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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 11:09:48 AM

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OK, here's the Libertarian answer: Dommes charge because they can, and because the subs are willing to pay. If male doms were in high demand, and female subs were in plentiful supply and willing to be dominated by just about any male who called himself a dom, then male doms would be able to charge for their "services" too.

The original question in this forum makes no more sense than asking why doctors charge, or why they charge so much more than hair stylists. They do it because people (or, actually in the case of doctors, insurance companies) are willing to pay them that much.

Anyone who is able and willing to provide a service for which other people are willing to pay, has every right to charge a fee. If a domme is asking for too much money and providing a service that isn't worth that much to enough people, then she'll have to lower her rates or go out of business. That's the way it works, and that's the way it's supposed to work.

If you don't want to pay the domme, then don't. No one is forcing you.

Very reasonable. :)

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 11:16:53 AM

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I love that things like this seem to get dredged up again after a while of being left to nothing. I think it shows that history does in fact repeat itself.
I still maintain My formerly stated opinion. But I do want to add one final thing...

The fist thing you say in this life is "I CHOOSE" .

Choose to do it or not do it. But dont bitch about the ones that do to the ones that dont. Its none of any ones damned business what dynamics any given relationship has.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:08:43 PM

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i have been checking out a lot of the MISTRESSES here but all or most want finnacial tribute. That is something which will come on its own later . why at startup?

It is a sad state of affairs, when we men are reduced to having to buy a way into conversation. Nobody is worth your degrading yourself to talk with them.

I know all my male and female friends agree with this. It's contemptuous, and the only time either person should be buying presents is after having interactions. A lesser poison would be buying every women in a bar a drink with at least a guarenteed conversation for 5 minutes. Rationalization of this behavior, is just a cover-up for this beta trait.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:10:58 PM

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If yall stopped catering to it because you lead with your cocks-it would stop.

Maybe some cold showers are in order-rather than whining?

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:11:40 PM

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i have been checking out a lot of the MISTRESSES here but all or most want finnacial tribute. That is something which will come on its own later . why at startup?

It is a sad state of affairs, when we men are reduced to having to buy their way into a conversation.

I know all my male and female friends agree with this. It's contemptuous, and the only time either person should be buying presents is after having interactions. A lesser poison would be buying every women in a bar a drink with at least a guarenteed conversation for 5 minutes. Rationalization of this behavior, is just a cover-up for this beta trait.

Indeed....one of these days when they get everything all dialed in correctly (see www.realdoll.com), the game will change hahahahaha.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:17:09 PM

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Oh fuck. I can't stand it

We DON'T CARE if you don't like it!!!!!

Don't like it? Don't do it. Don't whinge and whine about it. Because you are boring the shit out of us and we've heard it a billion times before.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:17:59 PM

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i have been checking out a lot of the MISTRESSES here but all or most want finnacial tribute. That is something which will come on its own later . why at startup?

It is a sad state of affairs, when we men are reduced to having to buy their way into a conversation.

I know all my male and female friends agree with this. It's contemptuous, and the only time either person should be buying presents is after having interactions. A lesser poison would be buying every women in a bar a drink with at least a guarenteed conversation for 5 minutes. Rationalization of this behavior, is just a cover-up for this beta trait.

Indeed....one of these days when they get everything all dialed in correctly (see www.realdoll.com), the game will change hahahahaha.

Amazing what some men will lower themselves to at the possible interaction with a women. I don't know any woman who would say "I want a man, who cant socialize, pays me money, tells me i'm beautiful all the time".

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:24:34 PM

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Oh fuck. I can't stand itWe DON'T CARE if you don't like it!!!!!

Don't like it? Don't do it. Don't whinge and whine about it. Because you are boring the shit out of us and we've heard it a billion times before.

These guys need to try putting up a fake Domme profile sometime, and see what comes oozing out of the woodwork, then they would understand the word "filter".

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:30:54 PM

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Not that I couldn't sit and read all the pages and pages already posted on this subject...but the first one has be about gagging.

Tribute (in my opinion) is something for suckers...and borderline prostitution. If your paying her for "nothing" other than her 'mind blowing' profile and pictures...someone SHOULD be taking your money from you. And if you paying her for something physical...well...need I say more? I find that most of these women sound like the BDSM version of My Super Sweet Sixteen...give me give me give me. For nothing.

MY OPINION - Unless giving away your money is "your thing"...stay away from these women.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 5:57:26 PM

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Unfortunately, so many Mistresses do think that they can ask for or demand tribute. And in one hand they can be considered to be a Pro Domme. And others seem to use a tribute in order to weed out the time wasters and the ones that are just not interested in anything but sex.

My choice is not to pay any kind of tribute. I believe myself to be better than that. I hope that one will find me and appreciate me for who I am.

However... On the mention of Tributes here on Collarme. They are not allowed and you can actually report a profile for asking for them. It s concidered to be a scam. This isn't to say that every mistress who asks for a tribute is scamming. but some do.

