TigerNINTails
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Now LadyHugs, that was finally a concise response, and if I'm the only person that understood it for what it was, I'm sorry for those that don't. Perhaps they'll need to take a course in remedial English. I understood what you were getting at, even if you were speaking in some (and in all honesty, I can understand the perception of silliness... You might too, if you re-read your original post) major absolutes, that didn't convey properly what you just wrote. But I can see that was what you were trying to get at. We all, as BDSM'ers in any portion of the lifestyle, and adhering to the philosophies of SSC (though sanity is thoroughly questioned) and RACK, need to acknowledge at least a general standard of safety and consent, as well as knowledge and understanding of the safe use of the "tools" (and that's what they are, despite peoples general insistence to call them toys) of the trade(s)/art(s). But I think most people here are in agreement with that. Or most of it, at anyrate. And there is a problem with people jumping in willi nilli and seriously injuring people and then pointing fingers at the rest of us that do practice safely, with concern for our partners well being. However, I'm not sure as to how rampant a problem this is. Anyone got any figures? I've always been of the opinion and practice that if I haven't used a tool or had a tool used on me first, I wouldn't use it on another... This of course doesn't include my cock, considering it's not detachable. Merc, you stated: "Hell - I don't know if we even qualify as 'real'. We always say we 'are'. There is nothing to understand other than when you are with us you are seeing us as we are, as we live, as it is - for us." From every response I've seen from you, they've always been genuine... And for one, I have to say you're real without a doubt. Just keep being you brother. As for the OP: I identify more as a sensual sadist... I enjoy using pain as a tool to enhance pleasurable sensations, but I do also enjoy inflicting pain even during discipline and punishment, and during those times, the pain is not there for my slut (and she's a pain slut also) to enjoy. The fact that she's a pain slut just means that it doesn't matter when I decide to inflict pain, she's up for it more often than not. There are indeed some forms of pain that she thoroughly dislikes, and others she absolutely gets off on... So my tools are chosen, dependent on the purpose behind the activity. I thoroughly enjoy pain for pains sake, and it's entirely only enjoyable because of her reactions to it. I enjoy it when she enjoys it, and I enjoy it when she doesn't. I love to make her eyes glossy with tears, to hear the suffering in her whimpers and crys... But I also love to hear her her get off on it as well, and it doesn't matter to me either way whether she enjoys it, when it comes to my pleasure from it... It does matter to me whether she enjoys her discipline and punishment tremendously more, considering that if she's enjoying something to keep her in line, or to show her the line she just crossed, then it's rewarding her, and I can't let that happen. The distinction of whether or not I'm being a "service Top" when I'm inflicting pain, just because she happens to enjoy it is irrelevent to me, considering the simple distinction that I'd be doing it regardless. She is submitting to it in my service, and ultimately gains pleasure from that service, whether she's enjoying the pain or not. I also agree that a good mind-fuck involving pain undelivered, might well be the ultimate sadistic torture for a pain-slut... As it was posted by KnightofMists above. I personally, off the top of my head can't think of one that's better. Alright... Off to bed I go... Peace.
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Consistent Discipline Renders Punishment Unnecessary
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