beltainefaerie
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I really hope that the OP doesn't take down this thread, because it has had some interesting gems in it. Although i am not entirely sure what illicited the arguing that has gone on, I have really appreciated the honesty and thought that went into the comments and replies. I think that Sulieman has had some of the most amazing descriptions, that I truly identify with. Thank you. My Master brought the switching out of me by having me top his wife and my sisterslave. I suppose it statred out still subbing, as I was doing his bidding, but I realized that I really was having fun beating her. Over time, I have found a dominant side I didn't even know I had and now have one sub of my own. However, it doesn't lessen my devotion or submission to my Master. If anything it heightens it, because he found anyother gem inside me to encourage me to polish and hone. The fact that he sees so clearly what I am and loves me for it makes me treasure and desire to please him all the more. I would never want to watch my Master dominated, because for him it would be wrong. If he was a switch, i think i would be one who delighted in watching his happiness, however that manifested. I believe that would be true for me, because watching my husband with another partner is one of the most sexy, beautiful things I have ever had the pleasure to witness. I think that many people can't understand switching just as many clearly straight or gay folks don't like acknowledging the bisexuals. For many gay folks, they tried to fit society's mold and pretended to be straight until they were ready to come out. For some straight folks, they engaged in adolescent experimentation that ultimately didn't float their boat, and they veered away from it. I think that too many people can't fathom experience beyond their own, so if they hid or experimented before they found themselves, they don't understand those of us that found both sides of the coin to be fulfilling. If they have only dominant or only submissive desires, it is difficult to understand why anyone would have both. Ultimately, i think it is merely a lack of vision for the Otherness in people that makes us think anothers path is less worthy than our own. However, that said, I think that rejecting a certain kind of partner but still having respect for the group is vastly different than those that distain one group or another. I don't care who you choose to bring to bed or not, I merely mind when people are condescending or dismissive to those that make choices different than their own. There is a huge difference between stating, "I wouldn't become involved with a switch, because..." and saying, "One shouldn't become involved with switches". One is a preference and the other is a judgement, and the judgement is what feels condescending and obnoxious.
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