you like a human being? These are the men that are RIPE to pay for it because they WILL, and they WANT IT so bad they will fold like a cheap tent under the promise of domination if they hand over something material. Is it unfair to tell them that they must go to the back of the line? Or, do you just take their money and gifts as compensation for your time and see what lies underneath, hoping it's something that can be salvaged?

For me, I guess it really comes down to the time investment. A lot of men seem to have a sort of "just try me - trust me, you'll like it" approach. But that "kicking the tires" takes time - more time and effort than I think they realize. For one, we ladies like to get to know a man first. And if we are doing the "interviewing" out of obligation (vs. the lustful pursuing, like category #1) it's really no more exciting than a job. If it's a job, we expect to be paid. More to the point, if a submissive wants "training" to be his version of "Just try me, you'll like it!" I would expect he should pay or gift the femdom to assure she's not totally wasting her time on him. Then if she is blown away, rest assured he won't have to pay again.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 6:19:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Not every submissive guy sees a Prostitute and a pro Domme as the same thing though. To me, a pro Domme is providing a service in which She has to cover the cost of a dungeon/play area and also the equipment. You are also paying for ( Hopefully ) Her experience. Simple prostitution isn't the same thing.

No offense Domiguy but i think Dom males and submissive males will see this differently.

Jasmyn....
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a recent survey on sexuality stated of their respondents ...more men had been paid for sexual favours than women..

I just cant see this in a million years, a link would be nice please Ma`am

So we're at it AGAIN? This subject seems to come up every other week. Domiguy, you obviously have some baggage. Don't know who she was, but she left quite a mess.
As Politesub has pointed out, there are costs to be covered. I take classes, attend events, read, network, practice, practice, practice, and put about half of what I earn back into my dungeon. It doesn't look anything like it did when I started, but I continue to charge the same amount. My fetish wardrobe didn't come free either.
The services I supply would make the common prostitute run for the hills. I don't take everyone. Money is not the only factor. They have to be clean, respectful, and I don't cater to every fetish out there.
Like it or not, there's a place for pro dommes and there always will be. If Collarme wants to charge me a monthly fee, I'll pay it as long as it's reasonable. They probably won't because there are a lot of subs on this site searching for pro dommes.
I don't always demand monetary tribute either. Have a skill? Willing to work? I've offered to barter many, many times but men don't want that. They want to pay and go back home to their vanilla life.
Fire away cause I'm outa here. Someone else can pick up where I left off.
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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 6:47:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Not every submissive guy sees a Prostitute and a pro Domme as the same thing though. To me, a pro Domme is providing a service in which She has to cover the cost of a dungeon/play area and also the equipement. You are also paying for ( Hopefully ) Her experience. Simple prostitution isnt the same thing.

No offense Domiguy but i think Dom males and submissive males will see this differently.

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You think that might be because almost all pro-dommes do not have sex with their clients? lol.

Edited to thank all the ladies, and supportive subs who put their marvelous answers in.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 8:11:55 PM

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Not everyone feels that way....I just think that very few women thought when they were a little girl that they were going to be a Pro Domme when they grew up....

I can think of few things I'd enjoy more than dominating men and getting paid for it... The only reason I don't do it is because my domination inevitably ends with sex. Not everything we do is hunky dory, and I'm plenty judgemental, but that doesn't mean I can only cope with people who think exactly like me; I have my boundaries, I just think they are a little different from yours. M

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 10:17:34 PM

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I think what some guys get sick of are the dommes that whine and complain all the time. They either whine that they can't find any good subs or that their email box is loaded with losers, etc...etc... etc... How many threads have we had on that? If you are a REAL dominant woman, why arn't you going out and finding what YOU want? It seems to me most dommes put together a profile or a website even and wait for the guys to come after them.

Seems to me that if a woman is truely dominant, she would be confident enough and strong enough to make the first move and go out and hunt for the man she wants. But it seems most dommes would rather be the prey.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/24/2007 10:23:41 PM

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Seems like the dommes are not the one whining on this thread...............just sayin.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/25/2007 2:02:31 AM

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Playing with my vowels again huh Ma`am

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/25/2007 4:30:06 AM

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...deep sigh... because we can and we are allowed to do so.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/25/2007 4:52:20 AM

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I think what some guys get sick of are the dommes that whine and complain all the time. They either whine that they can't find any good subs or that their email box is loaded with losers, etc...etc... etc... How many threads have we had on that? If you are a REAL dominant woman, why arn't you going out and finding what YOU want? It seems to me most dommes put together a profile or a website even and wait for the guys to come after them.

Seems to me that if a woman is truely dominant, she would be confident enough and strong enough to make the first move and go out and hunt for the man she wants. But it seems most dommes would rather be the prey.

ROFLMAO!!!! Yes, all us "unreal dommes" should get out there and get these brilliant subs. Why aren't we "true"? What are we waiting for? Um, some brilliant subs, maybe?

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 10/25/2007 6:29:35 AM

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Fast reply:

You know what? If I were a domme, I'd be charging all you dumasses too.

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