Scam #8 - Requests for "tribute"

This scam is typically perpetrated by persons (male or female) claiming to be dominant women. Commonly, the scammer will claim that they are inundated with messages and that you need to send them a "tribute" (money) to prove your sincerity before they will speak with you further. Typically, but not always, they will request that you send the money via an Amazon Gift Certificate. Not uncommonly, once the money is received, the scammer will stop responding to messages or delete their account. So, before sending anyone 'tribute', remember that your only reward may be a lower bank balance.

Fortunately we all have a choice. A Mistress can choose to require a tribute, and a submissive can choose to ignore those profiles. You choose what's best for you. I have made my choice and I await my Mistress.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/23/2008 6:06:26 PM

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well said kerin. It's all about CHOICE.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/24/2008 6:42:20 AM

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I believe myself to be better than that

It is one thing to not be interested in pay for pro domination for yourself...but it is another to be thinking your non paying status makes you better than someone who does...it doesn't ... it merely makes the choices for yourself different to theres.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 1/25/2008 5:20:20 PM

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Sorry I didn't go through all the post here, but why are we only talking about a submissive's need here. I dominant female also has needs !! She also has to urge to dominate a submissive similarly like a submissive has a urge to be dominated by a dominant. A submissive is also satisfying a dominant female with her needs.

They are not offering us anything special, it is just a mutual exchange. U like to dominate, I like to get dominate, and if we can get the chemistry right then............ No body genuine does it for the money. If u are selling your self for others sexual needs then it is prostitution. And if not prostitution then a form of prostitution.

A BDSM relationship is like any other relationship, in a broader sense ofcourse. I also has to have love, trust and respect, thought the protocol is different. And when it is a relationship money is not a issue. People do buy gifts once in a while for there girlfriends or wifes or boyfriends or husbands but dont charge money to sleep with them.

I compare pro domme with the call girls in the normal world ( no offence to pro dommes ). For a sub male, being submissive is largely attached with his sexual feelings, in the sense it turns them on, so when some lady is charging money to satisfy somebody sexually then she is not very different from a prostitute.

It is only a game of numbers, there are too many male subs than the number of dominant females. Imagine if it was just the opposite. Then probably subs could have asked money to be played with. Here.. I think u get a answer why they CAN..

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 5/18/2008 1:35:18 PM

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The idea that someone would pay someone else to Dominate them is repugnant to me personally. My definition does NOT include casual play/hook ups though so I can understand how someone seeking that would need to. How can ANYONE dominate or submit to anyone else wthout some kind of connection?? It reads of fantasy and fuckery and seems like an incredible waste of time and resources. Imagine the shame and self loathing someone must feel after paying an over weight unattractive unhealthy middle aged woman for any kind of company. But hey.. If it gets them off then by all means live your kink.. but it reeks of parasitisim

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 5/18/2008 2:18:34 PM

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G'afternoon all:

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The idea that someone would pay someone else to Dominate them is repugnant to me personally. My definition does NOT include casual play/hook ups though so I can understand how someone seeking that would need to. How can ANYONE dominate or submit to anyone else wthout some kind of connection?? It reads of fantasy and fuckery and seems like an incredible waste of time and resources. Imagine the shame and self loathing someone must feel after paying an over weight unattractive unhealthy middle aged woman for any kind of company. But hey.. If it gets them off then by all means live your kink.. but it reeks of parasitisim

Then again, why would anyone want a slovenly man, who can't figure out that undershirts belong ~under~ clothing, that a white man does NOT look cool with his baseball cap back wards, is so narrow minded, too lazy to use spell check or use proper grammar? Why should any female dominant deign to lower her standards? Just a thought...

If the female dominant has services that someone wants to pay for, why should you concern yourself and be so virulent about your opinion? Especially on a 4 month old thread? I personally don't advocate financial domination or professional domination, since it reduces the power exchange down to dollars and cents but I remain indifferent to it's existence because it serves a vital purpose. Whenever some "do-me" submissive sends me a list of his fetishes with the desire for my to fulfill them, I merely direct him to the nearest BDSM directory for the ladies who do participate in the afore named situation. It would be nice to be viewed as more than a whip with a heartbeat.

Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 5/18/2008 4:54:30 PM

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i have been checking out a lot of the MISTRESSES here but all or most want finnacial tribute.

because saying the word "remuneration" makes their mouth look funny...

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 5/18/2008 7:58:26 PM

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Because dealing with your sorry ass is a lot more work and a lot less fun than you might imagine?

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i have been checking out a lot of the MISTRESSES here but all or most want finnacial tribute. That is something which will come on its own later . why at startup?

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 5/18/2008 9:02:58 PM

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Do you know how much a dirigible costs?!? Any domineering mad genius who wants to take over the world with her sadistic feminine wiles needs to start early!

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 5/18/2008 9:06:34 PM

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It's all about choice-really twuely it is.

Pay or go away, cheap bastards.

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RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? - 5/18/2008 9:11:03 PM

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